Was this rude? Or do I need to unclench?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fine except for:

started jumping on the chairs, bouncing off of them, at one point, kicking the other child

Give the mom a break, OP. Be glad you aren't her.

+1 Not making an effort to control these particular behaviors in a public area is rude, and it's rude to the ballet teacher and class to bring the dancer to the class late. Otherwise, the fact that small children are acting like small children at a place where anyone would expect to see siblings may be annoying to you personally, but it's in no way rude of the mom.

I'd prefer that people not have audible conversations on the metro as it distracts me from my reading, but I'm aware that they have every right to do so.

[Anonymous]

As a mom of 3 young ones myself, I am more than aware of how annoying my kids can be in public. Moms of littles are usually not oblivious to the ruckus our kids may cause. I always feel bad when my kids are disturbing the environment or others. I try very hard to prevent that (being prepared w/snacks, activities, having talks with them before we get wherever we're going, etc), but sometimes, toddlers and babies just don't cooperate. It's the nature of their age.

However, like a PP mentioned, perhaps she didn't have any choice but to bring them. I've been there. My husband is quite ill right now with a pretty serious illness, making it near impossible to leave my kids with others unless I'm paying them (which sometimes I do). Just doing average day-to-day things can be that much more challenging, so often times, there's no choice but to cart everyone around just to get the basics done. Maybe ask if she could use a hand, perhaps offer a snack if you have extras? Just a thought...I'm in that situation now and sometimes its just plain overwhelming and hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That sounds really annoying and the mom sounds completely oblivious. I would just let it go. Next time, just put on your headphones and drown out the noise with some music.

This. She and her kids live in a world with others. A public space means you have to think of others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's only rude if the noise was disturbing the class. Although the waiting room was quiet, there's no rule (said or unsaid) that it had to be quiet.

Agree. And I say this as someone who has two kids so at most I openly have one sibling with me waiting at activities and both are painfully shy and would likely be nearly silent in that situation. So this is not me defending my rowdy kids.

[Anonymous]

It’s the waiting room for a kids’ activity. This kind of thing is to be expected.

[Anonymous]

Not rude, but I understand it's not the most comfortable situation.

This is a mother who is so used to her family's noise that she can't even hear how loud they really are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a mom of 3 young ones myself, I am more than aware of how annoying my kids can be in public. Moms of littles are usually not oblivious to the ruckus our kids may cause. I always feel bad when my kids are disturbing the environment or others. I try very hard to prevent that (being prepared w/snacks, activities, having talks with them before we get wherever we're going, etc), but sometimes, toddlers and babies just don't cooperate. It's the nature of their age.

However, like a PP mentioned, perhaps she didn't have any choice but to bring them. I've been there. My husband is quite ill right now with a pretty serious illness, making it near impossible to leave my kids with others unless I'm paying them (which sometimes I do). Just doing average day-to-day things can be that much more challenging, so often times, there's no choice but to cart everyone around just to get the basics done. Maybe ask if she could use a hand, perhaps offer a snack if you have extras? Just a thought...I'm in that situation now and sometimes its just plain overwhelming and hard.

Hugs. Please don't worry about taking your kids along. It's fine, even if they are not silent. As this thread shows, small children belong in public places as much as adults do.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I find it oddest that there were (multiple)? parents working on laptops during a kids dance class.

[Anonymous]

I'm less concerned about mom with newborn, 2 and 3 year old than I am about OP and a few uptight pp's. And you're mothers, ick! Your kids must be precious.

[Anonymous]

Op - admit it. You gave her the biggest dirtiest stink eye ever, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm less concerned about mom with newborn, 2 and 3 year old than I am about OP and a few uptight pp's. And you're mothers, ick! Your kids must be precious.

We wish! No, we just had the decency to remove them from quiet situations when they couldn’t be quiet themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm less concerned about mom with newborn, 2 and 3 year old than I am about OP and a few uptight pp's. And you're mothers, ick! Your kids must be precious.

We wish! No, we just had the decency to remove them from quiet situations when they couldn’t be quiet themselves.

A waiting room isn't a church service or a library. It's not a "quiet situation".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's only rude if the noise was disturbing the class. Although the waiting room was quiet, there's no rule (said or unsaid) that it had to be quiet.

+2 It is a waiting room for families of young dancers, not your office. Entirely expected that even younger siblings are going to be stuck there waiting through the lesson.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I find it oddest that there were (multiple)? parents working on laptops during a kids dance class.

Ok. Me too. This is where I met some of my closest friends. Where else do you get to sit and socialize with other moms for an hour every week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm less concerned about mom with newborn, 2 and 3 year old than I am about OP and a few uptight pp's. And you're mothers, ick! Your kids must be precious.

We wish! No, we just had the decency to remove them from quiet situations when they couldn’t be quiet themselves.

A waiting room isn't a church service or a library. It's not a "quiet situation".

So you’re telling me that you would have allowed your kids to be disruptive to the other adults, simply because it was a studio where kids dance? What if adults dance there, too? It’s just rude. You are just rude.