Wife Spending Too Much

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I admit I was wrong. I realize this is not our of the normal for a first time mom. I do have a wonderful wife who is very much type A and organized. I appreciate her and she knows that.

I do help out though. We have been cleaning and organizing. We just moved into our condo and I have been getting everything ready. I have done most of in store shopping. I’ve been putting together the nursery and also helping with cooking and freezing meals. She is quitting her job to stay at home but I will be helping out as much as I can with the house and the baby.

people here love to beat up the husband. You're doing great. I'm a sahm and I don't expect anything out of my husband. You'll probably do more than my husband does. I'm not complaining - we each give 100%.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We bought the nursery furniture ( crib, dresser, and glider) and a stroller travel system. We got most of the big ticket items at our baby shower ( virtual) but she did buy the rest of the stuff she wanted on the registry.

She said she is worried about taking baby out in a pandemic with cold/flu season. She bought the stuff we normally buy in doubles ( meat, pantry items, and paper products). She bought in bulk baby diapers and wipes because she worries they will go out of stock like they did a couple of months ago. She bought a bunch of paper products and cleaning products. She says it’s smart and that she is preparing for us to not have to go out or worry about needing this stuff. She has also made and froze a bunch of meals to eat when once the baby gets here for dinner.

Is she about 7 months along?
This is totally normal behavior. Maybe you should get a parenting book.

Do you know anything about physical and psychological changes women go through during pregnancy? Pretty soon, she is going to start getting up multiple times at night to pee. About three days after the baby is born, she is going to have a huge hormone shift and start crying all of the time about nothing for a few days.

OP here. No. We are having a baby at the end of the month. She’s like 37 weeks pregnant.

You are about to become a family of 3 , possibly in a matter of days! You should feel ashamed of yourself, that your wife was the one to do all this. be grateful she is trying to plan ahead.

OP here. I have done a lot too. Painting and putting the nursery together. I didn’t know all of this was necessary.

yes. it increases as you get closer to the birth, starting around 7 months.

And continues increasing, right up to college.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I admit I was wrong. I realize this is not our of the normal for a first time mom. I do have a wonderful wife who is very much type A and organized. I appreciate her and she knows that.

I do help out though. We have been cleaning and organizing. We just moved into our condo and I have been getting everything ready. I have done most of in store shopping. I’ve been putting together the nursery and also helping with cooking and freezing meals. She is quitting her job to stay at home but I will be helping out as much as I can with the house and the baby.

do things, not “help”. You are to be a full spouse and parent, not just helping from time to time.

+1.

[Anonymous]

OP, haven’t read the thread, but I agree that she is nesting. As long as it’s mostly stuff that you normally buy, but in bulk, it’s fine.

1. Check that you have 3 months of TP and hand soap. When she goes into labor, fill all of the soap dispensers in the bathrooms, and dump 24 rolls TP on the floor of each bathroom. Absolute life-saver.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree with most of the posts here that suggest that if you have money it's no big deal to waste it on frivolous purchases. Stocking up is no big deal, I'm sure she spent less than $500 on supplies, etc. and you will eventually use this stuff. A $1,200 bassinet is crazy and a giant waste of money for something the baby will be in a month or two. I would return the bassinet and start discussing large purchases going forward.

Most people reading this are aware that the bassinet he refers to is the snoo. If it works for his baby, it will be worth every cent in extra sleep AND it has a resale value of about $800. If it does not work, it can be returned within a 30 day window of delivery. So this purchase is a bit unique and unlike other high ticket purchases.

My friend waxes eloquent about the Snoo. I am rather jealous that we couldn’t afford one.