My nephew is a sex worker who lies to his mom about being in college and working. Should I tell?

[Anonymous]

She regularly sends him $. He recently told one of his cousins (our son) that he's not in school or really working at Whole Foods, as she believes. He's a sex worker on rent boy. My gut is telling me keep my mouth shut but what if he gets AIDS?

[Anonymous]

Tell him, not her. Maybe he will tell her himself.

[Anonymous]

Tell. That's crazy.

[Anonymous]

Tell him that you know and you'll tell if he won't.

[Anonymous]

If it were my sister who knew about my kid doing this and she didn’t tell me. I’d permanently cut her from my life.

[Anonymous]

How is this even a question? OF COURSE I WOULD TELL

[Anonymous]

MYOB if he is of legal age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him that you know and you'll tell if he won't.

Yes, do this.

Tell him to tell her by X date and have her call you to confirm he told her

[Anonymous]

If he wanted it to be secret, he wouldn't have told your kid. Tell.

[Anonymous]

Nothing stopping you from mentioning it to him next time you see him. But other than that, mind your own business.

[Anonymous]

I would tell. This is your sister's child, who gave this information directly to your son, not some vague acquaintance. She needs to know. He's at high risk for getting HIV or hepatitis, or being a victim of violence. Better to know now and try to figure out how to help him than learn for the first time when the police show up at the door. The lying is obviously bad, but it seems almost a secondary focus at this point given the insanely risky behavior that the lie is covering for.

[Anonymous]

The nephew is 25 years old and has been doing this for awhile. My son wasn't supposed to tell me but was shocked and concerned, so I'm glad he confided in me. I know sister will go ballistic so I'm freaked out.

[Anonymous]

He needs help and could also have a history of abuse and have addiction issues to make a choice like this. I'd tell him that he needed to tell her or I would and I'd ask if he wanted me to be with him when he did tell his family.

[Anonymous]

OP this is upsetting information to have about your nephew. Do you have a good relationship with him? Can you talk to him about what he’s doing? Why he’s doing it and how he thinks that deceiving his parents this way is going to effect their relationship. He can’t fee good about what he’s doing. He probably needs help moving forward with the situation. Trying not to embarrass him will be difficult, but it’s important not to shame him as I suspect he will shut down at that point. I like the idea of asking him to tell his parents himself. Unfortunately youre in a no win situation.

[Anonymous]

Don’t tell. It’s not your information to share.