The house is SHARED SPACE SIL

[Anonymous]

OP seems to be very triggered and envious.

Maybe OP thinks that SIL sent the pictures of her children to make her jealous and rub her face in it.

SIL SUCCEEDED.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
They didn’t even ask before showing up. Yes, we were slow on the uptake if weeks (we are busy) but who just shows up at a shared property for two weeks and then sends pictures bragging about amazing it is. It is shared space and they should have at least sent a text or email asking if it was cool
For their family to use the property.

You don’t have the backstory. BIL is historically and categorically aggressive over the shared property. He acts and thinks of it as his own private home. Is it too much to ask that he and his family give a heads up to siblings before they go em masse?

It’s not passive aggressive. It’s aggressive. He wants the property and he is squatting.

I'm so confused. So they showed up and no one else was using it. What's the big deal?

I'd be pissed if I had reserved it for a certain time and they showed up before me and took my time, but you hadn't reserved it, and clearly had no intention to because you also failed to send out a text or email asking if it was cool.

Sounds like you don't want to ask ahead of time, but you expect everyone else to.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uh.

If you guys share a vacation house, you should work out a system for deciding who gets which weeks.

+1

Spoiled.

[Anonymous]

OP, just SAY SOMETHING next time. Plan your time there. This is a no-problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did your husband use his words and tell the brother that he was hoping to go there at that time?

This.

DH needs to grow a pair, pick up the phone, and work out a fair arrangement.

Point blank period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
They didn’t even ask before showing up. Yes, we were slow on the uptake if weeks (we are busy) but who just shows up at a shared property for two weeks and then sends pictures bragging about amazing it is. It is shared space and they should have at least sent a text or email asking if it was cool
For their family to use the property.

You don’t have the backstory. BIL is historically and categorically aggressive over the shared property. He acts and thinks of it as his own private home. Is it too much to ask that he and his family give a heads up to siblings before they go em masse?

It’s not passive aggressive. It’s aggressive. He wants the property and he is squatting.

Then this needs to be handled. Set up a system for deciding who gets what and when.
Two weeks is not squatting.

[Anonymous]

Crickets from OP. I guess she didn’t like the answers she got.