DH just asked for a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let him file. Then fight him tooth and nail for full custody and every penny you can squeeze out of him. Sounds like a loser anyway. You will be fine. Oh, and line up a date as soon as possible and rub his face in it.

WTF?

It sounds like the DH is being reasonable. If they have 50/50 custody and similar incomes, OP might not even qualify to receive child support.

If you’re both reasonable, you can probably save a ton on lawyers and just use a mediator. If you push for crazy things like full custody, don’t be surprised if he fights back. The lawyers will be the only ones who win in that situation. I also think it’s interesting that your son chose to stay with his dad instead of joining you on your weekend trip. Could the son be a lot more introverted (like his father) than you’d care to admit? Maybe if 50/50 custody isn’t on the table he would chose to live with his dad instead of OP... Then she’s stuck never seeing her kid and paying child support. Don’t be stupid and don’t try to push your luck.

[Anonymous]

It will be 50/50 custody and division of assets. If you make roughly equal income, there will be zero alimony, especially for such a short marriage and nominal child support.

Depending on where you live the separation may need to be one year because there is a child.

[Anonymous]

Scorched earth, baby. The only way to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It will be 50/50 custody and division of assets. If you make roughly equal income, there will be zero alimony, especially for such a short marriage and nominal child support.

Depending on where you live the separation may need to be one year because there is a child.

This. If you agree on these things this should minimize legal expenses which can cost tens of thousands of dollars on those fighting for the garden hose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no chance he would have to pay alimony so take this deal as quickly as you can before he gets any advice.

And if you both make similar salaries, there’s no way he’d be paying child support either.

He’s being generous.

[Anonymous]

Manage to get fired now, and then stick him with the bill.

[Anonymous]

How old is your child?

[Anonymous]

I have no advice to offer, OP, but a great deal of sympathy. You're in my thoughts, and I hope you are able to make it through this difficult time. I think that your commitment to whatever is in the best interests of your child is laudable. Hugs to you.

[Anonymous]

Before getting yourself a lawyer. Ask him if he would like to do marriage counseling with you. If he says no, then get go ahead and get a lawyer. Do not relinquish any child custody at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Manage to get fired now, and then stick him with the bill.

Cannot do this. You will get smacked upside the head by a judge. And formulas are based on income potential anyway. They will impute income of you deliberately try to get fired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Manage to get fired now, and then stick him with the bill.

dumbest plan ever! Talk about a cut your nose to spite your face strategy.

-signed a wife

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Manage to get fired now, and then stick him with the bill.

Cannot do this. You will get smacked upside the head by a judge. And formulas are based on income potential anyway. They will impute income of you deliberately try to get fired.

Income potentials are significantly reduced these days. In case you haven’t heard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let him file. Then fight him tooth and nail for full custody and every penny you can squeeze out of him. Sounds like a loser anyway. You will be fine. Oh, and line up a date as soon as possible and rub his face in it.

Why should she fight for full custody? You're advising her to use her child as a pawn to spite her husband? What is wrong with you?

I know. PP seems like a nut job. And if OP fights him for full custody with no basis she will waste a ton of money and look insane herself.

I would be as agreeable as possible and get it done. She will eventually move on so why not start the healing now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Manage to get fired now, and then stick him with the bill.

Cannot do this. You will get smacked upside the head by a judge. And formulas are based on income potential anyway. They will impute income of you deliberately try to get fired.

Income potentials are significantly reduced these days. In case you haven’t heard.

Irrelevant. Stop giving shitty legal “advice.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Manage to get fired now, and then stick him with the bill.

Cannot do this. You will get smacked upside the head by a judge. And formulas are based on income potential anyway. They will impute income of you deliberately try to get fired.

Income potentials are significantly reduced these days. In case you haven’t heard.

Irrelevant. Stop giving shitty legal “advice.”

Nope. COVID has changed everything.