Why do some people have to compromise but others don’t?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have girlfriends who literally seem to have married men who are too good to be true. Handsome. Super successful. Wealthy. With great personalities who treat their wives so well. These women are so so happy and thankful. They got really really lucky!

I also know other women who didn’t get lucky at all. Some who are perpetually single and others who very obviously settled for good enough men so they wouldn’t be alone. Why no love for these women?

It's all about skin color and obesity genes.

[Anonymous]

Ok folks time for a reality check.

There are simply more successful women than men so most women are going to have to compromise somewhere

There is a glut of 30 something single successful beautiful women in this town and there simply aren't enough guys that can compete

If the goal was marrying an equal people should have been much more strategic and aggressive at college and in their 20s

[Anonymous]

Why is it lucky to have chosen a good spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got lucky like that. My husband does well financially but more than that, he treats me like a princess. He takes care of all the small unpleasant details in life (from taxes and bills to travel details to taking my car to get serviced. I never do any of that stuff. For instance we’re on a beach vacation and I’m sitting in the house nominally watching the kids watch tv while he breaks down the beach tent and chairs).

I’m the first to admit I got supremely lucky. He’s just a great, kind, hard working guy.

Smart.

Someone needs to marry neurodiverse folks.

Win/ win for lazy women with princess complex.

[Anonymous]

No one is perfect. On the outside I seem like a great catch. Decent salary, funny, good looking, young etc

But I've done some crappy stuff that hurt her feelings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got lucky like that. My husband does well financially but more than that, he treats me like a princess. He takes care of all the small unpleasant details in life (from taxes and bills to travel details to taking my car to get serviced. I never do any of that stuff. For instance we’re on a beach vacation and I’m sitting in the house nominally watching the kids watch tv while he breaks down the beach tent and chairs).

I’m the first to admit I got supremely lucky. He’s just a great, kind, hard working guy.

What do you contribute to the marriage? You sound proud of being treated like a helpless child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have girlfriends who literally seem to have married men who are too good to be true. Handsome. Super successful. Wealthy. With great personalities who treat their wives so well. These women are so so happy and thankful. They got really really lucky!

I also know other women who didn’t get lucky at all. Some who are perpetually single and others who very obviously settled for good enough men so they wouldn’t be alone. Why no love for these women?

That's the sentiment?
OP, do you like one particular other woman's husband? Otherwise, it doesn't make any sense.

[Anonymous]

I dont know . . . I give up.

[Anonymous]

I think you could use a new hobby, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Life isn't fair.

+1
I will add that bad things can happen to anyone at any point. It is cliche, obviously, but just focus on appreciating what you have in life and be optimistic about your future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life isn't fair.

+1
I will add that bad things can happen to anyone at any point. It is cliche, obviously, but just focus on appreciating what you have in life and be optimistic about your future.

Wrong! Also, if you want something in life, go out and make it happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it lucky to have chosen a good spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life isn't fair.

+1
I will add that bad things can happen to anyone at any point. It is cliche, obviously, but just focus on appreciating what you have in life and be optimistic about your future.

Wrong! Also, if you want something in life, go out and make it happen.

lol what? What is wrong about the above statement? Notice the part about optimism?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life isn't fair.

+1
I will add that bad things can happen to anyone at any point. It is cliche, obviously, but just focus on appreciating what you have in life and be optimistic about your future.

Wrong! Also, if you want something in life, go out and make it happen.

Maybe you've never had bad, unexpected things happen to you (illness, death, being impacted by a natural disaster, etc.) but your attitude of having complete control over all aspects of your life will only serve you until your first rude awakening.

[Anonymous]

I mostly credit my success, which included 2 engagements to infinitely marriageable men, to being the kind of woman those men wanted. I don’t mean hot. I mean professionally successful myself, considerate, a booster of their careers, giver of good advice for work politics. The kind of men who really respect women as people tend to value professional success. The kind of men who value their careers appreciate the career coaching. If a guy didn’t appreciate those things, we broke up quickly.