traumatized about my height

[Anonymous]

OP I would look at this way. If you are already 5 '11 is wearing 1.5 -2 inch heels really going to make a huge difference in your height? (I don't anyone who wears super high heels or platforms plus heels to work and isn't poorly dressed so I'm assuming that you are talking about classy heel. )Why not just wear the heels and the skirts? People already know that you are tall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 5ft 2in and I love my height. I would not change a thing. Being tall is great but honestly, only if you are thin, pretty and model like. Tall and not pretty then you look like an amazon chick.

Sort of the same as being short - attractive if you're thin, but 5'2" and overweight and not pretty you just look short and dumpy.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'10 and avoided wearing heels for a long time. I'm 34 and just don't care anymore, I wear them when I want. And when I don't want to wear heels for comfort sake, there are nice sandals, kitten heels, etc. You have a complex, sounds like you know that. I promise that no one cares about your height as much as you do. DH is "only" 6'0 so I'm taller than him in proper heels. Neither of us cares.

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Anonymous wrote:Really? I'm the same height and I wear heals and skirts. I LOVE being tall. I think it is a huge benefit as well, in many ways.

Really?? But, do you live with tall people as well? Because it's different when the average height is like 5'. Can we share mails to talk about it, lol I'm serious.

I live with a DH taller than me, 2 small kids (under 48inches tall), and a shortish teen.

My two best friends are barely scraping 5 feet (whom I've known since HS) so we are funny looking when we go out. I feel proud being tall, I really do like it. I feel like it helps me especially in a work environment or when I need to be assertive.

I think if you carry your height with insecurity it looks really bad. I had a mom that would always be after me for slouching and she always told me to stand with my shoulders back, it has stuck with me.

[Anonymous]

I'm 6'1"--and frankly, I don't think I've given it much thought since I was about 15, and EVERYONE is awkward about something at that age. It is a huge pain in the ass to buy pants, though. And I don't wear heels, but that's because I can't walk in the darn things and they are impractical as all get-out.

OP, wear whatever you like--I guarantee you that you are obsessing over it way more than anyone else will, and if anyone thinks anything of it, that's their problem, not yours!

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Anonymous wrote:5' 11 or more! I know at my 24 I should be happy with who I am but, it frustrates me in many ways. When I go to work I'd love to wear straight skirts below he knee but I can't because I can't wear heels. I always wear pants because I can wear flat shoes and people don't notice it, sometimes someone says: I thought you were wearing heels:S

I love dresses, this is my big trauma and I can't wear them because I don't want to look like a giant or more giant and I don't think they look good with flats, much less at nights, or in elegant events. So I have to settle for something "formal" but it doesn't look good when everybody has a different dress code.

I like the way I look, I know I am pretty and I like being tall but not in these situations, especially when everybody is like 5' :S and the girls look so elegant with the heels and the dresses. I guess I can't do anything about it.

I am 5'11'' too and I could have written that post. I actually hate it when people who are 5'2'' or whateer say things like "I WISH i had your height." They have no idea what it is like. Everyone has issues and they shouldn't downplay your feeling bad about something that bothers you. It is a legitimate concern. Our society has a narrow definition of "beauty", and just as fat people are made to feel awkward and "off" so are taller women. The fact is, there are a lot of guys that do not like tall girls. I mean, with the obvious exceptions like Cameron Diaz, and Gisele Bundchen. I can remember all through high school and college going to parties/bars etc and being the one weird tall girl that "stuck out", the guys always noticed the other girls in my group and were never interested in me. Now that I am older obviously I've gotten beyond most of these childhood scars but it still does lie underneath int my self image a bit.

I get this I am 5'4" and 3/4 --I remember in 7th grade not wanting to be a single inch taller and being envisious of the perkcy, cute 5'1-5'2" petitite girls. Unfortunately, I got my wish. It was great while the boys still weren't growing. I was always shorter than them. I realized what an idiot I was later for not wanting to have height. I am the shortest in my entire family. My sister is 5'8" and all of my girl cousins are 5'9/5'10". I feel like a runt. I also am in a neighborhood with very tall women. I feel like a short child. I wish my legs were longer. I wish now that I did get those extra 3-4 inches! Fashion hangs better on taller women.

[Anonymous]

A few inches over 6' here, tall and thin/model-like but still I would love to lose a few inches and be only 5' 11" although I'm over the trauma part now but felt it for years (especially up to and through my mid 20s) so I know how you feel. It was horrible growing up - I'm still taller than a huge percentage of men. No one has any problem asking how tall you are but I always felt it was basically the equivalent to asking "how much do you weigh" to heavy person.

No real suggestions for you other than you will notice it less the older you get - although I confess I do worry about losing balance as I get to be very old.

Wearing high quality clothes seems like a great idea - except that it just drew attention to me and I was sick of it. I still get stared down all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:A few inches over 6' here, tall and thin/model-like but still I would love to lose a few inches and be only 5' 11" although I'm over the trauma part now but felt it for years (especially up to and through my mid 20s) so I know how you feel. It was horrible growing up - I'm still taller than a huge percentage of men. No one has any problem asking how tall you are but I always felt it was basically the equivalent to asking "how much do you weigh" to heavy person.

No real suggestions for you other than you will notice it less the older you get - although I confess I do worry about losing balance as I get to be very old.

Wearing high quality clothes seems like a great idea - except that it just drew attention to me and I was sick of it. I still get stared down all the time.

I know it's the same than "how much do you weight" , right? It's innapropiated, I hate it when they make jokes about it. Not now but when I was in universoty I was like shhuut up everybody. It really bothered me. Well, i hope it to dissapear with the time Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:5' 11 or more! I know at my 24 I should be happy with who I am but, it frustrates me in many ways. When I go to work I'd love to wear straight skirts below he knee but I can't because I can't wear heels. I always wear pants because I can wear flat shoes and people don't notice it, sometimes someone says: I thought you were wearing heels:S

I love dresses, this is my big trauma and I can't wear them because I don't want to look like a giant or more giant and I don't think they look good with flats, much less at nights, or in elegant events. So I have to settle for something "formal" but it doesn't look good when everybody has a different dress code.

I like the way I look, I know I am pretty and I like being tall but not in these situations, especially when everybody is like 5' :S and the girls look so elegant with the heels and the dresses. I guess I can't do anything about it.

I am 5'11'' too and I could have written that post. I actually hate it when people who are 5'2'' or whateer say things like "I WISH i had your height." They have no idea what it is like. Everyone has issues and they shouldn't downplay your feeling bad about something that bothers you. It is a legitimate concern. Our society has a narrow definition of "beauty", and just as fat people are made to feel awkward and "off" so are taller women. The fact is, there are a lot of guys that do not like tall girls. I mean, with the obvious exceptions like Cameron Diaz, and Gisele Bundchen. I can remember all through high school and college going to parties/bars etc and being the one weird tall girl that "stuck out", the guys always noticed the other girls in my group and were never interested in me. Now that I am older obviously I've gotten beyond most of these childhood scars but it still does lie underneath int my self image a bit.

On every height post, at least one person refers to the short girls--anyone under 5' 4"--as smurfs or something equally insulting. Don't think it's all rainbows and sunshine being short.

[Anonymous]

I'm just shy of 6 feet. I'm small framed and have always been thin without much effort. Even still, it was tough growing up. I was different and I stuck out. I wanted nothing more than to just blend in and be average. NO ONE wanted to date me in high school. By college, I was getting significantly more positive attention and I think I didn't even know how to respond. I actually became pretty standoffish to guys. I think that's because part of me always responded as my 16-year-old self...i.e., people are making fun of me, not admiring me.

Now I'm married and have kids and I never think about it anymore and I don't think anyone else does much either. My husband is my height - shorter if I wear heels, which I do sometimes. At the end of the day, I'm grateful because I think clothes look better on me and I probably carry a few extra pounds better than the average person. My mother always told me I'd be happy in the end. She was right. But that doesn't discount some rough patches along the way. Hang in there OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I would look at this way. If you are already 5 '11 is wearing 1.5 -2 inch heels really going to make a huge difference in your height? (I don't anyone who wears super high heels or platforms plus heels to work and isn't poorly dressed so I'm assuming that you are talking about classy heel. )Why not just wear the heels and the skirts? People already know that you are tall.

+1

I'm just shy of six feet, and it took me way too long to figure out that trying to appear shorter by wearing flats ain't fooling anyone. Just like slouching doesn't make you look shorter, it makes you look like a tall chick with bad posture.

Look, I get it, I was called (and felt) gawky in high school, and had all the assorted humiliation of being taller than nearly every guy in school (not as bad in college). Somewhere along the way I just realized that all the wishing in the world wasn't going to make me shorter. So wear the heels - and if someone is intimidated and makes you feel awkward, that's their insecurity, not yours. (My husband is two inches shorter than I am. He doesn't care. Guys like this exist.) I can honestly say that I don't even think about it any more unless I'm irritated that I can't buy long enough jeans off the rack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 5ft 2in and I love my height. I would not change a thing. Being tall is great but honestly, only if you are thin, pretty and model like. Tall and not pretty then you look like an amazon chick.

Sort of the same as being short - attractive if you're thin, but 5'2" and overweight and not pretty you just look short and dumpy.

hahaha this is so truth!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I would look at this way. If you are already 5 '11 is wearing 1.5 -2 inch heels really going to make a huge difference in your height? (I don't anyone who wears super high heels or platforms plus heels to work and isn't poorly dressed so I'm assuming that you are talking about classy heel. )Why not just wear the heels and the skirts? People already know that you are tall.

+1

I'm just shy of six feet, and it took me way too long to figure out that trying to appear shorter by wearing flats ain't fooling anyone. Just like slouching doesn't make you look shorter, it makes you look like a tall chick with bad posture.

Look, I get it, I was called (and felt) gawky in high school, and had all the assorted humiliation of being taller than nearly every guy in school (not as bad in college). Somewhere along the way I just realized that all the wishing in the world wasn't going to make me shorter. So wear the heels - and if someone is intimidated and makes you feel awkward, that's their insecurity, not yours. (My husband is two inches shorter than I am. He doesn't care. Guys like this exist.) I can honestly say that I don't even think about it any more unless I'm irritated that I can't buy long enough jeans off the rack.

I loved this, both. Thank you so much! I think I will defrinetly try=)... I was looking for dresses yesterday lol they are so sexy and also the sklirts. Thank you to everybody you made me feel much better.. and...I hope to find a guy like yours!!

Thanks all!

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Can somebedoy explain me what's the meaning of OP? thank you.

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I have a daughter who I think will be somewhere between 5'9" and 6'2" when she grows up. Her dad is 6'5" and I am 5"6. I am worried she will feel bad about her height or maybe have feelings like OP. Sorry to hijack the thread, but do you tall ladies have some advice for a shorter mom to help me ensure my daughter is happy and comfortable in her own skin? She is only 9 and already her height is past my shoulders. People often think she is older and due to her height make comments like "oh, you're going to be a supermodel!" which I don't particularly like, but I guess the comment could be much worse. I do think the comment is a meant as a compliment, but my daughter doesn't quite know how to react. Anyway, do you have any tips, or do's an don'ts? Thank you!