Ok I know I don't have a right to live in my moms house...but...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope, I am with you, I would be annoyed. Your mother sounds selfish. I do not care about new hardwood floors she sounds selfish.

The best thing you could do is offer to buy some cheapo area rugs that you can toss on the floor until you move out if she lets you.

Sorry!

Yep, agree. She's being selfish. Sure, it's her house, her rules. If she wants to stick with that, fine. But, I would not be rushing over at 9 p.m. anytime she needs it anymore. Two way street and all. And, to be clear, I would tell her so. The dog is 6 pounds and you regularly bring it over anyway. She's being silly.

The good news is that you can still accomplish what you want w/o having to stay with her. It will be less convenient but people do it all the time.

You and OP are both self-centered twats. OP's mother offered to let her and her family stay indefinitely, just not the dog. OP made a huge ask (Can I live with you until I find a house?) and her mom only put one minor limitation on it (Not with the dog.)

It doesn't matter why OP's mom doesn't want to live with a dog. It's her house. She agreed to let her adult child and husband move in with her for an indefinite period of time. That is really, really, REALLY generous of her. OP should say "Thank you" and quit whining like a spoiled 12 year old.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure the dog is the real issue here? Maybe she just doesn't want you moving in with her for an extended undefined period and is using the dog as an excuse? Especially if she seems ok with visits from the dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure the dog is the real issue here? Maybe she just doesn't want you moving in with her for an extended undefined period and is using the dog as an excuse? Especially if she seems ok with visits from the dog.

There's a huge difference between having a dog visit for a couple of hours at a time vs living there for several weeks or months at a time. Why you people don't understand that others do not love your pets the way you do or want them around 100% of the time is beyond me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand your mom's position. My 8lb dog doesn't mess up our wood floors. I think DCUM is just filled with dog haters.

But regardless, I wouldn't board a dog for that long. Either ask a friend or live in an apartment.

Crazy dog people always accuse others of hating dogs like we're going to be so devastated by this we'll jump off a building. "I just can't live with my dog-hating self another day!" I have a fair number of animals but guess what? Dislike dogs! They are gross, dirty, sloppy, and often smell. Plus I don't trust them. I'd let friends move in with animals, just not dogs.

OP don't make suggestions about how the dog can stay there to your mom - the floors are just the excuse she presented, she doesn't want the dog, full stop, and any ideas your present will just put her on the spot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sell Home, move to an apartment and pay the rent on the apartment. Buy new house after 1 year and you have gone on a month-to-month lease. Make sure you move into a place with a month-to-month lease after a year. No extra money lost.

You sound a little too entitled to your mom's home. She has offered it on her terms and you don't like the terms. Either accept it or find a different solution.

I have never lived in an apartment that let me go month t month after a year, at least not without an exorbitant rent increase. I think it's a myth.

We've gone month-to-month after living in an apartment for several years because we're in the process of buying a house. The rent is normally 1800.00/month (in Baltimore) and now the month-to-month increase is $1875.00. There was also a 3 or 6 month option for less but we wanted the flexibility.

[Anonymous]

Totally with your mom on this one. Your sense of entitlement is off the charts, but at least you know on paper that you shouldn't feel entitled. When you have a house you love and have raised a fully capable child to adulthood, you have every right to keep some boundaries. It's incrediy generous that she is allowing you to live there. I wouldn't. To expect her to want the dog there too is pretty outrageous.

[Anonymous]

Lots of people have to sell and buy without family around to stay at, i just don't see why you are making this the battle...it's not worth the drama..find some other way it's not NOT going to happen because your mom said you can't stay with her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope, I am with you, I would be annoyed. Your mother sounds selfish. I do not care about new hardwood floors she sounds selfish.

The best thing you could do is offer to buy some cheapo area rugs that you can toss on the floor until you move out if she lets you.

Sorry!

Yep, agree. She's being selfish. Sure, it's her house, her rules. If she wants to stick with that, fine. But, I would not be rushing over at 9 p.m. anytime she needs it anymore. Two way street and all. And, to be clear, I would tell her so. The dog is 6 pounds and you regularly bring it over anyway. She's being silly.

The good news is that you can still accomplish what you want w/o having to stay with her. It will be less convenient but people do it all the time.

You and OP are both self-centered twats. OP's mother offered to let her and her family stay indefinitely, just not the dog. OP made a huge ask (Can I live with you until I find a house?) and her mom only put one minor limitation on it (Not with the dog.)



It doesn't matter why OP's mom doesn't want to live with a dog. It's her house. She agreed to let her adult child and husband move in with her for an indefinite period of time. That is really, really, REALLY generous of her. OP should say "Thank you" and quit whining like a spoiled 12 year old.

+1000

The mom is incredibly generous to let her daughter and family crash there indefinitely. The daughter is a leech to even suggest such a thing. But to them be indignant that her mom doesn't want a dog living there, too??? Sickeningly ungrateful daughter.

[Anonymous]

Why the fuck do you take your dog to someone's home??? What is wrong with you. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

People are being really quick to judge without knowing anything about your relationship, OP, so take them with a grain of salt.

You said you take your dog with you every time you visit her. Does she like the dog, or resent this? If she's really anti-dog, you probably won't change her mind. But if she's just not used to dogs and not really aware of what it's like to live with them, you might be able to convince her. Maybe see if you can stay for a weekend with the dog as a test run before making any decisions and she can decide after the weekend is up? Or offer to provide rugs and pay for any damages? It's your dog, but your mom might also be more sympathic to having the dog there if it's for your kids sake. They might miss the dog/worry about it/not understand, etc.

If she doesn't come around to the dog, you can board or look for a friend. The dog's obviously important to you, so you would want to look for cage-free boarding where you could visit. What do you do with the dog now when you go out of town?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why the fuck do you take your dog to someone's home??? What is wrong with you. Ugh.

I take my dogs to my MIL's every time we go, because she wants to see them more than us. Not everyone in the world hates dogs. You clearly don't belong in this thread and have nothing constructive to add, so leave OP alone and go flame someone else.

[Anonymous]

Is the dog fully potty trained or does it use wee wee pads? My sister has a 5 pound fur baby like yours but it never potty trained and still has accidents all. The. Time. Small dogs like yours always seem to have potty issues.

My sister's dog is not welcome in our house for this reason. It leaves little "surprises". Truly disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Not all people who don't have dogs hate dogs. We don't have one because someone in our family is allergic to them (all of them, yes, even poodles). However; dogs are just as diverse as people. I love dogs that know their boundaries and my boundaries and don't jump, and are potty-trained, and nice-tempered, and not so attached to one person that it's annoying to be around them. Also the dogs that don't drool or slobber, or walk past you and brush their slobber on your pants.

I do find that people with the slobbery/jumping dogs have a higher threshold of what's annoying/gross and are often blind as to how distasteful it is to others.

I assume that the same goes for dog owners with my threshold and some dog-less people.

Back to the original point--I think almost all of us, with a few exceptions, can agree that OP's thinking is entitled. She also seems open to the feedback. Good for you, OP.

Sounds like if your mom doesn't want Furr-Baby on her hardwood floors, you should not bring him over any more. It's just grating on your mom.

Or…your mom is betting that you'd never part with Furr-Baby, and is using Furr-Baby to block you from coming over to live with her indefinitely.

What do you think, OP? Which do you think it is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the dog fully potty trained or does it use wee wee pads? My sister has a 5 pound fur baby like yours but it never potty trained and still has accidents all. The. Time. Small dogs like yours always seem to have potty issues.

My sister's dog is not welcome in our house for this reason. It leaves little "surprises". Truly disgusting.

This. I'll bet it's not the dog's nails that's making OP's mother not want OP's dog living in her house but the fact that OP's dog pisses and shits wherever. Can't really blame mom for not welcoming the dog into her house if the dog is not potty trained.

Little dogs are terrible at potty training and from OP's posts, she does not sound like she has the wherewithal to teach her pocket pooch anything.

[Anonymous]

Dogs are not meant to be inside a home. Your mom just had the common sense that many have lost.