Son doesn't want to come home for Easter because we won't visit him in his new house

[Anonymous]

OP, you are wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Must be a troll. That one that always fakes she is a MIL.

I thought the same thing!

[Anonymous]

It’s your turn Mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you son is “home” — at his home.

+1

[Anonymous]

My mom was always “too busy” for us when we were young adult. Heck, she wouldn’t even drive me 4 hours to drop me off at college because it interfered with a hobby of hers. Now she wonders why she doesn’t have a relationship with her adult children. You get what you put in.

[Anonymous]

Coming back "home" for Easter? Troll, troll, troll.

[Anonymous]

Omg you guys this might be my MIL except I had a baby and not a dog and the trip is only 3 hours. They never ever visit and don’t realize how selfish this is. I wish my dh stood up to them the way this son did. Props to this son

[Anonymous]

My family never visits. My In Laws do. My kids love my in laws. They have no clue who my parents are. OP might be a troll but she so8nds a lot like my mother who could not visit for the same reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you son is “home” — at his home.

This. He is home!!!

[Anonymous]

It’s your turn. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they’ve visited you twice already, he’s making it clear it’s your turn to travel to see them. I’d go Easter if you can swing it, and if not, then find another time that works. It’s your turn, it’s not a big deal, there’s nothing to be “hurt” over.

+1 You're expecting your son and his wife to make a lot of effort but you're not exerting the same level. That's okay if you were operating in extremis but you're not. So get your act together, OP, and go visit your son to see his new home!

[Anonymous]

Are you jealous of their home, and/or their superior hosting and entertaining?

[Anonymous]

I'm on the receiving end of this. Very disappointed that my able bodied, retired mom won't visit. I understand about not wanting to drive but have offered to pay her airfare and host her. She's happy enough to have us visit but won't make the effort to come here. But "us" going there is a much bigger production due to multiple children, having to take and coordinate vacation and child care arrangements. It's frustrating, but she just won't budge. She would rather spend the holidays alone than travel. I think she is anxious about traveling alone, but still...

[Anonymous]

It’s cathartic to me to read everyone against the OP. OP is just like my parents and I’ve always wondered why they don’t visit and what I did wrong.

[Anonymous]

OP, tell your kid the same thing that I would tell mine if they were this selfish: "Life happens. Man up and deal with it." I have three sons who are in their 20's. We talk. We do not waste time visiting one another. They have their own lives and so do I. One of them is a Type 1 diabetic and has almost died multiple times. I do not spend my life hanging onto his coattails, nor does he need me around in order to survive. I raised my boys to be tough men and not petulant toddlers.