Was this rude? Or do I need to unclench?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm less concerned about mom with newborn, 2 and 3 year old than I am about OP and a few uptight pp's. And you're mothers, ick! Your kids must be precious.

We wish! No, we just had the decency to remove them from quiet situations when they couldn’t be quiet themselves.

A waiting room isn't a church service or a library. It's not a "quiet situation".

So you’re telling me that you would have allowed your kids to be disruptive to the other adults, simply because it was a studio where kids dance? What if adults dance there, too? It’s just rude. You are just rude.

Adults have conversations in waiting rooms. Therefore young children are not doing anything wrong by making noise either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I find it oddest that there were (multiple)? parents working on laptops during a kids dance class.

And not having empathy for the undoubtedly tired mom of a newborn with 3 other kids. Couldn't someone help the poor woman by holding the baby or playing with the kids? Read them a book or something.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm less concerned about mom with newborn, 2 and 3 year old than I am about OP and a few uptight pp's. And you're mothers, ick! Your kids must be precious.

We wish! No, we just had the decency to remove them from quiet situations when they couldn’t be quiet themselves.

A waiting room isn't a church service or a library. It's not a "quiet situation".

So you’re telling me that you would have allowed your kids to be disruptive to the other adults, simply because it was a studio where kids dance? What if adults dance there, too? It’s just rude. You are just rude.

Adults have conversations in waiting rooms. Therefore young children are not doing anything wrong by making noise either.

Ok. But in this situation, it seems the adults were being quiet. Seems pretty rude to barge in and disrupt the quiet once you realize everyone is being quiet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's only rude if the noise was disturbing the class. Although the waiting room was quiet, there's no rule (said or unsaid) that it had to be quiet.

+1.

[Anonymous]

If this happened in a dental or medical office serving exclusively or mainly adults, then I would find it completely obnoxious as a parent of teens.

In a kids' dance studio? Not so much. In this case, I would probably go outside and sit in my car if they were too noisy for me. I can vote with my feet and leave, too.

[Anonymous]

I guess I’ll unclench. I wasn’t asking as much about the general noise as I was about the shouting and jumping. It is a tiny room and the kid was loud. I would have walked out, but I felt bad and didn’t want to be that person who got up and left, plus, I wanted to watch DD through the window. And yes, when the boy would shriek loudly, he would get the girls’ attention and they’d be distracted. If it happens again next week, perhaps I’ll go out. Maybe I’ll bring headphones.

-OP

[Anonymous]

Unclench. Twice.

[Anonymous]

Was there an option of YOU going into the other waiting room? Unclench.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm less concerned about mom with newborn, 2 and 3 year old than I am about OP and a few uptight pp's. And you're mothers, ick! Your kids must be precious.

We wish! No, we just had the decency to remove them from quiet situations when they couldn’t be quiet themselves.

A waiting room isn't a church service or a library. It's not a "quiet situation".

So you’re telling me that you would have allowed your kids to be disruptive to the other adults, simply because it was a studio where kids dance? What if adults dance there, too? It’s just rude. You are just rude.

DP, here, and no, I wouldn’t have allowed it, but it doesn’t sound like this mom really meant to allow it either if she was constantly shushing the kids. I definitely would have helped out this mom. Or maybe offered to walk into the other waiting area with her if that’s what was needed. Every woman in that waiting room was a mother and had the skill set to help out and none did. That’s so heartless.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm less concerned about mom with newborn, 2 and 3 year old than I am about OP and a few uptight pp's. And you're mothers, ick! Your kids must be precious.

We wish! No, we just had the decency to remove them from quiet situations when they couldn’t be quiet themselves.

A waiting room isn't a church service or a library. It's not a "quiet situation".

So you’re telling me that you would have allowed your kids to be disruptive to the other adults, simply because it was a studio where kids dance? What if adults dance there, too? It’s just rude. You are just rude.

Adults have conversations in waiting rooms. Therefore young children are not doing anything wrong by making noise either.

Ok. But in this situation, it seems the adults were being quiet. Seems pretty rude to barge in and disrupt the quiet once you realize everyone is being quiet.

That might be the dumbest thing I've read this week. Congratulations, I guess.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That sounds really annoying and the mom sounds completely oblivious. I would just let it go. Next time, just put on your headphones and drown out the noise with some music.

This. She and her kids live in a world with others. A public space means you have to think of others.

It also means you can't expect quiet in a waiting room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's only rude if the noise was disturbing the class. Although the waiting room was quiet, there's no rule (said or unsaid) that it had to be quiet.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just get up and go out to the lobby?

See, this is BS. Why do we allow kids to be disruptive as hell, just because they are kids? That’s so rude! Why, in a room of five quiet adults, should ONE ADULT have to get up and leave? Why does your child’s rowdiness trump the other adult’s peace? Nobody wants to listen to your loud child. Not in the grocery store, not in the quiet waiting area of a child’s activity, either. Take that outside.

+1000, but not at all surprising that this isn't a popular answer since we're in the land of kids ruling the roost

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just get up and go out to the lobby?

See, this is BS. Why do we allow kids to be disruptive as hell, just because they are kids? That’s so rude! Why, in a room of five quiet adults, should ONE ADULT have to get up and leave? Why does your child’s rowdiness trump the other adult’s peace? Nobody wants to listen to your loud child. Not in the grocery store, not in the quiet waiting area of a child’s activity, either. Take that outside.

+1000, but not at all surprising that this isn't a popular answer since we're in the land of kids ruling the roost

I’ve never seen a post that has made this so utterly apparent. I am feeling so proud of my own parenting and child after reading this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not rude, but I understand it's not the most comfortable situation.

This is a mother who is so used to her family's noise that she can't even hear how loud they really are.

Or she simply doesn't care and feels that it's on everyone else to just deal with little Buford's behavior.