What do do when friend is very rude?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: ho ho ho. This is so funny. All done with hurt feelings. Yes, I listened to her brag for years. I was her poor friend. Over now. I don't care one way or the other.

You've listened to her brag for years and you thought you'd sock it to her by doing some bragging of your own but that backfired and you got pissed. I don't even know where to begin.

[Anonymous]

I think OP must be a bit older and kind of out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That sounds like a scene from a screwball comedy.

Whatever your big news is, if its truly big, why would something like that de-rail the topic permanently for the evening?

It does sound very awkward. I can understand your feelings could be hurt if this is a very good friend and she knew what you were about to say, and then did this to screw up the moment for you. But why would she do that? Do you think it was an on purpose? Was there general conversation going on that maybe she didnt hear you about to deliver the news? Is she someone prone to awkward blurting like this?

We are too much context on her ways know them and your perception of her intentions to be able to say what we would do or what you should do.

OP here. we were in a quiet, fancy restaurant. We are not chugging beer and telling Hooters jokes. We are over 30. Yes, sadly she knew what the news was and did not want to hear yet another friend having great good fortune. When she told me the other friend, I thought it was just small talk. She knew her friend was very ummm lucky, why the anger? So she did it on purpose --that is why my feelings were hurt. She heard me all too well.
What I missed was that she had had much more to drink than I noticed at the time (in retrospect, I now realize that she was plastered. She has a bit of a drinking problem. She started singing. Friends don't usually burst into toddler songs when we eat out together. Now I remember that she has done this before when she has had too much. It was very early to be quite at that state.) I can image when she told me her mother was ill... if I had jumped right into the Barney's song...I would have thought that was rude of me.
The whole thing took me by surprise. I know it would have been much smoother to say, OK Larla, You're feeling very merry. Partly it was just a misunderstanding. She is a big drinker. What did I expect? I did not understand the extent of her perception that falling down drunk is OK , and all the things that go with it. I do not want to think this about my friend.
I have to rethink this with her, my tolerance ,ect. Obviously this has been building up. Vent!

You sound mental.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She knew the other couple better than you did and realized your big news wasn't something that was going to go over well with them for whatever reason and she cut you off.

Despite your story being rather disjointed and you being unable to articulate what happened or your general point (other than that you have some deep hurt for being interrupted), this is what I would have assumed had I been there. Let's say you are expecting number 3 and the woman you don't know so well just had a loss and is having a hard time talking about babies, well then maybe your sensitive friend would have tried to derail the conversation to save someone from being in a tough spot? Ever think of that?

[Anonymous]

Money can't buy class OP. Obviously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP must be a bit older and kind of out of it.

Totally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP, repeat after me:

NEVER TALK ABOUT MONEY.

Especially when you get more of it.

Especially in a quiet restaurant.

Especially in front of a group of people.

The only moment when you could possibly get away with it is when hinting that other friends' activities are too expensive for you to join in so you must sadly bow out. That way people can discreetly change their plans for you if they really like you.

Use your money to read up on etiquette.

+1. The fact that your friend has been doing it for years is irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

No one has actually answered your question OP. What do you do when a friend is very rude? You start signing in a restaurant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
OP, repeat after me:

NEVER TALK ABOUT MONEY.

Especially when you get more of it.

Especially in a quiet restaurant.

Especially in front of a group of people. Especially in front of a group of people YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW!!!!!!

The only moment when you could possibly get away with it is when hinting that other friends' activities are too expensive for you to join in so you must sadly bow out. That way people can discreetly change their plans for you if they really like you.

Use your money to read up on etiquette.

+1. The fact that your friend has been doing it for years is irrelevant.

I added to your list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP must be a bit older and kind of out of it.

Totally.

or some combo of young, stupid and/or wasted.

[Anonymous]

Anyone else have a hankering for chipotle?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else have a hankering for chipotle?

Oh man, you're right! I can't believe I didn't see that right away.

[Anonymous]

Eh while Chipotle Mom's posts were crazy, they were usually easier to understand than this OP's. This one sounds like someone who is currently on drugs/high.

[Anonymous]

Your poor friend, OP! If I had to listen to you for a couple of hour, I'd be plastered and singing too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh while Chipotle Mom's posts were crazy, they were usually easier to understand than this OP's. This one sounds like someone who is currently on drugs/high.

Yeah, and I just realized this crazy OP said she was way beyond baby stage. It certainly followed the same M.O. though.