Any Jack & Jill members here?
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Anonymous
| OP not a JJ member here but I'm AA and grew up in Lilly whiteville. Yes you should join. DD needs to see other people of color beyond our racist tv etc... |
Anonymous
| OP- I thought folks with recent white parentage as opposed to a distant ancestor were generally looked down upon by J&J or is this also a past thing? |
Anonymous
You would have to be invited/sponsored by current members. That isn't going to happen. |
Anonymous
Southern MD chapter in Upper Marlboro is open to working moms and they seem like a cool group. I WOH and planned to join but forgot about the group once my maternity leave was over. There are alot of self-employed moms who are more WAHM in the group too. |
Anonymous
Really? A link to our kinda people? Really!!! |
Anonymous
Guessing nobody sponsored you. |
Anonymous
This is the elitist attitude that is pervasive in the organization. FWIW, I am Black, two DC's in private (full freight), high HHI, etc... but this is the attitude we get from white people who look down on us and assume they know who we are. I don't need this from a group of Black people who's only "leg up" on me is that they are from a generation of well educated, well off, elite upper crust of Black society. Like a PP, I am first generation law school, self made and will not be getting anything from my broke parents' "estate". I've also never been approached about sponsorship and it is not something that I would seek out. I think J&J is a good organization for people who have a history and want to continue that legacy for their children; wanting your children to socialize with people of the same ilk is something other races/ethnicities have been doing for years. My own personal issue with J&J is that historically I would not have been someone invited to join and now that my family's pedigree may be aligned with other members, I don't feel the need to belong to a specific organization so my children can meet/mate with the Oak Bluffs crowd. Most of the people I know from J&J aren't interested in genuinely befriending my family anyway. |
Anonymous
| Well, judging from the pictures on their website, a lot of their members don't look like Vanessa Williams or Halle Berry. |
Anonymous
| They may be UMC/UC but not one of them is truely wealthy and never will be. |
Anonymous
it has evolved over the years but is still primarily SAHMs or WAHMs most activities are during the work week, but I participate in many of the weekend activities some are with the kids and some are moms only mine has members who go back to work after the kids start going to school and they remain members and some who joined as working moms and we have weekend meetings for this group; the economic downturn also caused some that were SAHMs to have to go back to work and they are members as well I would contact your local chapter |
Anonymous
I think now that more non J&J legacy Black people have made some real professional gains and are starting to create some level of wealth, joining an organization like J&J says "I've arrived" even though they may understand the history behind the inception of the organization. Social climbing isn't restricted to one race. I've met way too many Black people that are hell bent on proving to people that they "can afford everything some else can". For some, paying the J&J dues is a badge of honor because it says "I have $8-10K of discretionary income to spend on being a member of an exclusive organization." To me it's like Condoleeza Rice walking around Augusta in a green jacket; belonging just because you were finally invited. Disgusting! |
Anonymous
???? |
Anonymous
Anybody can become rich only a few are wealthy. Oprah is rich, the Rothschields are wealthy. |
Anonymous
| I am a white upper class mom with two adopted African American kids. My husband is black (his family is from Ghana). Could I join? Would we be welcome? |
Anonymous
You can't join, you have to be sponsored. Would someone sponsor you? Depends on the relationship you develop with members. Would you be welcome? Sure! |