Was this rude? Or do I need to unclench?

[Anonymous]

She has three young kids. And its a child's dance studio waiting room not the library. Where would she take these three babies - outside? Doesn't sound safe. Cut her some slack. There is no reason you have to sit in the waiting room, go do some shopping or get some starbucks while class is in session. Its a lot easier for you to leave then her to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's only rude if the noise was disturbing the class. Although the waiting room was quiet, there's no rule (said or unsaid) that it had to be quiet.

+2 It is a waiting room for families of young dancers, not your office. Entirely expected that even younger siblings are going to be stuck there waiting through the lesson.

Agree. The unusual part is that the other 5 parents were there without other siblings in tow. How odd. If you want peace and quiet, OP, you could go sit outside, in your car, etc. A waiting room at a children's activity is likely going to be noisy and full of children.

[Anonymous]

I would so much rather listen to a boy naming colored crayons than the tinny sound of a kid watching videos on a phone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just get up and go out to the lobby?

See, this is BS. Why do we allow kids to be disruptive as hell, just because they are kids? That’s so rude! Why, in a room of five quiet adults, should ONE ADULT have to get up and leave? Why does your child’s rowdiness trump the other adult’s peace? Nobody wants to listen to your loud child. Not in the grocery store, not in the quiet waiting area of a child’s activity, either. Take that outside.

+1000, but not at all surprising that this isn't a popular answer since we're in the land of kids ruling the roost

I’ve never seen a post that has made this so utterly apparent. I am feeling so proud of my own parenting and child after reading this.

You have one child and you are congratulating yourself on....being able to entertain and keep one child quiet places? LOL! One child is barely parenting.

What would your amazing parenting strategy be for keeping a newborn, 2 yo and 3 yo silent in a small waiting room for an hour. Please, tell us.

[Anonymous]

Ideally, yes, she should have taken the kids to the lobby.

That said, she had a newborn. That gives her a pass for a lot, in my mind, including this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just get up and go out to the lobby?

See, this is BS. Why do we allow kids to be disruptive as hell, just because they are kids? That’s so rude! Why, in a room of five quiet adults, should ONE ADULT have to get up and leave? Why does your child’s rowdiness trump the other adult’s peace? Nobody wants to listen to your loud child. Not in the grocery store, not in the quiet waiting area of a child’s activity, either. Take that outside.

+1000, but not at all surprising that this isn't a popular answer since we're in the land of kids ruling the roost

I’ve never seen a post that has made this so utterly apparent. I am feeling so proud of my own parenting and child after reading this.

You have one child and you are congratulating yourself on....being able to entertain and keep one child quiet places? LOL! One child is barely parenting.

What would your amazing parenting strategy be for keeping a newborn, 2 yo and 3 yo silent in a small waiting room for an hour. Please, tell us.

Not signing my child up for a class if it meant my other children would have to annoy a room of adults to do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you can expect quiet in that situation. It's nice if you get it, but kids are going to kid. She was probably sticking around for the same reason you were-she wanted to be there when her daughter walked out.

Outside a kids class, you should expect other siblings and associated noise levels. The quiet time you experienced was the anomaly. The mom with kids was where she was supposed to be.

You were completely unreasonable to expect total quiet at an activity for little kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just get up and go out to the lobby?

See, this is BS. Why do we allow kids to be disruptive as hell, just because they are kids? That’s so rude! Why, in a room of five quiet adults, should ONE ADULT have to get up and leave? Why does your child’s rowdiness trump the other adult’s peace? Nobody wants to listen to your loud child. Not in the grocery store, not in the quiet waiting area of a child’s activity, either. Take that outside.

+1000, but not at all surprising that this isn't a popular answer since we're in the land of kids ruling the roost

I’ve never seen a post that has made this so utterly apparent. I am feeling so proud of my own parenting and child after reading this.

You have one child and you are congratulating yourself on....being able to entertain and keep one child quiet places? LOL! One child is barely parenting.

What would your amazing parenting strategy be for keeping a newborn, 2 yo and 3 yo silent in a small waiting room for an hour. Please, tell us.

Not signing my child up for a class if it meant my other children would have to annoy a room of adults to do so.

Really? If you had more than one child, you would never sign them up for classes? Sure, Jan.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's only rude if the noise was disturbing the class. Although the waiting room was quiet, there's no rule (said or unsaid) that it had to be quiet.

+2 It is a waiting room for families of young dancers, not your office. Entirely expected that even younger siblings are going to be stuck there waiting through the lesson.

Agree. The unusual part is that the other 5 parents were there without other siblings in tow. How odd. If you want peace and quiet, OP, you could go sit outside, in your car, etc. A waiting room at a children's activity is likely going to be noisy and full of children.

That is strange. I rarely see parents at kids activities without at least one other older or younger sibling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just get up and go out to the lobby?

See, this is BS. Why do we allow kids to be disruptive as hell, just because they are kids? That’s so rude! Why, in a room of five quiet adults, should ONE ADULT have to get up and leave? Why does your child’s rowdiness trump the other adult’s peace? Nobody wants to listen to your loud child. Not in the grocery store, not in the quiet waiting area of a child’s activity, either. Take that outside.

+1000, but not at all surprising that this isn't a popular answer since we're in the land of kids ruling the roost

I’ve never seen a post that has made this so utterly apparent. I am feeling so proud of my own parenting and child after reading this.

You have one child and you are congratulating yourself on....being able to entertain and keep one child quiet places? LOL! One child is barely parenting.

What would your amazing parenting strategy be for keeping a newborn, 2 yo and 3 yo silent in a small waiting room for an hour. Please, tell us.

Not signing my child up for a class if it meant my other children would have to annoy a room of adults to do so.

Really? If you had more than one child, you would never sign them up for classes? Sure, Jan.

Nobody asked her to have so many kids so close together. No sympathy from me. I don’t ask for sympathy for my personal parenting problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just get up and go out to the lobby?

See, this is BS. Why do we allow kids to be disruptive as hell, just because they are kids? That’s so rude! Why, in a room of five quiet adults, should ONE ADULT have to get up and leave? Why does your child’s rowdiness trump the other adult’s peace? Nobody wants to listen to your loud child. Not in the grocery store, not in the quiet waiting area of a child’s activity, either. Take that outside.

+1000, but not at all surprising that this isn't a popular answer since we're in the land of kids ruling the roost

I’ve never seen a post that has made this so utterly apparent. I am feeling so proud of my own parenting and child after reading this.

You have one child and you are congratulating yourself on....being able to entertain and keep one child quiet places? LOL! One child is barely parenting.

What would your amazing parenting strategy be for keeping a newborn, 2 yo and 3 yo silent in a small waiting room for an hour. Please, tell us.

I snorted at this one too. Keeping one kid quiet is something almost any adult human can do quite easily.Big whoop, hon.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm less concerned about mom with newborn, 2 and 3 year old than I am about OP and a few uptight pp's. And you're mothers, ick! Your kids must be precious.

We wish! No, we just had the decency to remove them from quiet situations when they couldn’t be quiet themselves.

A waiting room isn't a church service or a library. It's not a "quiet situation".

A waiting room for a kids activity is not meant to be quiet.

It’s there so moms can bring siblings while the class is in session. When you’re in kid spaces you might run into ... gasp! Children!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's only rude if the noise was disturbing the class. Although the waiting room was quiet, there's no rule (said or unsaid) that it had to be quiet.

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just get up and go out to the lobby?

See, this is BS. Why do we allow kids to be disruptive as hell, just because they are kids? That’s so rude! Why, in a room of five quiet adults, should ONE ADULT have to get up and leave? Why does your child’s rowdiness trump the other adult’s peace? Nobody wants to listen to your loud child. Not in the grocery store, not in the quiet waiting area of a child’s activity, either. Take that outside.

+1000, but not at all surprising that this isn't a popular answer since we're in the land of kids ruling the roost

I’ve never seen a post that has made this so utterly apparent. I am feeling so proud of my own parenting and child after reading this.

You have one child and you are congratulating yourself on....being able to entertain and keep one child quiet places? LOL! One child is barely parenting.

What would your amazing parenting strategy be for keeping a newborn, 2 yo and 3 yo silent in a small waiting room for an hour. Please, tell us.

Not signing my child up for a class if it meant my other children would have to annoy a room of adults to do so.

Really? If you had more than one child, you would never sign them up for classes? Sure, Jan.

Nobody asked her to have so many kids so close together. No sympathy from me. I don’t ask for sympathy for my personal parenting problems.

No one cares about you and your problems. We are just agreeing that its unreasonable to expect a monastical waiting room at a little kids activity. Ain't going to happen.

[Anonymous]

There are parents of only children who get in this myopic "Only Child Mindset". The stage of life their kid is at and what's most pleasant and convenient for their family is the only thing that matters to them. They completely forget what their own child was like a few years ago and have no comprehension of what their child will be like in a few years. Its sad and weird and must be very isolating.