DH just asked for a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Who are all these people with the crazy advice? The husband put forth a reasonable plan. Move on with it.

Divorce sucks OP. And sucks even more with lawyers involved sending you big bills every month to eventually get to an agreement you could have had for free.

[Anonymous]

The problem with a trial separate is that usually one of the parties wants to reconcile and the other doesn't. And based on the dynamics in your original post, I wouldn't be surprised if you are the one who doesn't want to reconcile.
Offer marriage counseling at this point.

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Anonymous wrote:Manage to get fired now, and then stick him with the bill.

Cannot do this. You will get smacked upside the head by a judge. And formulas are based on income potential anyway. They will impute income of you deliberately try to get fired.

Income potentials are significantly reduced these days. In case you haven’t heard.

Irrelevant. Stop giving shitty legal “advice.”

Nope. COVID has changed everything.

Honey, bless your ignorant heart and stop projecting your fantasies about how these things work. Some of us have actually been through the process.

[Anonymous]

Alcoholic father means messed up family dynamics. Your marriage didn't stand a chance unless you figured this out.

[Anonymous]

Team husband. He’s right, you just never heard him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are all these people with the crazy advice? The husband put forth a reasonable plan. Move on with it.

Divorce sucks OP. And sucks even more with lawyers involved sending you big bills every month to eventually get to an agreement you could have had for free.

It is reasonable but I'd have him move out now if he's that unhappy. No need to drag things out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Total loser. He should embrace your alcoholic father and hard-line right-wing relatives instead of avoiding them.

Lol.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Manage to get fired now, and then stick him with the bill.

Cannot do this. You will get smacked upside the head by a judge. And formulas are based on income potential anyway. They will impute income of you deliberately try to get fired.

Income potentials are significantly reduced these days. In case you haven’t heard.

If she worked throughout the duration of their marriage, she’s not getting alimony in a divorce. Even SAHMs only get alimony for a short time and are expected to go back to work fairly quickly.

There is so much terrible advice on this thread, I’m a little baffled.

[Anonymous]

Where do you live? Are you not under a stay at home order? If so, was part of his issue that you violated quarantine? I am in MoCo wouldn’t be ok with my husband going to a large family gathering during this time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Manage to get fired now, and then stick him with the bill.

Cannot do this. You will get smacked upside the head by a judge. And formulas are based on income potential anyway. They will impute income of you deliberately try to get fired.

Income potentials are significantly reduced these days. In case you haven’t heard.

Irrelevant. Stop giving shitty legal “advice.”

Nope. COVID has changed everything.

Honey, bless your ignorant heart and stop projecting your fantasies about how these things work. Some of us have actually been through the process.

Oh I have no doubt you’ve had a lot of failure in your life.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, this is a question. Husband does not want interaction with alcoholic racists relatives. Smart thing would be to try Couples therapy or something. Otherwise Set him free. His custody will limit your toxic family interactions.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Manage to get fired now, and then stick him with the bill.

Cannot do this. You will get smacked upside the head by a judge. And formulas are based on income potential anyway. They will impute income of you deliberately try to get fired.

Income potentials are significantly reduced these days. In case you haven’t heard.

Irrelevant. Stop giving shitty legal “advice.”

Nope. COVID has changed everything.

She's not saying her income has changed.. stop making stuff up. This one person is inappropriate.

Have him move out and file. Or, you go file. You don't need an attorney but consult with one in case it gets ugly. Decide who pays child expenses above the $500 and make a custody schedule. Sell the house, find a cheaper place to live and find someone who really loves you for who you are.

I still think he's having an affair.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Manage to get fired now, and then stick him with the bill.

Cannot do this. You will get smacked upside the head by a judge. And formulas are based on income potential anyway. They will impute income of you deliberately try to get fired.

Income potentials are significantly reduced these days. In case you haven’t heard.

If she worked throughout the duration of their marriage, she’s not getting alimony in a divorce. Even SAHMs only get alimony for a short time and are expected to go back to work fairly quickly.

There is so much terrible advice on this thread, I’m a little baffled.

I think some women are sharing their fantasies about how this all works.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who are all these people with the crazy advice? The husband put forth a reasonable plan. Move on with it.

Divorce sucks OP. And sucks even more with lawyers involved sending you big bills every month to eventually get to an agreement you could have had for free.

It is reasonable but I'd have him move out now if he's that unhappy. No need to drag things out.

Exactly. Having been divorced with kids and having lots of divorced friends I would say to literally just move on as quickly as possible. Do what it takes. Take some weekends to do whatever you need to clear your head, binge drink and smoke, cry, stay with your parents and cry, whatever it may be, but you need to embrace that this change is gonna happen and move on. Be thankful he’s not being a dick up front on these issues.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Manage to get fired now, and then stick him with the bill.

Cannot do this. You will get smacked upside the head by a judge. And formulas are based on income potential anyway. They will impute income of you deliberately try to get fired.

Income potentials are significantly reduced these days. In case you haven’t heard.

Irrelevant. Stop giving shitty legal “advice.”

Nope. COVID has changed everything.

Honey, bless your ignorant heart and stop projecting your fantasies about how these things work. Some of us have actually been through the process.

Oh I have no doubt you’ve had a lot of failure in your life.

Exiting a bad marriage was not a failure. You are a bad person. Please reflect on your character failings.