traumatized about my height

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Anonymous wrote:OP, life is too short & too complicated to worry about your height. There's nothing you can do about it so just try to not be self conscious about it! Embrace it. Being tall can be great. I'm on the short side and I'm regularly in business meetings where I'm shorter than not only all the men but also many if not most of the women. I don't like having to look up at people when I speak to them in a professional setting! So I say own and celebrate your height.

Yes, you are right. It's just, we always have some things we don't like about ourselves. It's part of beign a human being I think lol. Thank you so much.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 5'2" and would trade with you I. A heartbeat. People don't take you seriously if you are a short female.

Me too!

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Anonymous wrote:I am 5ft 2in and I love my height. I would not change a thing. Being tall is great but honestly, only if you are thin, pretty and model like. Tall and not pretty then you look like an amazon chick.

Yes, but I think being short and not pretty doesn't look very attrative either. As being short is not synonymous of elegance.

Who cares about height. People care about weight way more. Nothing wrong with being short and nothing wrong with being tall. Fat, is not elegant. Fat is a health problem. Fat is not attractive.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm not as tall as you (5'9) but I HATED my height until at least my mid-20s. All my friends in high school were 5'2 and I always felt like an oaf-like giant. Now (at age 42) I love it. It's great in a crowd! Although I probably obsess about my weight a bit, because if I gain a few pounds I just feel big and heavy (man-like). When I was younger I always wanted to be described as "cute", but I came to terms with that fact it would never happen.

Awww it's good to know that And yes! I totally agree. It's like I have to keep being thin lol. Thank you

I'm the 5'9 poster, and at least it is easier to stay thin when you have the height! Having a small frame helps. Everyone is always surprised that I "only" wear a size 8 shoe. But yeah, staying thin is important at that height for your joints. I was up to almost 150 lb for a bit in my 20s, and I blame that for the bad joints that I have now. (although who knows if that is the case). Osteoporosis is also more of a concern for tall women. Take those calcium pills!

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Really? I'm the same height and I wear heals and skirts. I LOVE being tall. I think it is a huge benefit as well, in many ways.

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Anonymous wrote:5' 11 or more! I know at my 24 I should be happy with who I am but, it frustrates me in many ways. When I go to work I'd love to wear straight skirts below he knee but I can't because I can't wear heels. I always wear pants because I can wear flat shoes and people don't notice it, sometimes someone says: I thought you were wearing heels:S

I love dresses, this is my big trauma and I can't wear them because I don't want to look like a giant or more giant and I don't think they look good with flats, much less at nights, or in elegant events. So I have to settle for something "formal" but it doesn't look good when everybody has a different dress code.

I like the way I look, I know I am pretty and I like being tall but not in these situations, especially when everybody is like 5' :S and the girls look so elegant with the heels and the dresses. I guess I can't do anything about it.

I am 5'11'' too and I could have written that post. I actually hate it when people who are 5'2'' or whateer say things like "I WISH i had your height." They have no idea what it is like. Everyone has issues and they shouldn't downplay your feeling bad about something that bothers you. It is a legitimate concern. Our society has a narrow definition of "beauty", and just as fat people are made to feel awkward and "off" so are taller women. The fact is, there are a lot of guys that do not like tall girls. I mean, with the obvious exceptions like Cameron Diaz, and Gisele Bundchen. I can remember all through high school and college going to parties/bars etc and being the one weird tall girl that "stuck out", the guys always noticed the other girls in my group and were never interested in me. Now that I am older obviously I've gotten beyond most of these childhood scars but it still does lie underneath int my self image a bit.

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OP - I'm 5'8" and a size 4. So I guess I'm not even that tall, but being a larger woman is something I have struggled with all my life. In pictures with other girls I always look a head taller and just bigger or something. I have bigger hands and feet. I am as tall or taller than what seems like half of men and feel very unfeminine next to anyone my size. I have serious issues because of it, which I know rationally are mostly in my head.

I try to remind myself of the benefits - I am taken very seriously professionally for one (studies show that tall slim people do better at work in general). Also, most trends look great one me. Read any of the beauty threads here - who looks good in maxi dresses for example - who is it? It's tall slim people, always.

No real advice, just know that you are not alone.

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Anonymous wrote:Really? I'm the same height and I wear heals and skirts. I LOVE being tall. I think it is a huge benefit as well, in many ways.

Really?? But, do you live with tall people as well? Because it's different when the average height is like 5'. Can we share mails to talk about it, lol I'm serious.

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Anonymous wrote:5' 11 or more! I know at my 24 I should be happy with who I am but, it frustrates me in many ways. When I go to work I'd love to wear straight skirts below he knee but I can't because I can't wear heels. I always wear pants because I can wear flat shoes and people don't notice it, sometimes someone says: I thought you were wearing heels:S

I love dresses, this is my big trauma and I can't wear them because I don't want to look like a giant or more giant and I don't think they look good with flats, much less at nights, or in elegant events. So I have to settle for something "formal" but it doesn't look good when everybody has a different dress code.

I like the way I look, I know I am pretty and I like being tall but not in these situations, especially when everybody is like 5' :S and the girls look so elegant with the heels and the dresses. I guess I can't do anything about it.

I am 5'11'' too and I could have written that post. I actually hate it when people who are 5'2'' or whateer say things like "I WISH i had your height." They have no idea what it is like. Everyone has issues and they shouldn't downplay your feeling bad about something that bothers you. It is a legitimate concern. Our society has a narrow definition of "beauty", and just as fat people are made to feel awkward and "off" so are taller women. The fact is, there are a lot of guys that do not like tall girls. I mean, with the obvious exceptions like Cameron Diaz, and Gisele Bundchen. I can remember all through high school and college going to parties/bars etc and being the one weird tall girl that "stuck out", the guys always noticed the other girls in my group and were never interested in me. Now that I am older obviously I've gotten beyond most of these childhood scars but it still does lie underneath int my self image a bit.

This is so truth, how old are you? Yes, guys always see the short girls, I knew I was correct. Did it get better for you??

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Anonymous wrote:OP - I'm 5'8" and a size 4. So I guess I'm not even that tall, but being a larger woman is something I have struggled with all my life. In pictures with other girls I always look a head taller and just bigger or something. I have bigger hands and feet. I am as tall or taller than what seems like half of men and feel very unfeminine next to anyone my size. I have serious issues because of it, which I know rationally are mostly in my head.

I try to remind myself of the benefits - I am taken very seriously professionally for one (studies show that tall slim people do better at work in general). Also, most trends look great one me. Read any of the beauty threads here - who looks good in maxi dresses for example - who is it? It's tall slim people, always.

No real advice, just know that you are not alone.

Yes, all what you say is right. Can I ask you your e mail to talk about it lol and other things? I felt I was like overreacting with those things and I never talked about it with my friends because when I tried they were like: "oh you are crazy, it's nothing important, nothing wrong". But it is a problem especially in specific situations. Good to know I'm not alone

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I am 5'10" and I have to say it was around 23/24 when I really started feeling confident and enjoying it. I was always told I looked like a model, was gorgeous, etc - but I was SO uncomfortable, and self conscious. I just wanted to be tiny and delicate. The one upside in my youth was I was very much into sports. Otherwise it was torture in middle school, better in HS. Those cute 5'4 girls, I was so envious of them! But once I got to college, guys realllllly started loving the long legs. Then I just had a shift in mindset where I became more involved with my health, not just being skinny, but running/weights, etc., and aside from helping tone me head to toe (oh could I kill it in a bikini!), the mental benefits were superb. I began rocking 3" heels (still do 15 years later!), short skirts (pp who said be careful with minis is right - but a cute short skirt was juuuuuust a shade under a scandalous mini for a night out). My best friend is 5'4" and beautiful, she always had the cutest boyfriends in HS and college. After college and in our mid-20s she would always complain about how she felt like our baby sister when we went out (we had other tall friends, but I was the tallest) and it was a struggle for her. I felt like I owned the place pretty much every time I went out in my 20s.

There are still times I feel gargantuan, and that's usually if my weight has starts to creep up, but mostly I don't really notice any more. It seems women are getting taller and taller. Did you see the Self spread of Stacy Keibler, George Klooney's GF? My gosh, those LEGS! Stunning.

Oh, about the shoes, there are also some very nice mid-size heels that you can wear too, for work. And yes, yes, on the maxi dresses! I own several and looooove them and really feel beautiful in them. EVERY time I wear one (just wore one yesterday) I get sooo many compliments. I have a friend and she is 6'2" - she is gorgeous - people often remark on her height, but not so much on mine, so funny. So really, 5'11' is getting pretty mainstream, lol.

I really think you are at the perfect age to start coming out of your shell about your height - stand up straight, keep your head up, wear those heels!

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Anonymous wrote:I am 5ft 2in and I love my height. I would not change a thing. Being tall is great but honestly, only if you are thin, pretty and model like. Tall and not pretty then you look like an amazon chick.

Oh wow, I agree with this. I'm a few inches taller than you, but I have a few very tall friends (5'11'-6') who are obsessed with their height and routinely refer to me and other friends as "so short." My taller friends are by no means supermodel material and their tall verges on awkward and oaf-ish, but my god you'd think tall=supermodel in their world. It's one thing to embrace how you look - whether tall or short, but to all the sanctimonious tall ladies out there: tall does not equal beautiful, it just equals tall.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 5'10" and I have to say it was around 23/24 when I really started feeling confident and enjoying it. I was always told I looked like a model, was gorgeous, etc - but I was SO uncomfortable, and self conscious. I just wanted to be tiny and delicate. The one upside in my youth was I was very much into sports. Otherwise it was torture in middle school, better in HS. Those cute 5'4 girls, I was so envious of them! But once I got to college, guys realllllly started loving the long legs. Then I just had a shift in mindset where I became more involved with my health, not just being skinny, but running/weights, etc., and aside from helping tone me head to toe (oh could I kill it in a bikini!), the mental benefits were superb. I began rocking 3" heels (still do 15 years later!), short skirts (pp who said be careful with minis is right - but a cute short skirt was juuuuuust a shade under a scandalous mini for a night out). My best friend is 5'4" and beautiful, she always had the cutest boyfriends in HS and college. After college and in our mid-20s she would always complain about how she felt like our baby sister when we went out (we had other tall friends, but I was the tallest) and it was a struggle for her. I felt like I owned the place pretty much every time I went out in my 20s.

There are still times I feel gargantuan, and that's usually if my weight has starts to creep up, but mostly I don't really notice any more. It seems women are getting taller and taller. Did you see the Self spread of Stacy Keibler, George Klooney's GF? My gosh, those LEGS! Stunning.


Oh, about the shoes, there are also some very nice mid-size heels that you can wear too, for work. And yes, yes, on the maxi dresses! I own several and looooove them and really feel beautiful in them. EVERY time I wear one (just wore one yesterday) I get sooo many compliments. I have a friend and she is 6'2" - she is gorgeous - people often remark on her height, but not so much on mine, so funny. So really, 5'11' is getting pretty mainstream, lol.

I really think you are at the perfect age to start coming out of your shell about your height - stand up straight, keep your head up, wear those heels!

I loved your experience. I always receive compliments, too. It still scares me wearing even one inch heels but I will try. Thank you for your advices

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Dude married to a 6' woman here. I love tall girls (and short and medium-sized girls, too). Don't understand the fetish about heels, however. Just because short chicks wear them doesn't mean you have to, too, tall chicks, to feel "empowered," or whatever. At 6' myself, I never had an issue w. my wife's height, but if she towered over me by 3", even if she felt empowered, or like she had finally joined the Sisterhood of Cute Chicks, or whatever, I think I would feel odd.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude married to a 6' woman here. I love tall girls (and short and medium-sized girls, too). Don't understand the fetish about heels, however. Just because short chicks wear them doesn't mean you have to, too, tall chicks, to feel "empowered," or whatever. At 6' myself, I never had an issue w. my wife's height, but if she towered over me by 3", even if she felt empowered, or like she had finally joined the Sisterhood of Cute Chicks, or whatever, I think I would feel odd.

I know I should not wear them but then you see everybody and you feel in another place =/ But good to know theres people who doesnt care=)... I think I have to find a very tall man, too:S... Thank you for your experience