How long can you go without sexual intimacy as a couple?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We haven't had sex for my entire pregnancy, and I'm almost 9 months pregnant. Haven't really thought about it, haven't had any desire. Before pregnancy we would have sex once every 6 months or so, or maybe even less frequently. I have an extremely satisfying marriage and we've been married 12 years. I am 100% satisfied with my marriage. I just personally don't find sex as a general concept that great or fulfilling.

Do you know how your husband feels about that?

He hasn't said anything or initiated, so I assume he is not thinking about sex either.

Wowzers. You might want to check on that and ask him directly.

Yes, this seems unlikely to me too. With both pregnancies we did not have sex for about 10 weeks...the last 4 of pregnancy plus the first 6 after birth. Aside from that, we've gone maybe a month or so when the babies were still little but other than that its 1-2 a week. Sometimes more. Together 13 years, married 10.

[AroundTheBlock]

Wife and I found out we were having a baby last Christmas day (yes, literally on Christmas day). We didn't have sex at all during her pregnancy. Since our baby was born 12 weeks ago we've had sex twice.

Basically, we've had sex twice in 12 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your body is not broken. You now have the body of a woman who had a child. As Mammy said to Scarlett in Gone With the Wind, "Miss Scarlett, you done had a baby and you ain't never gonna have no 17-inch waist again."

Your body issues are fairly routine. If you want to stop the urination/sneezing issue, which is quite common, do more kegels. Your vagina is still your vagina. Your boobs have nourished a child. Stop comparing yourself with centerfolds.

Every single mother has a mom's body. None of us are "broken."

18 1/2 inches.

[Anonymous]

A year+ is not unusual - re pregnancy/birth of a new baby.

Life can throw you a curve ball - illness, operations, perhaps even disability. A couple has to be prepared for the possibility that bad things might happen ~ and not whine when they aren't getting enough, in the way they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A year+ is not unusual - re pregnancy/birth of a new baby.

Life can throw you a curve ball - illness, operations, perhaps even disability. A couple has to be prepared for the possibility that bad things might happen ~ and not whine when they aren't getting enough, in the way they want.

THIS IS NOT NORMAL PEOPLE!!! NOT NORMAL AT ALL!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:couple years after baby was born. we are back to doing it like bunnies again

Thank god. We're only crawling back from
That. So glad to not be alone and know It is fixable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A year+ is not unusual - re pregnancy/birth of a new baby.

Life can throw you a curve ball - illness, operations, perhaps even disability. A couple has to be prepared for the possibility that bad things might happen ~ and not whine when they aren't getting enough, in the way they want.

THIS IS NOT NORMAL PEOPLE!!! NOT NORMAL AT ALL!!!

Go f- yourself. It may not be normal but it isn't fatal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A year+ is not unusual - re pregnancy/birth of a new baby.

Life can throw you a curve ball - illness, operations, perhaps even disability. A couple has to be prepared for the possibility that bad things might happen ~ and not whine when they aren't getting enough, in the way they want.

THIS IS NOT NORMAL PEOPLE!!! NOT NORMAL AT ALL!!!

Go f- yourself. It may not be normal but it isn't fatal.

I don't need to fuck myself. I get to fuck my husband...you know, like normal regular fucking that husband and wife engage in a few times a week.

YOU ARE ABNORMAL IF YOU ARE GOING a year+ without sex. That is not even a marriage, that is a roommate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Longest pregnancy related abstinence was almost 4 weeks. Other than that, we had to go 19 days due to a medical issue, and we were both miserable. We need it about 6 times a month, minimum, to keep things good between us.[/quote

that's incredibly sad that you need sex to keep things good between you.
I would much rather a strong mariage that doesn't need constant sex.

[Anonymous]

We've had a couple of 6 week stretches for medical reasons. We had about an 8 week stretch when it turned out he had a brief affair. The lack of sex then (and complete lack of affection at all) was a huge red flag for me that something was wrong.

Normally we have sex about once a week, but it will stretch to 2 or 3 weeks if one of us is sick, or extra exhausted from lots going on, or there is a lot of work travel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A year+ is not unusual - re pregnancy/birth of a new baby.

Life can throw you a curve ball - illness, operations, perhaps even disability. A couple has to be prepared for the possibility that bad things might happen ~ and not whine when they aren't getting enough, in the way they want.

THIS IS NOT NORMAL PEOPLE!!! NOT NORMAL AT ALL!!!

Go f- yourself. It may not be normal but it isn't fatal.

I don't need to fuck myself. I get to fuck my husband...you know, like normal regular fucking that husband and wife engage in a few times a week.

YOU ARE ABNORMAL IF YOU ARE GOING a year+ without sex. That is not even a marriage, that is a roommate.

I worry for your marriage. what happens if one of u gets I'll?
you will have nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've had a couple of 6 week stretches for medical reasons. We had about an 8 week stretch when it turned out he had a brief affair. The lack of sex then (and complete lack of affection at all) was a huge red flag for me that something was wrong.

Normally we have sex about once a week, but it will stretch to 2 or 3 weeks if one of us is sick, or extra exhausted from lots going on, or there is a lot of work travel.

can't believe you didn't dumb the dirty bastard
keep sucking him or that one will cheat
no pressure though

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A year+ is not unusual - re pregnancy/birth of a new baby.

Life can throw you a curve ball - illness, operations, perhaps even disability. A couple has to be prepared for the possibility that bad things might happen ~ and not whine when they aren't getting enough, in the way they want.

THIS IS NOT NORMAL PEOPLE!!! NOT NORMAL AT ALL!!!

Go f- yourself. It may not be normal but it isn't fatal.

In my marriage, this would be fatal. If we didn't have sex for a year after the birth of a new baby, we would have been divorced.

In case of illness/disability, both of us have a hall pass if it's longer than 6 months or going to be indefinite.

[Anonymous]

not sucking
it starts with F

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A year+ is not unusual - re pregnancy/birth of a new baby.

Life can throw you a curve ball - illness, operations, perhaps even disability. A couple has to be prepared for the possibility that bad things might happen ~ and not whine when they aren't getting enough, in the way they want.

THIS IS NOT NORMAL PEOPLE!!! NOT NORMAL AT ALL!!!

Go f- yourself. It may not be normal but it isn't fatal.

I don't need to fuck myself. I get to fuck my husband...you know, like normal regular fucking that husband and wife engage in a few times a week.

YOU ARE ABNORMAL IF YOU ARE GOING a year+ without sex. That is not even a marriage, that is a roommate.

I worry for your marriage. what happens if one of u gets I'll?
you will have nothing.

Not PP, but I worry for your marriage now. It doesn't sound good.