Behavioral Issues at Private Schools

[Anonymous]

The last few pages have been something like this:

"Anyone who sends their kids to private school and says they don't care about college placement/would be happy with a lower-ranked school/don't compare their kids to neighbors is a lying liar."

"Okay. I can honestly say I don't care much about college placement because we are wealthy enough to pay for school/I value the journey/I don't want to send my kid to an Ivy."

"How dare you say that?????"

It's illogical, and I am someone who cares about college outcomes but I don't insist everyone sees the world the way I do.

[Anonymous]

Pp, youre missing the point. People that claim they pay top dollar for private and don’t care about outplacement are basically saying they will make a huge investment and then not care where it leads. Say I pay top dollar for my kid to train with an elite football coach for 15 years. Would you believe that I don’t care whether he plays in the NFL or in the backyard with the kids? I sure wouldn’t.

Some parents don’t like to admit it because as another poster said earlier, it’s quite possible to reach the same destination via a much less expensive and stressful route.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp, youre missing the point. People that claim they pay top dollar for private and don’t care about outplacement are basically saying they will make a huge investment and then not care where it leads. Say I pay top dollar for my kid to train with an elite football coach for 15 years. Would you believe that I don’t care whether he plays in the NFL or in the backyard with the kids? I sure wouldn’t.

Some parents don’t like to admit it because as another poster said earlier, it’s quite possible to reach the same destination via a much less expensive and stressful route.

As it turns out, not everyone in the world is exactly like you. I realize this may come as a shock, but it is in fact the truth of the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp, youre missing the point. People that claim they pay top dollar for private and don’t care about outplacement are basically saying they will make a huge investment and then not care where it leads. Say I pay top dollar for my kid to train with an elite football coach for 15 years. Would you believe that I don’t care whether he plays in the NFL or in the backyard with the kids? I sure wouldn’t.

Some parents don’t like to admit it because as another poster said earlier, it’s quite possible to reach the same destination via a much less expensive and stressful route.

Uh, there are many, many, many parents who spend huge amounts of money on the activities of kids and know from the start those kids will never be anything other than a talented amateur at best.

Are you always so literal and transactional in life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pp, youre missing the point. People that claim they pay top dollar for private and don’t care about outplacement are basically saying they will make a huge investment and then not care where it leads. Say I pay top dollar for my kid to train with an elite football coach for 15 years. Would you believe that I don’t care whether he plays in the NFL or in the backyard with the kids? I sure wouldn’t.

Some parents don’t like to admit it because as another poster said earlier, it’s quite possible to reach the same destination via a much less expensive and stressful route.

Uh, there are many, many, many parents who spend huge amounts of money on the activities of kids and know from the start those kids will never be anything other than a talented amateur at best.

Are you always so literal and transactional in life?

You seem the one being literal. There is no way you don’t see that posters point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pp, youre missing the point. People that claim they pay top dollar for private and don’t care about outplacement are basically saying they will make a huge investment and then not care where it leads. Say I pay top dollar for my kid to train with an elite football coach for 15 years. Would you believe that I don’t care whether he plays in the NFL or in the backyard with the kids? I sure wouldn’t.

Some parents don’t like to admit it because as another poster said earlier, it’s quite possible to reach the same destination via a much less expensive and stressful route.

Uh, there are many, many, many parents who spend huge amounts of money on the activities of kids and know from the start those kids will never be anything other than a talented amateur at best.

Are you always so literal and transactional in life?

You seem the one being literal. There is no way you don’t see that posters point.

The point that she thinks everyone in the world must think about life, money, and education the exact same way she does or they must be lying? Yeah, no.

[Anonymous]

The people who say they don’t care about outcomes are kidding themselves. They only don’t care about outcomes in the sense they don’t care about Ivys. They wouldn’t care if their kids got into a college ranked around 100.

But I have a hard time believing they wouldn’t have a problem if their kid - upon graduation from an expensive school - decided to go to beauty school or become an electrical inspector. Face it, those parents do care to some extent.

If they truly don’t care if they spent 500k on their kid’s private schooling and they became a secretary - well at least their kid was happy during school! Then they are extremely privileged and need to open their eyes to their privilege.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp, youre missing the point. People that claim they pay top dollar for private and don’t care about outplacement are basically saying they will make a huge investment and then not care where it leads. Say I pay top dollar for my kid to train with an elite football coach for 15 years. Would you believe that I don’t care whether he plays in the NFL or in the backyard with the kids? I sure wouldn’t.

Some parents don’t like to admit it because as another poster said earlier, it’s quite possible to reach the same destination via a much less expensive and stressful route.

For some of us, it’s not simply about the destination, but more about the journey. I care about the quality of my kids’ days — that they are in a pleasant and challenging environment surrounded by mostly positive, interesting people. That’s a luxury, perhaps, but one I value.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The people who say they don’t care about outcomes are kidding themselves. They only don’t care about outcomes in the sense they don’t care about Ivys. They wouldn’t care if their kids got into a college ranked around 100.

But I have a hard time believing they wouldn’t have a problem if their kid - upon graduation from an expensive school - decided to go to beauty school or become an electrical inspector. Face it, those parents do care to some extent.

If they truly don’t care if they spent 500k on their kid’s private schooling and they became a secretary - well at least their kid was happy during school! Then they are extremely privileged and need to open their eyes to their privilege.

Oh for Pete's sake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The people who say they don’t care about outcomes are kidding themselves. They only don’t care about outcomes in the sense they don’t care about Ivys. They wouldn’t care if their kids got into a college ranked around 100.

But I have a hard time believing they wouldn’t have a problem if their kid - upon graduation from an expensive school - decided to go to beauty school or become an electrical inspector. Face it, those parents do care to some extent.

If they truly don’t care if they spent 500k on their kid’s private schooling and they became a secretary - well at least their kid was happy during school! Then they are extremely privileged and need to open their eyes to their privilege.

Amen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pp, youre missing the point. People that claim they pay top dollar for private and don’t care about outplacement are basically saying they will make a huge investment and then not care where it leads. Say I pay top dollar for my kid to train with an elite football coach for 15 years. Would you believe that I don’t care whether he plays in the NFL or in the backyard with the kids? I sure wouldn’t.

Some parents don’t like to admit it because as another poster said earlier, it’s quite possible to reach the same destination via a much less expensive and stressful route.

Uh, there are many, many, many parents who spend huge amounts of money on the activities of kids and know from the start those kids will never be anything other than a talented amateur at best.

Are you always so literal and transactional in life?

You seem the one being literal. There is no way you don’t see that posters point.

The point that she thinks everyone in the world must think about life, money, and education the exact same way she does or they must be lying? Yeah, no.

I love how none of these parents are actually addressing the questions posed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pp, youre missing the point. People that claim they pay top dollar for private and don’t care about outplacement are basically saying they will make a huge investment and then not care where it leads. Say I pay top dollar for my kid to train with an elite football coach for 15 years. Would you believe that I don’t care whether he plays in the NFL or in the backyard with the kids? I sure wouldn’t.

Some parents don’t like to admit it because as another poster said earlier, it’s quite possible to reach the same destination via a much less expensive and stressful route.

Uh, there are many, many, many parents who spend huge amounts of money on the activities of kids and know from the start those kids will never be anything other than a talented amateur at best.

Are you always so literal and transactional in life?

You seem the one being literal. There is no way you don’t see that posters point.

The point that she thinks everyone in the world must think about life, money, and education the exact same way she does or they must be lying? Yeah, no.

I love how none of these parents are actually addressing the questions posed.

+100

Q: “Would you or would you not be OK with your child going to a mediocre college or no college all after spending a lot of money on elite private school?”

A: “It’s about the journey!!”

Hope your kids are learning better critical thinking skills than you appear to possess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The last few pages have been something like this:

"Anyone who sends their kids to private school and says they don't care about college placement/would be happy with a lower-ranked school/don't compare their kids to neighbors is a lying liar."

"Okay. I can honestly say I don't care much about college placement because we are wealthy enough to pay for school/I value the journey/I don't want to send my kid to an Ivy."

"How dare you say that?????"

It's illogical, and I am someone who cares about college outcomes but I don't insist everyone sees the world the way I do.

Funny how this is just getting shown again and again. Nutty, really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The last few pages have been something like this:

"Anyone who sends their kids to private school and says they don't care about college placement/would be happy with a lower-ranked school/don't compare their kids to neighbors is a lying liar."

"Okay. I can honestly say I don't care much about college placement because we are wealthy enough to pay for school/I value the journey/I don't want to send my kid to an Ivy."

"How dare you say that?????"

It's illogical, and I am someone who cares about college outcomes but I don't insist everyone sees the world the way I do.

Funny how this is just getting shown again and again. Nutty, really.

Again, no concrete answer. Speaks volumes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's clear from this thread that lots of PPs view their kids as investments/commodities to extract ROI.

Wtf? Roi from my kids? Kids are negative roi forever right out of the gate.
You don’t have kids, public or private school, to save let alone make money. Memories yes, but boatloads of money?? Hahahhahaha.