The house is SHARED SPACE SIL

[Anonymous]

There is no way op was planning on going in the next two weeks. Text back and say glad the kids are having fun we are using the week of-------

[Anonymous]

Look in the mirror op

[Anonymous]

Well I can see why you and your in-laws/your DH and his brother don't get along. But the problem isn't them

[Anonymous]

I don’t think you understand the meaning of “squatting.”

[Anonymous]

Why on earth does it matter that they are teachers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why on earth does it matter that they are teachers?

I'm sure OP meant it as they have their summer open because they don't have to worry about submitting vacation requests. But it just made her sound more snobby than she already is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you understand the meaning of “squatting.”

Mm excuse me. They are there for TWO weeks and it just so happens to be the two weeks OP wanted to be there. They just claim the house for themselves. Why should OP have to give.a.heads.up when they would like to use.it?

[Anonymous]

DH simply needs to get together with any other siblings to clarify dates/times. If in any way it's used as a rental, I'd want to return that to the public so you don't lose revenue. My concern would be that they aren't losing their actual home and just not telling anyone. I had a friend who's sibling squatted in a shared home until they told everyone 'surprise, we defaulted on our home and have moved here'. The siblings had to boot them out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH simply needs to get together with any other siblings to clarify dates/times. If in any way it's used as a rental, I'd want to return that to the public so you don't lose revenue. My concern would be that they aren't losing their actual home and just not telling anyone. I had a friend who's sibling squatted in a shared home until they told everyone 'surprise, we defaulted on our home and have moved here'. The siblings had to boot them out.

They are there for 2 weeks. This is hardly a squatting scenario.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you understand the meaning of “squatting.”

Mm excuse me. They are there for TWO weeks and it just so happens to be the two weeks OP wanted to be there. They just claim the house for themselves. Why should OP have to give.a.heads.up when they would like to use.it?

OP, you know it's because you are expecting them to give you a heads up, and you never notified them either. Nice try though.

[Anonymous]

There are multiple siblings and as of June 1 NONE of them had set out a schedule of use? This was inevitable. Your DH needs to send a message now saying, "Great you guys got a jump on vacationing. Are you planning on staying just these two weeks? If so, let's set up a schedule now so Sibling 2, Sibling 3, and I know when to go. I think the quarantine kept us too occupied to work that out before we started vacationing. Sibling 2 and 3 - do either of you have strong feelings about what weeks you'd like to be there? We can all try to be flexible, but if someone has specific needs, let's accommodate."

I think they need to spell out calendars long in advance. A friend with a shared sibling home has each of them mark an equal number of weeks on a shared calendar. She and her sister agree that some of their time will overlap because their kids are playmates. (Say Anna takes weeks 1, 2 and Beth takes 3, 4 but both actually stay there together on weeks 2 and 3. So technically they get an extra week there but it's agreed in advance that it's shared and they don't get any more than their other siblings who also take 2 weeks. One week is always a free for all reunion and any of them can go. It seems to work well and they all get to use it as they want.

[Anonymous]

OP you and your DH sound crazy.

They are shared owners. They don't need your permission.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
They didn’t even ask before showing up. Yes, we were slow on the uptake if weeks (we are busy) but who just shows up at a shared property for two weeks and then sends pictures bragging about amazing it is. It is shared space and they should have at least sent a text or email asking if it was cool
For their family to use the property.

You don’t have the backstory. BIL is historically and categorically aggressive over the shared property. He acts and thinks of it as his own private home. Is it too much to ask that he and his family give a heads up to siblings before they go em masse?

It’s not passive aggressive. It’s aggressive. He wants the property and he is squatting.

You and your husband are idiots...glad your BIL’s family is having fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you understand the meaning of “squatting.”

Mm excuse me. They are there for TWO weeks and it just so happens to be the two weeks OP wanted to be there. They just claim the house for themselves. Why should OP have to give.a.heads.up when they would like to use.it?

OP, you are hilariously stupid.

[Anonymous]

I am glad that in this time of divisiveness and we uncertainty, we can all come together around this one issue and agree, across all races, genders, religions, and political leanings, that OP is crazy.