Adopted Brother gone crazy?

[Anonymous]

wow
It is all about the adopted child, they are given away so that they may have a better home and a better life, they are not given so that the kid will meet the needs of the adoptive parents.
Reunion is part of adoption, it is bound to happen some time.
One woman had her for a lifetime and now is offended!

I think the moral of the thread seems to be that an adoptee should never complain, talk about his/her feelings about the adoption or how it feels to be adopted.
If the do they idealize their birth family, and that is a time to remind them of terrible twos, what kind of a colicky baby he was, how awful as a teenager....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:wow
It is all about the adopted child, they are given away so that they may have a better home and a better life, they are not given so that the kid will meet the needs of the adoptive parents.
Reunion is part of adoption, it is bound to happen some time.
One woman had her for a lifetime and now is offended!

I think the moral of the thread seems to be that an adoptee should never complain, talk about his/her feelings about the adoption or how it feels to be adopted.
If the do they idealize their birth family, and that is a time to remind them of terrible twos, what kind of a colicky baby he was, how awful as a teenager....

It doesn't matter why children are given up for adoption - adoptive parents have needs, too, and an adoptee who disregards them so extremely (like in this case) is an asshole. Nobody said adoptee should be content all the time (what?), just that he should be considerate toward his parents.

[Anonymous]

Real parents would support their child in seeking happiness. Asshole parents worry about their own needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Real parents would support their child in seeking happiness. Asshole parents worry about their own needs.

Those are not real parents, those are fools raising entitled brats.

[Anonymous]

Ok mommy dearest. Hope your poor children are meeting all your needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous



Anonymous wrote:
wow
It is all about the adopted child, they are given away so that they may have a better home and a better life, they are not given so that the kid will meet the needs of the adoptive parents.
Reunion is part of adoption, it is bound to happen some time.
One woman had her for a lifetime and now is offended!

I think the moral of the thread seems to be that an adoptee should never complain, talk about his/her feelings about the adoption or how it feels to be adopted.
If the do they idealize their birth family, and that is a time to remind them of terrible twos, what kind of a colicky baby he was, how awful as a teenager....


It doesn't matter why children are given up for adoption - adoptive parents have needs, too, and an adoptee who disregards them so extremely (like in this case) is an asshole. Nobody said adoptee should be content all the time (what?), just that he should be considerate toward his parents.

This. It is part of being a family--a component of human decency. It isn't all about the child. It isn't all about the parents--adopted or bio. It is about taking into account how our action effect others. This grown man is action with total disregard for the family that stood by him. He can reach out to his bio family without callous disregard for his "real" family.

[Anonymous]

So now it is about the best needs of the family, not best interests/needs of the child. In that case it is not about the adoptive mother either, but family.
Or is adoption supposed to meet the needs of the parents?

[Anonymous]

The "child" is now a man so no it is no longer all about him. He needs to act like a man an not a spoiled child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The "child" is now a man so no it is no longer all about him. He needs to act like a man an not a spoiled child.

So you still haven't gotten over your failure to conceive huh?

[Anonymous]

Wrong, bitch. I have the c-section scars to prove it. I will refrain from throwing a hateful barb back at you but damn I really want to for all the infertile women you just tried to hurt. Vile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wrong, bitch. I have the c-section scars to prove it. I will refrain from throwing a hateful barb back at you but damn I really want to for all the infertile women you just tried to hurt. Vile.

Not the pp, but I think making fun of adopted children is pretty vile.

[Anonymous]

No one has made fun of adopted children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So now it is about the best needs of the family, not best interests/needs of the child. In that case it is not about the adoptive mother either, but family.
Or is adoption supposed to meet the needs of the parents?

It has been about family all along. Parents are a part of it.

Indortunately, you appear never to have really had a family. No wonder you don't understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one has made fun of adopted children.

Oh, was calling them ungrateful brats a compliment? My mistake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one has made fun of adopted children.

Oh, was calling them ungrateful brats a compliment? My mistake.

That was a comment about particular examples, not all adopted children.