I'm very attracted to my boss. Please give me reasons not to have an affair

[Anonymous]

Too stupid to waste my time on. Go ahead and screw up your life OP. Take your boss' family and your kids and husband down with as you go.

I'm sure the sex will totally justify the mess you'll create and you can bask in the memories while dealing with divorce court, therapy, career change, spiritual bankruptcy, etc...

Have a great time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Based on my exprience, most advices here are shity. You get what you pay-which is free.

How is "don't have an affair with your boss" shitty advice?

[Anonymous]

1) your kids


That's the only reason you need.

[Anonymous]

Fantasize about your boss and do your DH.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No way this is real. OP sounds incredibly stupid
You're already fucking up your kids lives. Some people should not be parents

OP here. Huh? Why exactly am I fucking up my kids' lives? Because I like my kind and considerate boss? My husband has had affairs for a while, and the kids haven't noticed it.

And now you are insulting me that I should not be a parent?

Don't listen to the poster above. You are just being very honest with yourself and asking the question. I think you are mostly working this out in your head and it's easier to write it down. I don't think your having (or not having) an affair) would reflect on your parenting skills at all. There are pragmatic reasons for not going through with this. I agree with a guy who said think about the 7 year plan vs. the 7 year plan. I would get a divorce though, whatever else happens.

I think this pp is right - you're mulling this over and actually having fun considering your options. That's why you wrote earlier that some of posters' points made you "smile." This whole thread is a turn on for you. And maybe that's why it's a turn off for a number of us who are responding. Personally, although I'm revolted by your comments, I feel bad for you. It sounds like you're in a sad marriage and a sad place in your life. For your children's sake, I hope you choose a healthy option like counseling.

[Anonymous]

Children

Married

Are you an idiot? or just evil

[Anonymous]

Come on, this OP is obviously trollish. Nobody is that obtuse and admits to it. Odd, but people get a kick out of the weirdest things.

[Anonymous]

As long as you are still married having an affair is the most disgusting, disrespectful and degrading thing a person could do. If you want a divorce, get a divorce. If you want to stay married but see other people, tell your spouse. People who cheat are the lowest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: If you are really unhappy in your marriage, tell your spouse, begin divorce proceedings. When you are actually free you can take up with your boss. The world will have a lot more respect for you if you do things that way.

OP here again. I don't understand why it would be morally more laudable if I begin an affair with my married boss as an already divorced (free) woman. He would still be married and my boss.

Again, DH has affairs as well (preferably with married women), with no intention of divorcing me.

With this information, I say go ahead and have an affair, but DON'T, I repeat DON'T do it with your boss!!!

Eventually he (or you) will move onto a new affair. It will become terribly awkward and will be a complete mess. Plus when wifey finds out, believe me you, you will be on the chopping block. He will drop you like a hot potato and you will be out the door. You will end up a spectacle, will be considered the office (or worse industry) harlot and he will get off Scott free (men always do, women are whores, men make mistakes). There is a woman in my industry that recently had an affair with an executive at a large company. The wife has made it her mission in life to smear the OW. There is currently a blog dedicated to their affair and exposing it. She is a complete embarrassment to herself. Everybody reads it, everybody gossips about it, it is a complete carnival of misery to behold. The OW is dumped by both her AP and her DH.

Go find someone outside of work.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks, PPs. Alright, I got it, I won't do anything with the boss. It's more of an emotional attachment, though, it's not like I'm out there looking for affairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks, PPs. Alright, I got it, I won't do anything with the boss. It's more of an emotional attachment, though, it's not like I'm out there looking for affairs.

Please, keep going OP. Just keep confirming that you're a pathetic idiot.

[Anonymous]

OP - go ahead and get it over with. You are morally compromised woman already. Feel for your kids thou.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - go ahead and get it over with. You are morally compromised woman already. Feel for your kids thou.

With the parents they have, they are fucked at their chances of ever having their own healthy relationships.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn't really bother me if you want to have an affair, but I agree that you are going to lose your job by heading down this road. Don't do it with your boss.

OP here again. I didn't set out to have an affair, with him or anyone else. It just happened that he has made me feel appreciated in ways that my husband does not. I am very emotionally attached to him.

But I agree, I will tone down the interactions. I really don't want to lose this job.

To reply to another PP, my reason for being attracted to him is certainly not that he is married. I have too much respect for his children and his wife.

If you had respect for his children and his wife, you wouldn't consider sleeping with him, OP. If your posts are for real, you sound very emotionally immature. I'd try individual therapy for yourself to try to sort things out a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't really bother me if you want to have an affair, but I agree that you are going to lose your job by heading down this road. Don't do it with your boss.

OP here again. I didn't set out to have an affair, with him or anyone else. It just happened that he has made me feel appreciated in ways that my husband does not. I am very emotionally attached to him.

But I agree, I will tone down the interactions. I really don't want to lose this job.

To reply to another PP, my reason for being attracted to him is certainly not that he is married. I have too much respect for his children and his wife.

If you had respect for his children and his wife, you wouldn't consider sleeping with him, OP. If your posts are for real, you sound very emotionally immature. I'd try individual therapy for yourself to try to sort things out a bit.

And I forgot to add that if he owns his own business, has an affair and his wife finds out, things won't work out well for him financially. Regardless, this won't end well for you.