My nephew is a sex worker who lies to his mom about being in college and working. Should I tell?
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Anonymous
I know God's law. My personal ethics are beside the point. |
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| I really don't understand the rationale behind those who said MYOB. We're talking about an illegal act that is dangerous and in some cases implicate other criminal characters. Also, this implicates deciet on the son's part. This is not a lifestyle choice. If this was about the kid being promiscuous or have a certain fetish, sure MYOB--this is not that case. |
Anonymous
| OP: I've texted him that we love him and I invited him to dinner, at a restaurant near his home. (no response). His mom likely knows she is being played. She tends to want to "kill the messenger," so I'm not going there. |
Anonymous
Exactly! Plus this is her sister and her kid. Not some neighbor she barely knows. I think a lot of people on this forum have a very strange relationship with their immediate family. In mine, we take care of each other. |
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| I would tell only because mom deserves to know something as earth shattering as someone not really being in college yet pretending to use money for that. I don’t care if he was off being a clown at the carnival and not a sex worker, the profession doesn’t matter to me. Letting a parent think you’re in college when you’re not is just plain wrong. |
Anonymous
That’s interesting to me because if it were something else like a circus, I’d probably keep my mouth shut. But moral judgement aside, her nephew is putting himself in danger. The rate of AIDS among sex workers is at least 12x higher than the general population, I’m sure it’s the same for other diseases too and maybe even higher than that if it’s gay prostitution. And while he may not be on drugs himself, he’s probably in the same circles as people who are, in addition to johns or angry husbands/boyfriends who beat up prostitutes. The profession absolutely does matter. He’s putting himself at huge risk and could easily get himself in some kind of situation that he might need family help to get out of, or end up dead. He needs to have somebody to turn to if he gets in over his head. I’d be mad about the lying but more worried than anything else. |
Anonymous
| You need to tell. This isn't one of your sons friends... this is your sisters kid. What would you want in her situation? Sex work is unacceptable and he needs help to get out before he ends up dead, HIV-positive, and/or addicted to drugs. |
Anonymous
+ 2 million |
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He’s gay and working as a prostiture. And, he lies about his life.
And you hide this from your own sister |
Anonymous
Tell and your son will never trust you again. MYOB |
Anonymous
| Not even a week into the new year and y'all already showing our! I see you Op! |
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You could probably get the help he needs if you spoke out or reached out
If he died tomorrow, while it’s his responsibility. You would feel at fault too. At least I hope you do. You can speak up and say something and you’re just being a coward about it! I hope one day your son gets in serious trouble and no one tells you anything... |
Anonymous
Nope. We found his ad. I am forwarding it to his mom via an anonymous email address. She will have to deal with the lies about school/work herself. |
Anonymous
Best plan. Good luck OP. |