How long can you go without sexual intimacy as a couple?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread has dissolved into two extremes: 1) no sex is OK: and 2) no sex is pathological. Here's the reality: no sex leads to marital breakdown, fidelity and divorce.

Lack of libido can be treated in partners of either gender by doctors. If it's hormonal BC, there are dozens of alternatives out there. If it's a hormone drop due to pregnancy, nursing, weight issues, etc., call your OB/GYN and/or primary care physician and get it treated.

However, if you just aren't interested in your DH/DW any more, you have a choice to make. Renew your interest and find out why you got married in first place. Alternatively, prepare for a divorce or a lonely, unsatisfying life while married (with or without open or secret infidelity).

We all need love, physical and otherwise. That said, there are alternatives to missionary if you have residual issues after birth. Still, your OB/GYN can help you with that if you just communicate.

No, I'm not Masters and Johnson. I'm just a happily married mom of three kids whose sex life with DH has lasted decades now. I know how to stay married. Celibacy is not the way.

Yup. This woman speaks the truth. All the ones who excuse not having sex are the problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe there are other dynamics within the marriage which allows couples to go without sex and still not leave the marriage.

Such as sex on the side?

Really great sex on the side does help in a way... But it also adds to the frustration because it shows what I have missed out on for almost 10 years. The well being of my kids are the main reason that I have not pursued a divorce.

[Anonymous]

7 years?

[Anonymous]

I try to avoid sex with my DW. It makes me want to vomit afterwards. She is just evil and only wants to have sex to create some other poor little victim to torture like she does our DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I try to avoid sex with my DW. It makes me want to vomit afterwards. She is just evil and only wants to have sex to create some other poor little victim to torture like she does our DC.

torture? physical or emotional?

[Patrick_Caballero]

I think you should talk with your husband first.