Dating an older man

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It works well until he is somewhere between 70 and 75.

If you're going to dump a guy because he's 70 or 75, why is it worse for you to be 60 when you do it instead of 70?

You’re using a 5 year metric to ask a question of a proposed 15 year metric.

You aren't getting it.

Scenario 1: you marry a guy 5 years older than you. You divorce him when he is 75 because he is old and broken. You are 70.
Scenario 2: you marry a guy 15 years older, divorce him when he is 75 because he is old and broken. You are 60.

Why are you worse off in scenario 2 than scenario 1?

Because scenario 1 you are probably not getting divorced and are at the same life stage going through it together.
Scenario 2- you are in very different stages so no surprise you get divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is 56, and fairly fit. He would be happy with sex everyday. Having stated that, when DH hits his retirement years, I will still be in the workforce for another six years. I can't imagine if we were 15 years apart, and how long he'd have to wait for me to stop working for us to enjoy our golden years together. I guess if you were super wealthy, this would not be an issue.

To be honest, most men would be happy as could be if their wives left the house for 8 hours a day even if they were both retired.

"Don't stop working, babe! I will struggle along manfully without you until you get home!"

[Anonymous]

There may be issues with having children/friends at different ages/stages of life. And second to the point of ended up being a caretaker for longer than you want if you end up together long-term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It works well until he is somewhere between 70 and 75.

If you're going to dump a guy because he's 70 or 75, why is it worse for you to be 60 when you do it instead of 70?

You’re using a 5 year metric to ask a question of a proposed 15 year metric.

You aren't getting it.

Scenario 1: you marry a guy 5 years older than you. You divorce him when he is 75 because he is old and broken. You are 70.
Scenario 2: you marry a guy 15 years older, divorce him when he is 75 because he is old and broken. You are 60.

Why are you worse off in scenario 2 than scenario 1?

Because scenario 1 you are probably not getting divorced and are at the same life stage going through it together.
Scenario 2- you are in very different stages so no surprise you get divorced.

If a guy is useless to you and decrepit, it hardly matters if you are 60 yourself rather than 70.

And forget the reason for the divorce. Let's say he dies at 75. You are no worse off being widowed at 60 than at 70, and in some ways better off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There may be issues with having children/friends at different ages/stages of life. And second to the point of ended up being a caretaker for longer than you want if you end up together long-term.

The length of time you are a caretaker is the same no matter how old you are when it starts.

[Anonymous]

A (male, 65) acquaintance of mine who is 15 years older than me (female, 50) said we should try dating since we know each other and we are both single. I asked him if would date a woman 15 years older than himself and he looked incredulous and said, "No!" So i looked him square in the eye and said "Now you know how I feel."

[Anonymous]

The only time I enjoyed dating an older man was when i was in college. I was 20, he 37. Super nice guy; maybe the nicest guy I ever dated. But when someone asked if he was my dad, I had to let him go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:1) Understand that he is one and done (without medical intervention)

2) he will feel luck to be dating a younger woman.

He could have different taste in music. Mid 80's is very different than late 90's....

(I am a 56 yo man.. I know my issues...)

Speak for yourself. I can go for two to three on a lazy Sunday afternoon and twice after a night out. 53yo man.

What’s the point of your post? Just sounds like an ahole post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A (male, 65) acquaintance of mine who is 15 years older than me (female, 50) said we should try dating since we know each other and we are both single. I asked him if would date a woman 15 years older than himself and he looked incredulous and said, "No!" So i looked him square in the eye and said "Now you know how I feel." [/quot

LOL. I’m sure he didn’t like this response.

50 vs. 65 is also a difficult age gap due to different stages of life (retirement s. working)in addition to all of the other differences. Too much to bridge.

[Anonymous]

I'm 32 and love older men! I married 8 years older, but would have been happy with 15 or 20. Old men are my kryptonite.

[Anonymous]

Dating, sure.
Marrying? Who knows what the end of life will bring?

[Anonymous]

I am 50 years old, looking to date only men 62 and older. BMI of 18.4, fit, attractive.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am in my 40s and have been tempted to date men in their 50s. I'm divorced with kids and after seeing too many blended family difficulties in life, I don't want to try to mesh families. Often men in their 50s have perspective, established careers, empty nest or older kids. Still dynamic, fun.

However, I am sticking to men my own ageish for now. This is because of the situations I know of where women married 10+ years older. Same thing has happened over and over. Initially and for a good while, it's great. 40 and 55 is not that different.

But then the men hit a point where they actually really slow down, become elderly--less interest and enjoyment traveling and such, being active, more health problems. Meanwhile the woman is still basically in primetime. Then the men go downhill and just as the woman would really begin enjoying retirement and such, she has to go in full caretaker mode to an old man, basically like taking care of a parent or older relative. A 55 yo woman and a 70 yo man -- that is very different.

Harsh, but this is what I've seen happen.

If you are not looking long-term, I say go for it and enjoy. Otherwise, think carefully not about now but how you'd feel when you are 55 and he's 70 or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Hot Babe on my street (age 35) married guy across the street from me (age 50). They had a kid. Within several years of marriage she was complaining to me at the neighborhood Christmas party that they never went anywhere or did anything for fun. They ended up divorcing.

She is now a really hot looking 45 dating the buff guy in the apartment complex. He is a really old looking 60 year old now. He has the large alcoholic looking belly thing going on.
He is angry that his exwife is dating the buff guy (per facebook photos)

I think anything over around 8 years is too much of a gap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you want out of the relationship? What does he?

Is he rich?