What do do when friend is very rude?
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Anonymous
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We had dinner with a couples/ friend Friday night. When we got there, my friend of many years told us another couple would be meeting us. We had some big news to share, which I would have preferred to share with just our friends, but, not a big secret so, we said we had great news. She knew what I meant. Her friend asked and I said, its...
My friend interrupted at that moment and began singing a song from her favorite toddler movie. Then a long explanation about how the great big snake chased the little boy ... She thought it was so funny... OK, I get it STFU. The moment had definitely passed for our news. That level of rudeness is beyond me. And of course my feelings were hurt. Afterwards, saying good-bye in front of the kids she wanted me to meet up next week for an event we are both invited/required to attend. I do not think so.... WWYD? |
Anonymous
| what. |
Anonymous
| You're crazy. |
Anonymous
| I would revisit my definition of "very rude" so it doesn't cover things like "socially awkward mistake." |
Anonymous
| The hell are you prattling on about |
Anonymous
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You're nuts. A random friend didn't anticipate that you had big news to share, the conversation took a turn away from what you thought was the perfect moment to share it, you were unable to get the conversation back on track to put the spotlight on you, and you're blaming the friend? As if ... this random friend was supposed to magically guess?
Sorry lady. It's totally normal that when six people, comprised of three couples, get together, there'll be some interrupting here and there. |
Anonymous
| OP: she is not a random friend. And only three people were talking. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| And what's even crazier is that this happened Friday night, and you're posting this on Tuesday morning. Do you have anything else going on in your life? This is sad. |
Anonymous
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That sounds like a scene from a screwball comedy.
Whatever your big news is, if its truly big, why would something like that de-rail the topic permanently for the evening? It does sound very awkward. I can understand your feelings could be hurt if this is a very good friend and she knew what you were about to say, and then did this to screw up the moment for you. But why would she do that? Do you think it was an on purpose? Was there general conversation going on that maybe she didnt hear you about to deliver the news? Is she someone prone to awkward blurting like this? We are too much context on her ways know them and your perception of her intentions to be able to say what we would do or what you should do. |
Anonymous
| I just can't. |
Anonymous
| I think she probably thinks you're trying to make this ALL ABOUT YOU so she interrupted on purpose because she knew it would annoy you. And she thinks its funny you are like that and you're being self centered. Like you are. But she still is a friend and still loves you. |
Anonymous
| Womyn is crazy!!! |
Anonymous
| She knew the other couple better than you did and realized your big news wasn't something that was going to go over well with them for whatever reason and she cut you off. |
Anonymous
| Say what? This doesn't sound rude to me. It sounds confusing. What was your news exactly? That you knew to gender of your baby? |