Where to find non-immature single men in their 30s?

[Anonymous]

Theres nothing wrong with wanting a hardworking guy from a similar background. Im a upper middle class professional and i would like a girl from a similar background. Now OP didnt tell us about her more shallow requirements. Height, income, etc. Your height requirement should be no more than 4 inches above your height, unless you are 5'2 or lower.

Do you have a social network? Do your friends try to hook you up?

[Anonymous]

OP, have you tried going to church?

[Anonymous]

How old are you OP?

[Anonymous]

OP - I'm right there with you. Most of my friend have met their significant other online. These guys are generally decent guys who are smart and pretty successful. I've more or less resigned myself to the fact that that's where I'm going to meet any future partner. I try to keep engaged in life and be active, but most guys I encounter are married or have girlfriends or are just not at all what I'm looking for. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Theres nothing wrong with wanting a hardworking guy from a similar background. Im a upper middle class professional and i would like a girl from a similar background. Now OP didnt tell us about her more shallow requirements. Height, income, etc. Your height requirement should be no more than 4 inches above your height, unless you are 5'2 or lower.

Do you have a social network? Do your friends try to hook you up?

You must not live in DC. Op is 5'7". Four inches above her height would be 5'11". The average male height in this town is 5'7". If that. Most women in this town who are 5'7", and I am one of them, r willing today guys who r their height or an inch or two taller. I once dated a guy who is 5'10" and thought I'd hit the jackpot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Market yourself. Ask around - co-workers, friends, etc. and just say that it's been really hard to meet people, or share a funny bad date story. Everyone knows people, I know tons of guys in their early 30s who fit your criteria.

NP. Tell me where to meet these 'tons of guys.' Because I'm going to the wrong places.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ Definitely open to that. My most recent relationship, he was actually in a skilled labor position, however he was unfortunately not suitable for actual deal-breaker reasons.

What happened?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Church?

I have a few single guy friends in their mid-30s and sadly, it's pretty apparent why they're single.

Gay?

[Anonymous]

The "upper middle class background with a similar upbringing" cracks me up. I am a male in his late 30s. I am an immigrant. My dad was a minimum wage construction worker. I slept my first couple of years in the USA in my aunt's living room floor.

But I put my sh!t together. I now have a PhD, speak four langau

[Anonymous]

^^ But I put my sh!t together. I now have a PhD, speak four languages, make a six figure salary, ocassionally go to the Kennedy Center -- and the Opera Garnier -- and feel comfortable in a fundraiser dinner.

But I guess the fact that my father was a day laborer disqualifies me

[Anonymous]

Seriously all these fantasy lands expectations. I know so many single women in their 40s alone b/c of just such a list. And you really don't know what will work through the phases of life ( Kennedy galas generally are not toddler friendly). And height requirements, in your 30s? That ship has sailed. Yes, have deal breakers, but legitimate ones not this unicorn list. Be open minded and you have a good shot at happiness.

[Anonymous]

Maybe if you focused more on what men want instead of what you want from them, it would work out better for you.

I for one know that in order to be in high demand I have to be tall (check), fit (check), make six figures+ (check) and be packing more than 6" (check).

the rest is just shit people tolerate.

What men want is simple:

Nice, easy going, sweet, warm, sexually available, attractive, feminine, some semblance of an ability to create a homey environment.

Notice there is no mention of sarcastic, professional, career oriented, blunt, snarky, overly educated (bachelors is just fine) or most importantly - 'strong independent woman'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Theres nothing wrong with wanting a hardworking guy from a similar background. Im a upper middle class professional and i would like a girl from a similar background. Now OP didnt tell us about her more shallow requirements. Height, income, etc. Your height requirement should be no more than 4 inches above your height, unless you are 5'2 or lower.

Do you have a social network? Do your friends try to hook you up?

You must not live in DC. Op is 5'7". Four inches above her height would be 5'11". The average male height in this town is 5'7". If that. Most women in this town who are 5'7", and I am one of them, r willing today guys who r their height or an inch or two taller. I once dated a guy who is 5'10" and thought I'd hit the jackpot.

Really? I prefer someone 5'8" and above, but 5'11" is probably the average height I've dated, with about half taller and half shorter. An old friend of mine, 5'10", thinks that short to medium height men tend to like taller women though.

[Anonymous]

Hahaha. 12:08, thanks for checking off your sick qualifications for us. So sure that's accurate and you're swimming in bitches. BTW: Not every guy wants a submissive, dumb female he can boss around, so don't claim to speak for all men.

[Anonymous]

I met mine bf in a bar/restaurant.He was new in town and didn't know where else to hang out at the beginning.
He has 4 brothers,all in their 30s and educated.