Was this rude? Or do I need to unclench?

[Anonymous]

May other people have as much compassion and empathy for you as you have for this poor lady the next time your kid has a meltdown in public in the grocery store. It’s a waiting room for a children’s library, not a fancy restaurant or a play or a library. Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

I have 3 kids and I do get a sitter. Some people think I’m the odd one for not lugging kids around. If we do all go, I may go on a stroller walk, go to the store with siblings, etc.

This mom had 3 little ones and one was a newborn. Cut her some slack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I get annoyed by other mothers talking loudly and obnioxoisly about their upcoming trip to Disney and all the planning involved while in small dance class waiting rooms. I don't care and don't want to hear about how you need to sign up 6 months in advance to have a lunch at Cinderella's castle or some other detail the masses need to know before the pilgrimage to Disney.

But it doesn't bother me THAT much. I can read a book peacefully in car full of kids on a long road trip- surely I can tune out your stupid Disney talk and 2 yr olds kicking their brother. Unless you are not a parent or over 60 kid noise shouldn't be a big deal- at a children's activity. Even if they are behaving in a manner your angels never would.

You sound like a truly miserable person. No wonder the other moms don't engage you in chit chat (noting that informal chatting about things like travel is normal behavior).

[Anonymous]

It is rude. Yes it is a room where you expect little children but it is still an indoor space and not a playground. In addition, it is not a child only space thus the children need to be taught that they need to be considerate of the other people in the room.

The polite thing to do in such a situation is to follow the established mood in the room. If you walk into a room and it is filled with quiet people, the polite thing to do is to keep your voice low. This mother should have thought ahead and brought things to keep her other children occupied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I get annoyed by other mothers talking loudly and obnioxoisly about their upcoming trip to Disney and all the planning involved while in small dance class waiting rooms. I don't care and don't want to hear about how you need to sign up 6 months in advance to have a lunch at Cinderella's castle or some other detail the masses need to know before the pilgrimage to Disney.

But it doesn't bother me THAT much. I can read a book peacefully in car full of kids on a long road trip- surely I can tune out your stupid Disney talk and 2 yr olds kicking their brother. Unless you are not a parent or over 60 kid noise shouldn't be a big deal- at a children's activity. Even if they are behaving in a manner your angels never would.

You sound like a truly miserable person. No wonder the other moms don't engage you in chit chat (noting that informal chatting about things like travel is normal behavior).

It’s interesting you have such an strong reaction to the PP. some people are introverted and want some time to themselves during lessons. Frankly I’m a teacher and am warm and caring taking care of your acjildren all day. Then I go home and am warm and caring to my children all day. Except for my commute, The time at my kids lessons is the ONE half an hour to hour each week I don’t have to think or talk about kid stuff. I need time to recharge and apparently others do too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is rude. Yes it is a room where you expect little children but it is still an indoor space and not a playground. In addition, it is not a child only space thus the children need to be taught that they need to be considerate of the other people in the room.

The polite thing to do in such a situation is to follow the established mood in the room. If you walk into a room and it is filled with quiet people, the polite thing to do is to keep your voice low. This mother should have thought ahead and brought things to keep her other children occupied.

It sounds like she brought some coloring books and an iPad and was shushing them and pulling them off of stuff.
What should have happened is one mom should have offered to watch the rowdiest kid while mom went in the hallway and made sure the other two were calm. Tell the rowdy kid that mom will come back when he calms down (which will happen FAST), and move on.
I don’t understand why everyone just sat there and watched this woman struggle. Do you think it was kind of a bystander effect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is rude. Yes it is a room where you expect little children but it is still an indoor space and not a playground. In addition, it is not a child only space thus the children need to be taught that they need to be considerate of the other people in the room.

The polite thing to do in such a situation is to follow the established mood in the room. If you walk into a room and it is filled with quiet people, the polite thing to do is to keep your voice low. This mother should have thought ahead and brought things to keep her other children occupied.

It sounds like she brought some coloring books and an iPad and was shushing them and pulling them off of stuff.
What should have happened is one mom should have offered to watch the rowdiest kid while mom went in the hallway and made sure the other two were calm. Tell the rowdy kid that mom will come back when he calms down (which will happen FAST), and move on.
I don’t understand why everyone just sat there and watched this woman struggle. Do you think it was kind of a bystander effect?

If you’ve lived here long enough you would know that most moms around here don’t exactly welcome people trying to help them parent. Hell half of them won’t even answer their front doors. The kid wasn’t bleeding out on the floor!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is rude. Yes it is a room where you expect little children but it is still an indoor space and not a playground. In addition, it is not a child only space thus the children need to be taught that they need to be considerate of the other people in the room.

The polite thing to do in such a situation is to follow the established mood in the room. If you walk into a room and it is filled with quiet people, the polite thing to do is to keep your voice low. This mother should have thought ahead and brought things to keep her other children occupied.

It sounds like she brought some coloring books and an iPad and was shushing them and pulling them off of stuff.
What should have happened is one mom should have offered to watch the rowdiest kid while mom went in the hallway and made sure the other two were calm. Tell the rowdy kid that mom will come back when he calms down (which will happen FAST), and move on.
I don’t understand why everyone just sat there and watched this woman struggle. Do you think it was kind of a bystander effect?

If you’ve lived here long enough you would know that most moms around here don’t exactly welcome people trying to help them parent. Hell half of them won’t even answer their front doors. The kid wasn’t bleeding out on the floor!

Hahaha! Can you imagine how annoying that would be?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just get up and go out to the lobby?

See, this is BS. Why do we allow kids to be disruptive as hell, just because they are kids? That’s so rude! Why, in a room of five quiet adults, should ONE ADULT have to get up and leave? Why does your child’s rowdiness trump the other adult’s peace? Nobody wants to listen to your loud child. Not in the grocery store, not in the quiet waiting area of a child’s activity, either. Take that outside.

+1000, but not at all surprising that this isn't a popular answer since we're in the land of kids ruling the roost

+ 1000 these PPs are just being sanctimonious. If they were there in-person they would be so annoyed. Child shouldn’t be shouting so loud the dancers could hear it.

No one likes to hear kids fight and see them jumping off the couches. Yikes. Yes, I would have been annoyed. But, if I took the time to think about where I was and how I would handle being in a quiet waiting room with a newborn and two toddlers, my perspective changes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is rude. Yes it is a room where you expect little children but it is still an indoor space and not a playground. In addition, it is not a child only space thus the children need to be taught that they need to be considerate of the other people in the room.

The polite thing to do in such a situation is to follow the established mood in the room. If you walk into a room and it is filled with quiet people, the polite thing to do is to keep your voice low. This mother should have thought ahead and brought things to keep her other children occupied.

OMG! She DID! And not tablets. Even with a newborn she brought out the crayons and tried to manage the kids. It didn’t go well. Gosh, you act like she was laughing and smiling at their misbehavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I get annoyed by other mothers talking loudly and obnioxoisly about their upcoming trip to Disney and all the planning involved while in small dance class waiting rooms. I don't care and don't want to hear about how you need to sign up 6 months in advance to have a lunch at Cinderella's castle or some other detail the masses need to know before the pilgrimage to Disney.

But it doesn't bother me THAT much. I can read a book peacefully in car full of kids on a long road trip- surely I can tune out your stupid Disney talk and 2 yr olds kicking their brother. Unless you are not a parent or over 60 kid noise shouldn't be a big deal- at a children's activity. Even if they are behaving in a manner your angels never would.

You sound like a truly miserable person. No wonder the other moms don't engage you in chit chat (noting that informal chatting about things like travel is normal behavior).

It’s interesting you have such an strong reaction to the PP. some people are introverted and want some time to themselves during lessons. Frankly I’m a teacher and am warm and caring taking care of your acjildren all day. Then I go home and am warm and caring to my children all day. Except for my commute, The time at my kids lessons is the ONE half an hour to hour each week I don’t have to think or talk about kid stuff. I need time to recharge and apparently others do too.

If you are banking on a waiting room for a kids’ dance class to be your sanctuary, you are setting yourself up for some serious disappointment.

[Anonymous]

OP, hire a sitter to take your kid to class, so you can stay at home or work in a quiet place.

Sounds like the mom was shushing her kids and had stuff for them to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I get annoyed by other mothers talking loudly and obnioxoisly about their upcoming trip to Disney and all the planning involved while in small dance class waiting rooms. I don't care and don't want to hear about how you need to sign up 6 months in advance to have a lunch at Cinderella's castle or some other detail the masses need to know before the pilgrimage to Disney.

But it doesn't bother me THAT much. I can read a book peacefully in car full of kids on a long road trip- surely I can tune out your stupid Disney talk and 2 yr olds kicking their brother. Unless you are not a parent or over 60 kid noise shouldn't be a big deal- at a children's activity. Even if they are behaving in a manner your angels never would.

You sound like a truly miserable person. No wonder the other moms don't engage you in chit chat (noting that informal chatting about things like travel is normal behavior).

It’s interesting you have such an strong reaction to the PP. some people are introverted and want some time to themselves during lessons. Frankly I’m a teacher and am warm and caring taking care of your acjildren all day. Then I go home and am warm and caring to my children all day. Except for my commute, The time at my kids lessons is the ONE half an hour to hour each week I don’t have to think or talk about kid stuff. I need time to recharge and apparently others do too.

If you are banking on a waiting room for a kids’ dance class to be your sanctuary, you are setting yourself up for some serious disappointment.

No joke! crazy pants!

[Anonymous]

I'm curious how many kids the op has. Her bizarre annoyance at this mom and kids makes me wonder if she only has one or two...and if she's projecting anger for an underlying reason/insecurity. (Noting all the DCUM haters of "big families" which means anything over 3 thanks to the local vibe among some uptight breadwinner dads who deny their wives of more than a couple kids.)

[Anonymous]

It’s a waiting room for dance. Not a library.