How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?

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I applaud those who still enjoy an active, married sex life. For the rest, I've paid attention to this board and other comments and it's the reason I will never get married again. Because things change. If my GF no longer desired me sexually, we can simply go our own ways and I'll again find someone else with a sex drive that matches mine. When you're married, your sex life is held hostage by your spouse forcing you to make some painful decisions. No thanks.

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I thought I had a low drive until I got divorced and realized that there are smart, kind, active men who make me feel sexy and wanted. Makes me want what I didn’t in my 15 years of marriage to a cruel man.

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No way, not this lady.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 35, we have been together 10 years and his sex drive has been a problem the whole time for me. I was hoping I would level off by now and we would naturally sync up but that’s not what happened.

Geez, are you me? It’s so depressing.

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No I like to have sex 1-2x a week.

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Anonymous wrote:Married 22 years. We’re finally slowing down after 24 years together of having sex every other day except for post-partum. I’d say we’re about 3x a week now. We need it physically or we both get grumpy. I have GF’s who could say goodbye to sex forever and be fine. I don’t get it but I appreciate their feelings.

So you were grumpy all of past Partum. Are you spoiled teens?

Why are people on this Board so obnoxious?! No, we weren’t grumpy all of post partum. We were exhausted from lack of sleep and adjusting to parenthood. Sex was the last thing on our minds. But, as soon as our kids start sleeping reliably and we got a handle on parenthood we resumed our active sex life. But, yes, if/when we’ve gone a week or more without sex we crave it and get grumpy. Sorry you have no sex drive.

Why are people so ignorant on this site.

So your grumpiness is a choice .. postpartum you chose to not focus on sex. But otherwise any grumpy response is an unhealthy choice.

Idk about you but I was going at it before the doctor even recommended it. Post partum.... I don’t blame my grumpiness on my H when he can’t deliver the goods.

You need a good toy, you sound grumpy now... maybe your I’s aren’t doing it... more like hiccups. It happens post kids.

What is your problem?!?! We don’t get grumpy with each other because we like to have sex with each other SO WE DO. But, there have been times when we’re separated due to travel when we can’t have sex with each other and it builds, we get grumpy, and we relieve ourselves...with a toy, a hand, whatever.

Why would you assume otherwise?! And, I don’t have I’s. I have multiple explosive O’s 3x a week thank you very much.

[Anonymous]

For the DHs, do you prioritize your wives’ enjoyment during the process or is her climax optional? Most of my friends love sex and have high drives, but men are expected to bring it or get clowned. Maybe this is a generational thing? Millennial here. Usually a great make sex partner thrives on getting the woman off first.

[Anonymous]

If both folks got off while having sex then of course everyone would want to have sex. Last time I had sex with my husband I was also watching TV. I get nothing out of it & he doesn’t care.

[Anonymous]

Me. I told my gynecologist this and according to her most of her female patients over fifty say the same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:If both folks got off while having sex then of course everyone would want to have sex. Last time I had sex with my husband I was also watching TV. I get nothing out of it & he doesn’t care.

But you don’t seem to care about getting off (otherwise you would be getting off). And since YOU don’t care, why would he care?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, all this duty sex is making me sad. You could never convince me to get married again. I love having a GF with nearly the same sex drive as me. If there came a time when she didn't want sex, she wouldn't do it anyway "for the sake of our marriage," or to not break my heart. She just wouldn't do it and I'd move on to the next. If there is one thing I've learned from this board, if you don't want to get stuck in sexless marriage, don't get married. You have all scared me straight and I thank you for that.

Guess what? Pretty much 100% of the wives who are over having sex with their husbands were once girlfriends who loved doing it.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, all this duty sex is making me sad. You could never convince me to get married again. I love having a GF with nearly the same sex drive as me. If there came a time when she didn't want sex, she wouldn't do it anyway "for the sake of our marriage," or to not break my heart. She just wouldn't do it and I'd move on to the next. If there is one thing I've learned from this board, if you don't want to get stuck in sexless marriage, don't get married. You have all scared me straight and I thank you for that.

Guess what? Pretty much 100% of the wives who are over having sex with their husbands were once girlfriends who loved doing it.

THIS.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I’m 64 and I still really like that my husband wants to pound the mattress with me at least once a week. It may be for his pleasure but I get off on it too.

Gross

Why gross?

NP, trying to get the visual out of my head of senior citizens "pounding mattress"

It honestly doesn't seem natural for a 64 year old to even want to have sex. What evolutionary purpose would there even be for it?

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Anonymous wrote:No, I’m 64 and I still really like that my husband wants to pound the mattress with me at least once a week. It may be for his pleasure but I get off on it too.

Gross

Why gross?

NP, trying to get the visual out of my head of senior citizens "pounding mattress"

It honestly doesn't seem natural for a 64 year old to even want to have sex. What evolutionary purpose would there even be for it?

Ummm, because it feels good. I am 8 years past menopause and sex is better than ever. Still juicy and big, multiple O's. It's awesome.

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Anonymous wrote:I applaud those who still enjoy an active, married sex life. For the rest, I've paid attention to this board and other comments and it's the reason I will never get married again. Because things change. If my GF no longer desired me sexually, we can simply go our own ways and I'll again find someone else with a sex drive that matches mine. When you're married, your sex life is held hostage by your spouse forcing you to make some painful decisions. No thanks.

Yeah right. Do you seriously want to be single in your 80's? Do you really think that in your 70's you're going to find woman who is going to truly want to have consistent sex with you. Of course you will marry again. Most people don't want to be alone in their golden years.