What do do when friend is very rude?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, break it down for us, OP. use letters like PP suggested. This is so confusing. What was the big news? Who is jealous of your good news? The whole part of your friend breaking into song is weird. What did you mean what you write in your OP that you got the relevance of the song she sung- - a snake chasing a boy?? What???

OP here: I would say you captured my feeling as well. My friend is very smart. There is no relevance to the song, which took me by surprise -just that it is so inappropriate. I was going WTF??? We just came into a great deal of money. In person I am extremely circumspect. I would not say "hello I am 100x richer than yesterday!!! Woohoo!" I think, however, that my talking in circles alerted her to this and she did not want to hear it. Particularly when her friend had just said the same thing the night before. Coincidence. I have been in that position and it sometimes is hard to take.
LOL we are long past the baby stage.

So your great news is that someone died and left you a shit ton of money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, break it down for us, OP. use letters like PP suggested. This is so confusing. What was the big news? Who is jealous of your good news? The whole part of your friend breaking into song is weird. What did you mean what you write in your OP that you got the relevance of the song she sung- - a snake chasing a boy?? What???

OP here: I would say you captured my feeling as well. My friend is very smart. There is no relevance to the song, which took me by surprise -just that it is so inappropriate. I was going WTF??? We just came into a great deal of money. In person I am extremely circumspect. I would not say "hello I am 100x richer than yesterday!!! Woohoo!" I think, however, that my talking in circles alerted her to this and she did not want to hear it. Particularly when her friend had just said the same thing the night before. Coincidence. I have been in that position and it sometimes is hard to take.
LOL we are long past the baby stage.

I have NEVER said this before on this board or in real life, but why on EARTH is it appropriate to share your big inheritance news with your friends, and double why on earth do you think that it would be appropriate to make a huge announcement about it? Unless it is in the context of "We are celebrating the conclusion of the estate negotiations/one of us just got a new job with a massive signing bonus/other financial windfall situation, so dinner is on us tonight!"

It sounds like your friend did not want to hear about you gloating. So she cut you off, rudely. I would have a lot more sympathy for your outrage if you hadn't been acting in a totally classless way in the first place.

[Anonymous]

So basically you were dropping a lot of hints ("talking in circles") that you come into money & your friend didn't want to hear it anymore. Can't really blame her.

[Anonymous]

So - you came into money. Your friend knew. You started to mention it in front of people you don't really know (totally rude and tacky) and your friend cut you off. Is that what happened?

[Anonymous]

Ok, everyone had their fun. She did the same to me. Its life. I knew she is getting a big inheritance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, everyone had their fun. She did the same to me. Its life. I knew she is getting a big inheritance.

who is? is this OP? what are you talking about?

NO ONE UNDERSTANDS YOU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, break it down for us, OP. use letters like PP suggested. This is so confusing. What was the big news? Who is jealous of your good news? The whole part of your friend breaking into song is weird. What did you mean what you write in your OP that you got the relevance of the song she sung- - a snake chasing a boy?? What???

OP here: I would say you captured my feeling as well. My friend is very smart. There is no relevance to the song, which took me by surprise -just that it is so inappropriate. I was going WTF??? We just came into a great deal of money. In person I am extremely circumspect. I would not say "hello I am 100x richer than yesterday!!! Woohoo!" I think, however, that my talking in circles alerted her to this and she did not want to hear it. Particularly when her friend had just said the same thing the night before. Coincidence. I have been in that position and it sometimes is hard to take.
LOL we are long past the baby stage.

I have NEVER said this before on this board or in real life, but why on EARTH is it appropriate to share your big inheritance news with your friends, and double why on earth do you think that it would be appropriate to make a huge announcement about it? Unless it is in the context of "We are celebrating the conclusion of the estate negotiations/one of us just got a new job with a massive signing bonus/other financial windfall situation, so dinner is on us tonight!"

It sounds like your friend did not want to hear about you gloating. So she cut you off, rudely. I would have a lot more sympathy for your outrage if you hadn't been acting in a totally classless way in the first place.

Why on EARTH are you so ANGRY? People inherit money. Oh, please. Wait until it happens to you. This friend has been flashing the cash for years. she just did not expect to get flashed back.

[Anonymous]

OP, how much did you pay for your house in crazytown?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, break it down for us, OP. use letters like PP suggested. This is so confusing. What was the big news? Who is jealous of your good news? The whole part of your friend breaking into song is weird. What did you mean what you write in your OP that you got the relevance of the song she sung- - a snake chasing a boy?? What???

OP here: I would say you captured my feeling as well. My friend is very smart. There is no relevance to the song, which took me by surprise -just that it is so inappropriate. I was going WTF??? We just came into a great deal of money. In person I am extremely circumspect. I would not say "hello I am 100x richer than yesterday!!! Woohoo!" I think, however, that my talking in circles alerted her to this and she did not want to hear it. Particularly when her friend had just said the same thing the night before. Coincidence. I have been in that position and it sometimes is hard to take.
LOL we are long past the baby stage.

I have NEVER said this before on this board or in real life, but why on EARTH is it appropriate to share your big inheritance news with your friends, and double why on earth do you think that it would be appropriate to make a huge announcement about it? Unless it is in the context of "We are celebrating the conclusion of the estate negotiations/one of us just got a new job with a massive signing bonus/other financial windfall situation, so dinner is on us tonight!"

It sounds like your friend did not want to hear about you gloating. So she cut you off, rudely. I would have a lot more sympathy for your outrage if you hadn't been acting in a totally classless way in the first place.

Why on EARTH are you so ANGRY? People inherit money. Oh, please. Wait until it happens to you. This friend has been flashing the cash for years. she just did not expect to get flashed back.

So ... now you were intentionally trying to flaunt the inheritance and are annoyed at her bc she started singing some kid's song?

You're NUTS, OP. But this thread is hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Uh OP, unless you're cutting me a check out of that inheritance? I would rather you keep the news to yourself. I mean really

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, break it down for us, OP. use letters like PP suggested. This is so confusing. What was the big news? Who is jealous of your good news? The whole part of your friend breaking into song is weird. What did you mean what you write in your OP that you got the relevance of the song she sung- - a snake chasing a boy?? What???

OP here: I would say you captured my feeling as well. My friend is very smart. There is no relevance to the song, which took me by surprise -just that it is so inappropriate. I was going WTF??? We just came into a great deal of money. In person I am extremely circumspect. I would not say "hello I am 100x richer than yesterday!!! Woohoo!" I think, however, that my talking in circles alerted her to this and she did not want to hear it. Particularly when her friend had just said the same thing the night before. Coincidence. I have been in that position and it sometimes is hard to take.
LOL we are long past the baby stage.

I have NEVER said this before on this board or in real life, but why on EARTH is it appropriate to share your big inheritance news with your friends, and double why on earth do you think that it would be appropriate to make a huge announcement about it? Unless it is in the context of "We are celebrating the conclusion of the estate negotiations/one of us just got a new job with a massive signing bonus/other financial windfall situation, so dinner is on us tonight!"

It sounds like your friend did not want to hear about you gloating. So she cut you off, rudely. I would have a lot more sympathy for your outrage if you hadn't been acting in a totally classless way in the first place.

Why on EARTH are you so ANGRY? People inherit money. Oh, please. Wait until it happens to you. This friend has been flashing the cash for years. she just did not expect to get flashed back.

I'm not angry, but you certainly are. I hope your friend reads this board. I think she deserves to know what you actually think of her.

As for waiting until I inherit money, I have. I didn't feel like I needed to announce it over dinner with a group of people.

[Anonymous]

OP, repeat after me:

NEVER TALK ABOUT MONEY.

Especially when you get more of it.

Especially in a quiet restaurant.

Especially in front of a group of people.

The only moment when you could possibly get away with it is when hinting that other friends' activities are too expensive for you to join in so you must sadly bow out. That way people can discreetly change their plans for you if they really like you.

Use your money to read up on etiquette.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP, repeat after me:

NEVER TALK ABOUT MONEY.

Especially when you get more of it.

Especially in a quiet restaurant.

Especially in front of a group of people.

The only moment when you could possibly get away with it is when hinting that other friends' activities are too expensive for you to join in so you must sadly bow out. That way people can discreetly change their plans for you if they really like you.

Use your money to read up on etiquette.

Yes, your "big news" was inappropriate to share so your friend shut you up before you made a mistake. Thank her for it.

[Anonymous]

OP here: ho ho ho. This is so funny. All done with hurt feelings. Yes, I listened to her brag for years. I was her poor friend. Over now. I don't care one way or the other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: ho ho ho. This is so funny. All done with hurt feelings. Yes, I listened to her brag for years. I was her poor friend. Over now. I don't care one way or the other.

If she wants to sing, that is fine with me Sing on, lady!