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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I am in my 40s and have been tempted to date men in their 50s. I'm divorced with kids and after seeing too many blended family difficulties in life, I don't want to try to mesh families. Often men in their 50s have perspective, established careers, empty nest or older kids. Still dynamic, fun.

However, I am sticking to men my own ageish for now. This is because of the situations I know of where women married 10+ years older. Same thing has happened over and over. Initially and for a good while, it's great. 40 and 55 is not that different.

But then the men hit a point where they actually really slow down, become elderly--less interest and enjoyment traveling and such, being active, more health problems. Meanwhile the woman is still basically in primetime. Then the men go downhill and just as the woman would really begin enjoying retirement and such, she has to go in full caretaker mode to an old man, basically like taking care of a parent or older relative. A 55 yo woman and a 70 yo man -- that is very different.

Harsh, but this is what I've seen happen.

If you are not looking long-term, I say go for it and enjoy. Otherwise, think carefully not about now but how you'd feel when you are 55 and he's 70 or whatever. [/quote]

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