DH just asked for a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He asked for a divorce so you need to move out. That is the way it works. the one who asks for the divorce gets to stay.

What? No that is not how anything works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He asked for a divorce so you need to move out. That is the way it works. the one who asks for the divorce gets to stay.

What? No that is not how anything works.

Thanks for calling this out. I read that and went, Wut??
Every situation is different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny how she said her parents were Republicans and people say they are “racists.” My dad is a Republican and the finest and most generous man I have ever known.

Yes, Republicans are not racists. I believe Democrats are more likely to be racists.

Okay but OP has included more updates clarifying that in this case her parents are republicans AND alcoholic AND racists.

I wouldn’t want my child around that every week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry OP. Hugs. Usually a request for divorce is prompted by an unhappy spouse finding another love interest (men, especially, even if very unhappy, will not think about leaving wife/kid(s) without a lady in the wings). It’s true. Don’t ask for full custody. He should have to take care of the kid half time (and you will want that time to date). This guy had thought out very carefully his financial offer. You need some legal advice. Something smells bad.

This is completely, 100% not true. Sorry. It's just not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He asked for a divorce so you need to move out. That is the way it works. the one who asks for the divorce gets to stay.

What? No that is not how anything works.

+1. Who asked for the divorce has nothing to do with who stays or leaves the house. Usually, the house is sold. Or, one party buys the other one out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry OP. Hugs. Usually a request for divorce is prompted by an unhappy spouse finding another love interest (men, especially, even if very unhappy, will not think about leaving wife/kid(s) without a lady in the wings). It’s true. Don’t ask for full custody. He should have to take care of the kid half time (and you will want that time to date). This guy had thought out very carefully his financial offer. You need some legal advice. Something smells bad.

This is completely, 100% not true. Sorry. It's just not.

+1. This is not true at all. It is not at all the case that "usually" a request for a divorce is because of another love interest. I actually think that is really, really rare. It is more like the person is unhappy and wants a divorce. People just don't want to accept that and then assume it must be because of someone else. News flash: even if there was someone else...they still want a divorce. The relationship is over either way. But I do not at all think most of the time it is because of someone else...it is that they do not want to be with their spouse anymore and that is it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny how she said her parents were Republicans and people say they are “racists.” My dad is a Republican and the finest and most generous man I have ever known.

Yes, Republicans are not racists. I believe Democrats are more likely to be racists.

Okay but OP has included more updates clarifying that in this case her parents are republicans AND alcoholic AND racists.

I wouldn’t want my child around that every week.

Where is this update? I only see the one where she talked about the anniversary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let him file. Then fight him tooth and nail for full custody and every penny you can squeeze out of him. Sounds like a loser anyway. You will be fine. Oh, and line up a date as soon as possible and rub his face in it.

I like your style.