What do your kids call their friends parents

[Anonymous]

Mr or Mrs last name unless told otherwise by the adult being named. My kids also use ma'am, sir, until familiar and especially with authority.

[Anonymous]

95% of my son's friends call me Larlo's mom.
The rest try to call me Larla and I tell them "you may call me Larlo's mom. Ms. Larla, or Ms. Jones but please don't call me Larla".

They are still in ES. I think in HS Larlo's mom will become weird and it will change to Ms. Jones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All first names, they usually ask and often refer to them as "Sam's mom or dad" but not a single one of their friends parents has asked or required being Mr or Mrs X. You all sound so old fashioned.

I think it's a social class thing. My kids are exposed socially in a lot of formal settings often times with familiar people. They have had to learn proper social graces. They would appear unclutured, rude, and common if they didn't address adults in a way that is socially appropriate.

[Anonymous]

My son is only 4, but his friends call me "Miss First Name" (I'm married, but the Ms/Miss/Mrs. doesn't faze me).

I ask others what they'd like to be called, and instruct him to call them as they wish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless a parent indicates otherwise, we emphasize the use of "Mr. and Mrs. Lastname."

We've found a lot of our younger DD's friends use "Miss First Name or Mr. First Name". Which drives me nuts. We aren't your preschool teachers.

Mr/Mrs first name for us. Why are preschool teachers less deserving of respect than you?

I think a question might be why aren’t preschool teachers called Miss/Mrs. Last Name? Why are kindergarten teachers “Miss Smith”, while preschool teachers are Miss Larla? Are they not as deserving of the same respect or title?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All first names, they usually ask and often refer to them as "Sam's mom or dad" but not a single one of their friends parents has asked or required being Mr or Mrs X. You all sound so old fashioned.

I think it's a social class thing. My kids are exposed socially in a lot of formal settings often times with familiar people. They have had to learn proper social graces. They would appear unclutured, rude, and common if they didn't address adults in a way that is socially appropriate.

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[Anonymous]

It has been "Hi, Jake's mom/Jake's dad".. I should start enforcing "Mr. and Mrs.xxxx" soon.

[Anonymous]

Miss (even if they're married) or Mr. First Name
Close friends are Aunt/Uncle First Name

[Anonymous]

We go by our first names as do many of our close friends. It seems at our child's elementary school many parents prefer Mr. or Mrs. so I either say "Larla's mom" or I ask what they like to be called. I direct my children to call them whatever their preference is. I personally prefer first name though.

[Anonymous]

My kids are preschoolers so we haven't had to deal with this yet, but now you've got me thinking.

I think I'd probably ask them, "what should Larlo call you?" and I'd encourage my kids to ask the same question. What does everyone think about that?

Personally, I'd be happy if other kids called me my first name. I don't want them to call me Mrs. Larlos-last-name because I never use that - I didn't change my name when I got married and I have a PhD anyway (which our kids' friends would probably never know) so if we're really being formal then my title is Dr, which I find pretentious. And Mr. Larlos-last-name won't work for my husband since the kids have my last name and not his.

I'd be okay with my kids calling them Mr or Mrs whatever, if that's what they asked to be called, but honestly I probably wouldn't be encouraging those friendships because I'd think they're a bunch of snobs. Kids calling them by their first name when they haven't been invited to do so is rude though, I agree.

[Anonymous]

One of my daughter's friends calls me "second mom". As in, "Hey! My second mom!" The rest call me by my first name except for her boyfriend who is very polite and refers to me as Ma'am, which I think is cute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are preschoolers so we haven't had to deal with this yet, but now you've got me thinking.

I think I'd probably ask them, "what should Larlo call you?" and I'd encourage my kids to ask the same question. What does everyone think about that?

Personally, I'd be happy if other kids called me my first name. I don't want them to call me Mrs. Larlos-last-name because I never use that - I didn't change my name when I got married and I have a PhD anyway (which our kids' friends would probably never know) so if we're really being formal then my title is Dr, which I find pretentious. And Mr. Larlos-last-name won't work for my husband since the kids have my last name and not his.

I'd be okay with my kids calling them Mr or Mrs whatever, if that's what they asked to be called, but honestly I probably wouldn't be encouraging those friendships because I'd think they're a bunch of snobs. Kids calling them by their first name when they haven't been invited to do so is rude though, I agree.

And btw for the "social class", "unclutured" (sic) PP above, we've traveled extensively, lived on multiple continents, my kids have several citizenships, and we both have graduate degrees from good schools in challenging fields.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All first names, they usually ask and often refer to them as "Sam's mom or dad" but not a single one of their friends parents has asked or required being Mr or Mrs X. You all sound so old fashioned.

I think it's a social class thing. My kids are exposed socially in a lot of formal settings often times with familiar people. They have had to learn proper social graces. They would appear unclutured, rude, and common if they didn't address adults in a way that is socially appropriate.

No, it's not a social class thing. You're not classier than the girl down the block who calls me Alyssa just because you insist your daughter call me Ms. Goldman. You're southern, or you like to put on airs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually Ms Firstname and Mr Lastname or I get a lot of “hi Sally’s Mom! Hey sally’s Mom can I have a snack?”

The first time someone called "Sally's mom" I thought it was so strange and hilarious ... my daughter is now 7 and I still get called Sally's mom, but I find it quite cute now. And still funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are preschoolers so we haven't had to deal with this yet, but now you've got me thinking.

I think I'd probably ask them, "what should Larlo call you?" and I'd encourage my kids to ask the same question. What does everyone think about that?

Personally, I'd be happy if other kids called me my first name. I don't want them to call me Mrs. Larlos-last-name because I never use that - I didn't change my name when I got married and I have a PhD anyway (which our kids' friends would probably never know) so if we're really being formal then my title is Dr, which I find pretentious. And Mr. Larlos-last-name won't work for my husband since the kids have my last name and not his.

I'd be okay with my kids calling them Mr or Mrs whatever, if that's what they asked to be called, but honestly I probably wouldn't be encouraging those friendships because I'd think they're a bunch of snobs. Kids calling them by their first name when they haven't been invited to do so is rude though, I agree.

And btw for the "social class", "unclutured" (sic) PP above, we've traveled extensively, lived on multiple continents, my kids have several citizenships, and we both have graduate degrees from good schools in challenging fields.

That's not the social class she's talking about. As someone who grew up in Middleburg where the highest social class meant being invited to dinner at Mrs. Mellon' s Oak Spring "home" you would not call her, not any of her guests Mrs Rachel.