MIL said I abandoned my children by working

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don't think she is correct, you will have no problem in ignoring it. Do you feel she is right?

Don't be an idiot.

you are being obtuse and an idiot. If MIL is making a generic personal statement that is her personal belief. then there is no reason for DIL to get upset about it and take it personally. Unless she feels that the MIL was saying something that actually pertained to her. DIL seems to want to borrow trouble and has a unhealthy need for MIL's approval. Why does she even care?

Oh come on. Not everyone in life is an idiotic robot like you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. You’re right it is delusional. It bothers me though because it makes me wonder how long she’s felt this way and why she’s saying it now.

Who cares?

She's a low-value person to say that kind of thing to her own DIL. So who cares what a low-value person thinks or says?

Where did you get this term “low value person”? Where are you from? You must not be from the US because we don’t refer to people that way.

I think that she must be from Canada. Canadians say that a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don't think she is correct, you will have no problem in ignoring it. Do you feel she is right?

Don't be an idiot.

you are being obtuse and an idiot. If MIL is making a generic personal statement that is her personal belief. then there is no reason for DIL to get upset about it and take it personally. Unless she feels that the MIL was saying something that actually pertained to her. DIL seems to want to borrow trouble and has a unhealthy need for MIL's approval. Why does she even care?

Oh come on. Not everyone in life is an idiotic robot like you are.

Are you Canadian?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don't think she is correct, you will have no problem in ignoring it. Do you feel she is right?

Don't be an idiot.

i believe it’s true that is you are 100%confident in your decision a comment like this has no weight.

Sure, if you are talking about statements like "Almond milk tastes better than cow milk." Not if you are accusing a mother.of abandoning her children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is just jealous and in order to feel good about her non choices, she puts others down. There is a way to be a sahm for years and then still work after, or volunteer, or do something more than bring other people down to feel good about yourself. Sounds like she is getting older in becoming, as so many elderly, unhinged.

The Canadian White College-Educated women are out full-force today!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They lose their ability to filter as they get older. Call her out on it, but don't take the comments personally.

If she is really losing her filter there probably is no good that will come from calling her out on it. She's blurting out insensitive remarks because she has lost her ability to self censor and think through what she is saying and how she is coming across to other people.

She was probably talking to her cronies about "the younger generation" and the way "kids these days do things", blah, blah, blah and brought those interesting observations to your dinner table w/o considering that her comments would be construed as rude by Op who is a working mom, herself.

[Anonymous]

OP, I have found that as my mother and MIL have aged (now in their eighties), that they have much less of a filter. Their deeply-held beliefs and opinions are voiced more often even when there are people present who could be offended. You are correct to think that she has probably always felt this way about you working. I think you responded appropriately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is just jealous and in order to feel good about her non choices, she puts others down. There is a way to be a sahm for years and then still work after, or volunteer, or do something more than bring other people down to feel good about yourself. Sounds like she is getting older in becoming, as so many elderly, unhinged.

The Canadian White College-Educated women are out full-force today!

DP. You seem a little weird, ngl.

[Anonymous]

Old people smh. Ignore. Smile and say, who is ready for dessert? “

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have found that as my mother and MIL have aged (now in their eighties), that they have much less of a filter. Their deeply-held beliefs and opinions are voiced more often even when there are people present who could be offended. You are correct to think that she has probably always felt this way about you working. I think you responded appropriately.

No, I don't think that you can assume that she has always felt this way towards Op. It is just the topic of the week. She could have seen something on t.v. that inspired those comments for all you know.

Just this past week my mom announced that she doesn't like ham. Well, I guess that means that we won't be having ham at our holiday meals now. Good to know!

She hasn't always disliked ham but her tastes have changed.

[Anonymous]

^Or I could take her remark as meaning that she hates the way that *I* make ham. But that wouldn't make much sense given all that I do to "make" it is heat it up in the oven...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have found that as my mother and MIL have aged (now in their eighties), that they have much less of a filter. Their deeply-held beliefs and opinions are voiced more often even when there are people present who could be offended. You are correct to think that she has probably always felt this way about you working. I think you responded appropriately.

No, I don't think that you can assume that she has always felt this way towards Op. It is just the topic of the week. She could have seen something on t.v. that inspired those comments for all you know.

Just this past week my mom announced that she doesn't like ham. Well, I guess that means that we won't be having ham at our holiday meals now. Good to know!

She hasn't always disliked ham but her tastes have changed.

PP, You are too rational and sensible. Are you new here?

[Anonymous]

This wouldn’t bother you if you didn’t, at some level, feel like you abandoned your kids by working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is just jealous and in order to feel good about her non choices, she puts others down. There is a way to be a sahm for years and then still work after, or volunteer, or do something more than bring other people down to feel good about yourself. Sounds like she is getting older in becoming, as so many elderly, unhinged.

The Canadian White College-Educated women are out full-force today!

DP. You seem a little weird, ngl.

To you? I must have succeeded beyond my wildest dreams. nglt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have found that as my mother and MIL have aged (now in their eighties), that they have much less of a filter. Their deeply-held beliefs and opinions are voiced more often even when there are people present who could be offended. You are correct to think that she has probably always felt this way about you working. I think you responded appropriately.

No, I don't think that you can assume that she has always felt this way towards Op. It is just the topic of the week. She could have seen something on t.v. that inspired those comments for all you know.

Just this past week my mom announced that she doesn't like ham. Well, I guess that means that we won't be having ham at our holiday meals now. Good to know!

She hasn't always disliked ham but her tastes have changed.

PP, You are too rational and sensible. Are you new here?

Lol, no. I've just seen what ageing can do to an otherwise delightful, considerate person. It happens.