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Is 46 too old to be TTC?
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Anonymous
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Absolutely not. I had my first at 42, a month shy of 43 and plan on TTC next when I'm 46...did I say 46??? Yes.
You're only 29! You don't understand why some of us wait to have children and let me tell you, there are plenty of reasons. I won't go into detail as to why we waited, but we did, and it's great. It really is none of your business. |
Anonymous
| PP here. I didn't use donor eggs and probably won't have to next year. |
Anonymous
| pp, please send some of your karma my way. 42, and TTC #2. Just started the natural way, and I am holding my breath. Any advice? Unlikely to go IVF or DE route. First came along when I was 38. |
Anonymous
Well...you are a creep. |
Anonymous
14:21 here. I'm sure my mother going through menopause at 58 has something to do with it. I also wonder if it's because I haven't eaten meat in over decades. In any case, I got pregnant every month we TTC, although some didn't work, ie, missed m/c, chemicle, but after 3 m/c, we conceived our son. I wasn't on fertility drugs but I had had a consultation with an RE, for I wanted to find the golden egg and eventually succeeded. He believes I'll be able to pull off another pregnancy, naturally, when I'm 46. Not a surprise to anyone, but it is more common to have m/c in your forties. So don't lose sight of the end product, and know that there might be some hurdles to cross, but it's all worth it. |
Anonymous
| PP, what did the RE tell you at the consult? |
Anonymous
| Hang in there OP. I will answer your question without being judgmental. I think you are concerned about your friend's welfare and that is admirable. However, it is obviously something that she, along with her doctor(s) and husband have deliberated long and hard over. They made a decision to try this course of action. Whether you think it is right or wrong is not for you to articulate to your friend. She will not appreciate your thoughts on the matter. At this time, she will need your support as the freind you say you are to help her through this process. Your friend is undertaking a difficult journey, as IVF is expensive and not always successful. Just be a supportive friend when, and if, she needs you. I wish you and your friend, happy and healthy babies. |
Anonymous
| When I was 29, a freind of mine lost a child in an accident. She was in her early forties, and discussed having another baby. I thought it was crazy-talk, wondering if that was even possible. Wasn't menopause at 40? Did people still have sex that old? Now that I am in my early 40's, and have young children, (and an active sex life) I realize how uninformed I was. |
Anonymous
| OP you will offend someone on here, no matter what you ask. Welcome to DCUM. |
Anonymous
You have young children AND an active sex life? What's your secret? 
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Anonymous
Did this ever get answered? Because I'd pay good money for the scoop... |
Anonymous
| 50 is much too old to have a child in preschool |
Anonymous
So, why are you beating this dead horse? You must be bored. |
Anonymous
| OP, you are right. I believe it is selfish to have your first biological child intentionally at 46. Would I ever say this to her? No. But this is how I really feel. |
Anonymous
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My mom had me at 44 without use of fertility drugs. I have/had a great relationship with my parents (my father is now deceased). I had a very happy childhood and just had a baby at 41. My sister became a mom at age 42. They say that women who have children in their 40's, have quadruple the chance of living to 100. I have mom friends who are older than I am, and ones who are younger. I really don't see much difference.
Yes, egg quality declines with age, but the vast,vast majority of pregnancies that start with a poor egg end in miscarriage. Most children with Down Syndrome are born to young mothers. |