How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?

[Anonymous]

I slept with over 50 guys before marrying my DH at 30 (and he knows this), so my wild oats were largely taken care of. Once or twice a week satisfies me these days (two kids and 15 years of marriage).

[Anonymous]

My reflexive answer is yes, but then no sex ever again seems like a big step. But I have zero desire for DH, although we do it on occasion. If never again with him but with someone else was an option than yes.

Married 15 years, 44 and I think I speak for most women I know

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My reflexive answer is yes, but then no sex ever again seems like a big step. But I have zero desire for DH, although we do it on occasion. If never again with him but with someone else was an option than yes.

Married 15 years, 44 and I think I speak for most women I know

No you don’t speak for us. Some of us really like sex, but we don’t preach about it or discuss on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

39 DW. I’d have sex everyday if we could. (Both work, young kids, life).
And in fact over the summer when kids were at camp we did it everyday. I could not go without it and I have several friends like me who crave it a lot - and are all married.
I do have a few friends - one without kids - who haven’t had sex in years. Same age.
It’s not a one size fits all.

[Anonymous]

If he was okay with me self satisfying once or twice a week, yes it’s fine.

I could not imagine tossing my H aside if he did not want sex.

Love is not sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he was okay with me self satisfying once or twice a week, yes it’s fine.

I could not imagine tossing my H aside if he did not want sex.

Love is not sex.

It can be a way of expressing love. I think your statement is way too general. You can have love without sex or sex without love. You can't generalize about the relationship between the two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I slept with over 50 guys before marrying my DH at 30 (and he knows this), so my wild oats were largely taken care of. Once or twice a week satisfies me these days (two kids and 15 years of marriage).

What type and how many STDs did you acquire? I am guessing you had to have had at least one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I slept with over 50 guys before marrying my DH at 30 (and he knows this), so my wild oats were largely taken care of. Once or twice a week satisfies me these days (two kids and 15 years of marriage).

What type and how many STDs did you acquire? I am guessing you had to have had at least one.

None. I’m healthy as a horse. A few pregnancy scares, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:39 DW. I’d have sex everyday if we could. (Both work, young kids, life).
And in fact over the summer when kids were at camp we did it everyday. I could not go without it and I have several friends like me who crave it a lot - and are all married.
I do have a few friends - one without kids - who haven’t had sex in years. Same age.
It’s not a one size fits all.

So to speak.

[Anonymous]

What? No,I would never be ok with that. Who are you people? What sad and pathetic lives do you lead?

[Anonymous]

OMG yes. If I didn't have to wake up every morning with that hard on pushing on me I would be so glad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I slept with over 50 guys before marrying my DH at 30 (and he knows this), so my wild oats were largely taken care of. Once or twice a week satisfies me these days (two kids and 15 years of marriage).

What type and how many STDs did you acquire? I am guessing you had to have had at least one.

None. I’m healthy as a horse. A few pregnancy scares, though.

More likely, you are a 42 year old man that weighs 278 pounds, had Wendys 4 times in the last week, and has never heard a woman (aside from your mom) say "I love you."

Keep tugging your pud, Stanley.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he was okay with me self satisfying once or twice a week, yes it’s fine.

I could not imagine tossing my H aside if he did not want sex.

Love is not sex.

It can be a way of expressing love. I think your statement is way too general. You can have love without sex or sex without love. You can't generalize about the relationship between the two.

I agree. Physical desire can be very loving. There are many types of love. I love many people, but the physical love I have with my husband is a HUGE part of my marriage. I’m happier with a loving sexual relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I slept with over 50 guys before marrying my DH at 30 (and he knows this), so my wild oats were largely taken care of. Once or twice a week satisfies me these days (two kids and 15 years of marriage).

What type and how many STDs did you acquire? I am guessing you had to have had at least one.

None. I’m healthy as a horse. A few pregnancy scares, though.

More likely, you are a 42 year old man that weighs 278 pounds, had Wendys 4 times in the last week, and has never heard a woman (aside from your mom) say "I love you."

Keep tugging your pud, Stanley.

That’s just incorrect, so I really don’t know what to say. But I do detect an odor of misogyny in your post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I’m 64 and I still really like that my husband wants to pound the mattress with me at least once a week. It may be for his pleasure but I get off on it too.

Gross

Why gross?