My nephew is a sex worker who lies to his mom about being in college and working. Should I tell?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm always amazed at what DCUM chooses to believe.

You don't believe there are gay hookers or that middle class people sometimes fall prey to this lifestyle? Or that one of them would be deluded enough to brag about his deception to his family regarding his "enlightened" lifestyle?

My nephew's mom was never a sex worker (that I know of) but spent years getting $ out of our parents for school, first lying about obtaining a degree, then getting more for "going back." It never resulted in any kind of degree, so her son is following in her footsteps as regards the whole education thing. That's part of the reason I'm not eager to wade into familial conflict. She's said he throws fits and cites an anxiety disorder anytime she asks him when he will be getting a b.a.

Don't be silly dear. If course there are sex workers and gay ones. I just don't believe you know one. I think you are a creative writer and testing out some new material.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm always amazed at what DCUM chooses to believe.

You don't believe there are gay hookers or that middle class people sometimes fall prey to this lifestyle? Or that one of them would be deluded enough to brag about his deception to his family regarding his "enlightened" lifestyle?

My nephew's mom was never a sex worker (that I know of) but spent years getting $ out of our parents for school, first lying about obtaining a degree, then getting more for "going back." It never resulted in any kind of degree, so her son is following in her footsteps as regards the whole education thing. That's part of the reason I'm not eager to wade into familial conflict. She's said he throws fits and cites an anxiety disorder anytime she asks him when he will be getting a b.a.

Don't be silly dear. If course there are sex workers and gay ones. I just don't believe you know one. I think you are a creative writer and testing out some new material.

I am a writer. I wish this were true. I've spent several nearly sleepless nights worrying about what to do but I've decided I can't do much more than sending out occasional invitations, which he'll accept when and if he's ready. He's an adult. I can only offer support if he's willing to accept it. My sister would only see my input as meddling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The nephew is 25 years old and has been doing this for awhile. My son wasn't supposed to tell me but was shocked and concerned, so I'm glad he confided in me. I know sister will go ballistic so I'm freaked out.

Wouldnt you hope your sister would tell you if she found out something like that about your son?

I agree with the other poster who said that if he wanted it a secret he would not have told your son.

He may want a way out but doesn't know how.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm always amazed at what DCUM chooses to believe.

You don't believe there are gay hookers or that middle class people sometimes fall prey to this lifestyle? Or that one of them would be deluded enough to brag about his deception to his family regarding his "enlightened" lifestyle?

My nephew's mom was never a sex worker (that I know of) but spent years getting $ out of our parents for school, first lying about obtaining a degree, then getting more for "going back." It never resulted in any kind of degree, so her son is following in her footsteps as regards the whole education thing. That's part of the reason I'm not eager to wade into familial conflict. She's said he throws fits and cites an anxiety disorder anytime she asks him when he will be getting a b.a.

Well well well social relational cycle
Repeats itself

Your sister has no one to blame but herself

He learned to
Hustle because she did it first.

Oh geez. Thats bad. I can see why you hesitated OP.

[Anonymous]

You did the right thing in a tough situation, OP. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MYOB. He is an adult and there is nothing wrong with what he’s doing, despite not living up to your sisters image of what a perfect son should do.

1. it is his business
2. there is something very wrong with what he is doing
3. you are a moron

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MYOB. He is an adult and there is nothing wrong with what he’s doing, despite not living up to your sisters image of what a perfect son should do.

I might be an old geezer, but since when nothing is 'wrong' with being a male prostitute??

[Anonymous]

Why do you continuously refer to your sister as “my nephew’s mother”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MYOB. He is an adult and there is nothing wrong with what he’s doing, despite not living up to your sisters image of what a perfect son should do.

I might be an old geezer, but since when nothing is 'wrong' with being a male prostitute??

Well that's how Al Gore worked his way through Harvard, so who are you to judge?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He is sick and neeeds help. Tell today.

How do you know he is sick? Just because you have ethical issues with sex work doesn't make it wrong

Mental health is clearly an issue with anyone who detaches enough to "rent themselves" - Signed a social worker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love all the sjw types bending over backwards they shave no issue with the nephew being a male hustler/ sex worker.

I don't know what 'sjw types' means - but aside from that I agree - I mean how could you keep this a secret ?!

[Anonymous]

Maybe My bleeding heart liberal self needs to make some sort of public statement that if one of my children is involved in sex work please let me know please

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She regularly sends him $. He recently told one of his cousins (our son) that he's not in school or really working at Whole Foods, as she believes. He's a sex worker on rent boy. My gut is telling me keep my mouth shut but what if he gets AIDS?

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OMG TELL! That is beyond the confines of questioning whether or not to keep a secret. The tis a sick industry and one where he could easily contact AIDS or another disease. Who would want that for their child? Moreover, what are the reasons he did that? He must have very low self esteem, surely he has other qualities that he can use to get a "real" job. First and foremost sounds like he needs intensive therapy. Run don't walk to tell out of love.

[Anonymous]

People this is fake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MYOB. He is an adult and there is nothing wrong with what he’s doing, despite not living up to your sisters image of what a perfect son should do.

I might be an old geezer, but since when nothing is 'wrong' with being a male prostitute??

Well that's how Al Gore worked his way through Harvard, so who are you to judge?

Really? I’ve seen the stories about his “chakra” but not this - any link?