My teen refuses to live with her mother

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't advise you on most of what you're asking about but I would absolutely not leave a teen alone in my house while I'm traveling for work. There's too much temptation to get into trouble.

This.

You should talk to a lawyer. 16 is old enough to decide who to live with (BTDT), but she’ll need a better argument than “I’m mad with my mom because she is a cheating whore.”

[Anonymous]

I’m a single woman and there’s no way I would spend the night at a guy’s house with his teenage daughter there. Ugh. Unless maybe we were engaged. I would think poorly of a dad who would suggest that I sleep over with his daughter there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Getting a divorce shouldn't give you a break from your kids, it should give you a break from your spouse.

Amen. He is all happy not to have to "babysit" his own kids!

Op here. Actually I have been the default parent for years. But by all means, please keep projecting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to change your work schedule to be a full time parent. Grow up. No she cannot stay alone. No, do not go after child support if you do not need it. If you make more you could pay.

I work from home so that isn’t an issue. Why should I pay my wife child support if the child doesn’t live with her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Getting a divorce shouldn't give you a break from your kids, it should give you a break from your spouse.

Amen. He is all happy not to have to "babysit" his own kids!

Op here. Actually I have been the default parent for years. But by all means, please keep projecting.

Re-read your post .. You constantly lament having your kid and are looking forr ways to not parent her..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Change custody and never leave a 16 year old alone overnight. This advice is for married and single parents. It is not about her being able to stay home alone, she is capable of that, it is about throwing parties, drinking and smoking pot when you are away. This is common sense for parent's of teens.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to change your work schedule to be a full time parent. Grow up. No she cannot stay alone. No, do not go after child support if you do not need it. If you make more you could pay.

I work from home so that isn’t an issue. Why should I pay my wife child support if the child doesn’t live with her?

Because your wife needs a home that your daughter can go to. It's you and your daughter who decided to not have her go to her moms. Her mom is not absent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:your daughter needs counseling. You need to insist on this counseling. The most problematic part of this whole thing is the girl not wanting a relationship with a non-abusive mom - that will have long-term negative emotional consequences for her. The logistics of where she lives is much less important than this.

My daughter is receiving counseling.

She would tell you her mother is emotionally abusive. That’s what she tells the therapists anyway. I don’t know if I would go that far — I don’t think my daughter knows what emotional abuse actually is, but her mother is definitely cold, nasty and self-absorbed. I have been the default parent for most of their lives. She is actually mad at me for not leaving her mother sooner when she was younger, but she doesn’t understand how custody laws work.

But yeah, she comes first. It’s not like I am ready to date, anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to change your work schedule to be a full time parent. Grow up. No she cannot stay alone. No, do not go after child support if you do not need it. If you make more you could pay.

I work from home so that isn’t an issue. Why should I pay my wife child support if the child doesn’t live with her?

Because your wife needs a home that your daughter can go to. It's you and your daughter who decided to not have her go to her moms. Her mom is not absent.

Are you stupid or do you just lack reading skills? No, my wife and I decided we would do 50/50. That was a mutual agreement. My daughter refuses. When I encouraged my daughter to give it a try, my daughter started getting mad at me because I wouldn’t just join her in bashing her mother. Her mother is, indeed, a vacuous, greedy, selfish cheating whore, but that is not something I would ever say to her children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Getting a divorce shouldn't give you a break from your kids, it should give you a break from your spouse.

Amen. He is all happy not to have to "babysit" his own kids!

Op here. Actually I have been the default parent for years. But by all means, please keep projecting.

Re-read your post .. You constantly lament having your kid and are looking forr ways to not parent her..

Bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll take your daughter since clearly neither of you care about her best interests.

F*ck you, you nasty twat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Getting a divorce shouldn't give you a break from your kids, it should give you a break from your spouse.

Amen. He is all happy not to have to "babysit" his own kids!

Op here. Actually I have been the default parent for years. But by all means, please keep projecting.

Then how is this an issue. You need to change your schedule for no travel or get a babysitter and put her as a priority. Your dating life should not be your focus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Getting a divorce shouldn't give you a break from your kids, it should give you a break from your spouse.

Amen. He is all happy not to have to "babysit" his own kids!

And the cheating wife?

Lol mom cheats and causes a divorce but dad is the bad guy.

[Anonymous]

Op, you should have posted as if you're mom.

Man hating PP's what if dad cheated, and DD didn't want to see him. Hmmm?

That would be the price he pays for breaking up the family. And poor, poor mom has to parentctwo teens without a break. She has to dobir all by herself.

[Anonymous]

* parent two*

And

*do it*