Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...

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Anonymous wrote:Don't let this great opportunity pass you by. If you don't have a friend willing to take the dog, try a dog walker or dog sitter. They often have their own dogs and probably wouldn't mind taking one in for a reasonable price.

The only option would be boarding because my friends and extended family all have small children or big dogs so it wouldn't work. I suppose I could, the problem is just that my dog is nearly blind so I don't want him to be somewhere new/without me and be completely freaked out. Maybe I'm overthinking it but he's my fur baby and it would stress me out.

So don't move.
OP, you're annoying.

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I would be sad. Will your dog wear socks?
The kind with rubber padding? They would protect the floors.
Is that really the only part of the dog moving in Mom is really worried about?

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You sound immature and entitled. You bought a house with lots of problems you should have known about before, and now you want your mom to bail you out. If your house has appreciated so much, why do you have to sell it right this minute? Get looking for a new house and when you find one you can list your home. It sounds like it is in a desirable location and will sell quickly. Or rent an apartment or board your dog. The thing about the floors may just be one reason. I don't particularly like dogs and definitely wouldn't want one to move into my house, new floors or not. It's not like you have an emergency and she is kicking you to the curb. You want to use her to make more money for yourself and she doesn't want to be taken advantage of. Figure out another way.

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OP you mom has every right not to want your dog in her house. Hardwood floors or not some people just don't like animals all over their stuff. Find another solution and stop living like your mother owes you something. she doesn't.

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Plenty of people would say no dogs. Your mom is ok with your entire family moving in with her while you look for another place and you are mad becasue she won't welcome the dog? Stop being so entitled and selfish.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to grow up. Either board the dog, or live somewhere else. You're an adult, and your mom has every right to make decisions about her home.

Yeah, this.

Seriously OP? It's not up to your Mom to make your selling and moving experience easier.

+ 100. You are a grown-up. Not only that, but it's not as if you NEED to move in with your mother or else you'll be homeless/not have enough to eat/etc. You just want to save some money and make your life a bit easier. Guess what? Your mother is also entitled to wanting her life to be a bit easier. You are not the only person in the world. Your mother would be well within her rights to say no to you living with her, let alone to say yes and just bar the dog. She is entitled to her preferences in her own home!

For the record - I have a loving, caring mother who hates pets and also loves to keep her house spotless - she'd never take in a pet. Plenty of people do not want to live with pets and that's their right. When you want to move in into someone else's house, you have to put up with their quirks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't let this great opportunity pass you by. If you don't have a friend willing to take the dog, try a dog walker or dog sitter. They often have their own dogs and probably wouldn't mind taking one in for a reasonable price.

The only option would be boarding because my friends and extended family all have small children or big dogs so it wouldn't work. I suppose I could, the problem is just that my dog is nearly blind so I don't want him to be somewhere new/without me and be completely freaked out. Maybe I'm overthinking it but he's my fur baby and it would stress me out.

Hi OP, this is pp above. I do totally get that. Maybe you can tough it out in a tiny apartment that accepts pets for a while. Your mom might be willing to store some of your things until you find a new home and that will help with your costs. Like a pp mentioned, there will be taxes to pay unless you purchase a home within a certain amount of time, can't remember what that is off the top of my head.

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I don't understand your mom's position. My 8lb dog doesn't mess up our wood floors. I think DCUM is just filled with dog haters.

But regardless, I wouldn't board a dog for that long. Either ask a friend or live in an apartment.

[Anonymous]

Before you sell, have a realtor give you list of the fees that will be required for you to sell your house and a list of the fees and refinance charges/closing costs for you to buy another house. Realtor's charge 6% of the sale price of the house, plus buyer frequently ask for help with the closing costs. Sometimes, it it cheaper to put that money into the house and fix it up the way you want. There is capital gains tax on the profit of the sale of your house, but that doesn't kick in until $250k for a single person or $500k for a married couple. Also, keep in mind that all houses have maintenance projects and costs and bugs.- even condos, townhouses and new houses.

Before you sell, learn how to live within your means (below is better) and not rely on credit. Get your spending under control. Otherwise, you will find yourself in the same position in the new house and be able to bail yourself out with your house equity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand your mom's position. My 8lb dog doesn't mess up our wood floors. I think DCUM is just filled with dog haters.

But regardless, I wouldn't board a dog for that long. Either ask a friend or live in an apartment.

No, some of us chastising OP are dog lovers. But, OP's mother does not want a dog on her new wood floors. It's not whether you like dogs or not, but the option to bring the dog to her mother's house is not available. Her house, her rules. Too many dog lovers seem to think that because they can tolerate their dog that everyone should and that's just rude. If OP really cannot possibly live without her fur-baby, then she needs to find somewhere else to live. If she wants to live with her mother, she finds alternate temporary housing for her dog. Why play the animal-hater card?

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You are immature and wrong. Know how I know you're immature? Because you think your mother OWES you since you and your husband have done favors for her. But the thing is, moving a piece of furniture at 9pm does not equal (anything) moving into her home.

Staying for the weekend? Sure. Staying while your kitchen is renovated for two weeks? Probably. But staying indefinitely while you look for your dream home? Hell no.

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I was already not on your side, but "he is my fur-baby and it would stress me out" pushes this into "is she freaking kidding?"

First of all, he's not a fur-baby (what a horrifying mental image that stupid phrase evokes!). Second ... OMG, you'd be STRESSED OUT?! The horror. Welcome to life for 99% of adults. Too bad you're an overgrown child.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, I am with you, I would be annoyed. Your mother sounds selfish. I do not care about new hardwood floors she sounds selfish.

The best thing you could do is offer to buy some cheapo area rugs that you can toss on the floor until you move out if she lets you.

Sorry!

Ok, OP. Sock puppeting isn't going to make anyone side with you.

Obviously you don't care that much about her hardwood floors, but that was her money that she spent to put them in and she likes them. It seems from your postings that you care more about your dog than you care about your mother. That's a shame.

I posted the above and I am not OP. Nice detective skills Seems from your posting that you have alot of misplaced anger.

You sound either very uneducated or 12.

Uh what? Ok nice try.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes I know I need to grow up and get over it. Doesn't take the frustration away though. I hate this house and we've been slowly chipping away and debt and now we have this awesome opportunity and we can't do it.

And of course we could rent but it's expensive in our area and it would feel like a complete waste of money to pay $1k a month and get stuck in a lease when my mom's 4 bedroom house is just down the road and sitting empty 70% of the time (she travels for work).

If I didn't know any better I would think she's just being passive aggressive. She didn't have a problem with my out of state baby sister and her cat temporarily moving in with her a few weeks ago - sis decided to stay where she is in the end but the door was open for her regardless.

I guess an apartment might me our only option anyway.

You've looked into the cost of buying and selling a home correct? And you are aware that you will have to pay capital gains taxes on money made from the sale of your home? And no, your mom doesn't owe you anything.

OP, given that you have credit card debt, you should probably take out a home equity loan and pay those off. Then stay in your house. It doesn't sound like the costs of moving - 6% in commissions/closing costs, cost of rental home, is something you can swing right now. Get rid of the debt and figure out how to live within your means. When you have a lot more cash, then think about moving.

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OP, make a thread in the Money forum listing your income, mortgage, debt, etc and I bet you will find this plan isn't a good idea.
Moving after 2 years due to layout and bugs, and your statemt of being "over it", and only being able to swing it if you can live rent-free, sounds like your are compulsive, impatient and about to make a big mistake