Behavioral Issues at Private Schools

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's really because they are all spoiled brats who are just entitled by their elitist parents. These kids are in for a rude awakening when their future employers don't give a shit where they went to school and who their parents are, although I'm sure Mommy and Daddy will call them to complain.

This reply is such a generalized stereotype. Sure, for some kids, that may be the issue, but are many private schools in this area that aren’t the Big 3-5 where behavior is an issue, and it’s not because the kids are spoiled brats. It happens in neighborhood catholic schools and other schools that don’t cost 25-45k per year even. Some of the more thorough explanations given above are spot on with our own personal experience as to how these things become an issue in privates.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:According to my kids, the things that get kids labeled as "trouble" in their private school would not have even been a blip on the radar at their public school. They are constantly amused by what gets a kid is "serious" trouble in private school. They are also much happier with the behavior and learning atmosphere.

So, when a private school teacher says kids are "psychotic," aside from that being enormously inappropriate, I also take it with huge shaker of salt.

+1.
I'd also add that a lot of discipline in some private schools is driven by squeeky-wheel parents who complain about other children's normal age-appropriate but imperfect behavior. It can be exhausting and stressful if you haven't figured it out.

We have experience with two different private’s and one public. I find that the private school kids acted way more inappropriately than the public school kids and the the parents were also way more understanding about behavioral issues at the private schools. This may not be universal, but it’s been our experience.

[Anonymous]

Psychotic? Really? Invest in a dictionary, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Which school? You won’t be giving any personal info by naming the school.

Seriously. Just because you say they're "well respected" doesn't make it so.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This post is from yet another public school parent trying to make themselves feel better about not paying the money to send their child to a private school. Yes private is better and well worth the money.

Last time I checked my public high school had 9 kids admitted to Harvard, 7 Georgetown, and etc....I think someone who had paid $100k for the same outcome who has paid $0 should feel too good.

You're so tiresome. No one cares what you think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's really because they are all spoiled brats who are just entitled by their elitist parents. These kids are in for a rude awakening when their future employers don't give a shit where they went to school and who their parents are, although I'm sure Mommy and Daddy will call them to complain.

I'll remember this post the next time someone says public school parents are never the ones who start things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's really because they are all spoiled brats who are just entitled by their elitist parents. These kids are in for a rude awakening when their future employers don't give a shit where they went to school and who their parents are, although I'm sure Mommy and Daddy will call them to complain.

I'll remember this post the next time someone says public school parents are never the ones who start things.

Why so bitter, honey?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People often choose (or claim to choose) private because their public doesn't meet a need. Not sure why that wouldn't make it obvious that of course, some of the most problematic kids are at private.

It depends. I have known families whose kids did not qualify for services in public get better support in private. I worked at a Catholic school for several years. During the end of my time, we have had many younger children who displayed aggressive behavior that was unsafe. They were "counseled" out. I know from friends n public school that they are seeing increasing numbers of young children who have extreme behavior issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's really because they are all spoiled brats who are just entitled by their elitist parents. These kids are in for a rude awakening when their future employers don't give a shit where they went to school and who their parents are, although I'm sure Mommy and Daddy will call them to complain.

Did you write this post after a cup of coffee or tea? You should up the caffeine tomorrow, Grumpy Pants.

Some children are dealing with divorced parents, military transitions, etc and need the social support of a smaller community. They arent spoiled brats. They’re innocent children who don’t know how to articulate when they’re feeling destabilized, disoriented, lethargic, or nervous, or dealing with jealousy or competition. Or maybe they require medical SN and the school and home village approach helps the students accept so much diversity. Why shouldn’t a school I invest in privately have the same basic minimal resources around medical, clinical, social, sports, etc.

And if you’re screening for BS culture yes put it out here up front. Don’t bait and switch for funding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's really because they are all spoiled brats who are just entitled by their elitist parents. These kids are in for a rude awakening when their future employers don't give a shit where they went to school and who their parents are, although I'm sure Mommy and Daddy will call them to complain.

Did you write this post after a cup of coffee or tea? You should up the caffeine tomorrow, Grumpy Pants.

Some children are dealing with divorced parents, military transitions, etc and need the social support of a smaller community. They arent spoiled brats. They’re innocent children who don’t know how to articulate when they’re feeling destabilized, disoriented, lethargic, or nervous, or dealing with jealousy or competition. Or maybe they require medical SN and the school and home village approach helps the students accept so much diversity. Why shouldn’t a school I invest in privately have the same basic minimal resources around medical, clinical, social, sports, etc.

And if you’re screening for BS culture yes put it out here up front. Don’t bait and switch for funding.

Your post doesn’t make much sense.

[Anonymous]

I have one example, of a local private where I worked. The administration was not inclined to support teachers on any kind of discipline because influential parents paying high tuition did not want to hear that their children were acting out. Children picked up on this, and the daily level of disrespect and disregard for teachers was high. They owned the school and they knew it.

[Anonymous]

I pulled my child from a small private because DC's class was full of out of control boys whose parents clearly enrolled them because they didn't know how to deal with them. The school didn't know either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one example, of a local private where I worked. The administration was not inclined to support teachers on any kind of discipline because influential parents paying high tuition did not want to hear that their children were acting out. Children picked up on this, and the daily level of disrespect and disregard for teachers was high. They owned the school and they knew it.

+1 I lived this experience too. Parents would ask for meeting with the administration if there were duplicate words on the spelling list, if they didn’t like their child’s reading group placement, if they didn’t like the tone of the annual fund campaign, if their child earned a C on an assignment, or for myriad other reasons. The administration often acquiesced to parent demands because they needed the customers to be happy, and they needed the donations to come in. (Every year someone would pay on a significant annual fund pledge, often because of anger at the school.) The children learned by example that pushing back gets results.

[Anonymous]

By the way, behavioral issues in both public and private schools are often cited in teacher surveys as a top reason for burnout and quitting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have one example, of a local private where I worked. The administration was not inclined to support teachers on any kind of discipline because influential parents paying high tuition did not want to hear that their children were acting out. Children picked up on this, and the daily level of disrespect and disregard for teachers was high. They owned the school and they knew it.

+1 I lived this experience too. Parents would ask for meeting with the administration if there were duplicate words on the spelling list, if they didn’t like their child’s reading group placement, if they didn’t like the tone of the annual fund campaign, if their child earned a C on an assignment, or for myriad other reasons. The administration often acquiesced to parent demands because they needed the customers to be happy, and they needed the donations to come in. (Every year someone would pay on a significant annual fund pledge, often because of anger at the school.) The children learned by example that pushing back gets results.

Do you think this experience is the norm at the larger private schools in the DC area?