traumatized about my height

[Anonymous]

Tall does not equal beautiful and short does not equal ugly. I have met more tall women in this town who are average looking yet act like they are model-beautiful b/c of their height. These are the same women who refer to their average-height friends as short (and they mean that as an insult). There are a lot more "Bea Arthur" tall ladies in this town than there are "Cindy Crawford" types, so pipe down tall gals.

[Anonymous]

Well, my own mom is 5'11", so I didn't grow up with a big height difference between myself and my mother, but I would say just do the same thing you would do to help any daughter navigate the cultural pressures that girls face to concentrate on their appearance. When I was a kid, I used to tell my mom I wanted to be a flight attendant (because I thought that was a very glamorous profession). Her approach: "Well, but that might be a bit boring. Wouldn't you like to be a pilot instead?"

(I have much respect for flight attendants, btw. I think it was more about her steering me away from wanting to do it because I thought it was a "pretty" job.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tall does not equal beautiful and short does not equal ugly. I have met more tall women in this town who are average looking yet act like they are model-beautiful b/c of their height. These are the same women who refer to their average-height friends as short (and they mean that as an insult). There are a lot more "Bea Arthur" tall ladies in this town than there are "Cindy Crawford" types, so pipe down tall gals.

projecting much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can somebedoy explain me what's the meaning of OP? thank you.

OP = Original Poster - the person who started the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tall does not equal beautiful and short does not equal ugly. I have met more tall women in this town who are average looking yet act like they are model-beautiful b/c of their height. These are the same women who refer to their average-height friends as short (and they mean that as an insult). There are a lot more "Bea Arthur" tall ladies in this town than there are "Cindy Crawford" types, so pipe down tall gals.

projecting much?

Lol true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can somebedoy explain me what's the meaning of OP? thank you.

OP = Original Poster - the person who started the thread.

Oh ok, thank you so much I'm the OP lol.

[Anonymous]

I am a 6' woman and I know where you are coming from. Especially since DC seems to be short guy heaven.

But to echo what another PP said, honey, you're already tall. An inch or two of heel isnt going to make you shorter. However it will make your outfit look more pulled together and might make you feel more confident.

Also flip the script on short chicks being cute, whatever you think. When you go out with your friends you know who people see? Your hot self. You don't blend into the crowd. Also another added bonus is that men with serious insecurity issues won't talk to you so it's easier to weed them out.

Start slow with the shoes. Go to Zappos where you can choose shoes by height. Get a pair that has a one inch heel and see how that goes. Then try a pair with two inch. I will be honest that I rarely wear higher than 2.5 inch heels but that is leftover insecurity.

I never wanted to date guys who were shorter than me but ended up marrying someone 5'10". And he loves when I wear heels!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tall does not equal beautiful and short does not equal ugly. I have met more tall women in this town who are average looking yet act like they are model-beautiful b/c of their height. These are the same women who refer to their average-height friends as short (and they mean that as an insult). There are a lot more "Bea Arthur" tall ladies in this town than there are "Cindy Crawford" types, so pipe down tall gals.

projecting much?

That model-esque confidence is what makes them look even better than a hater like you.

[Anonymous]

I am one of the 6' pps and am laughing at the comments about people asking your height. I swear if I had a dollar for every time someone asked me if I played basketball, I would be a rich woman. Unfortunately I am super unathletic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tall does not equal beautiful and short does not equal ugly. I have met more tall women in this town who are average looking yet act like they are model-beautiful b/c of their height. These are the same women who refer to their average-height friends as short (and they mean that as an insult). There are a lot more "Bea Arthur" tall ladies in this town than there are "Cindy Crawford" types, so pipe down tall gals.

projecting much?

That model-esque confidence is what makes them look even better than a hater like you.

No, I'm talking about a friend who constantly puts down average height women by calling them short as an insult. Being tall doesn't make this friend pretty and her mean spirited words are just mean. I'm talking about someone who never gets off the height topic. We're out at events and she targets pretty women and insults them as short -- when they are lovely. I get that it is about her insecurity, but still. Yeah, when someone is that mean, I can't help notice that, while tall, she's no supermodel. As for confident, nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tall does not equal beautiful and short does not equal ugly. I have met more tall women in this town who are average looking yet act like they are model-beautiful b/c of their height. These are the same women who refer to their average-height friends as short (and they mean that as an insult). There are a lot more "Bea Arthur" tall ladies in this town than there are "Cindy Crawford" types, so pipe down tall gals.

projecting much?

That model-esque confidence is what makes them look even better than a hater like you.

No, I'm talking about a friend who constantly puts down average height women by calling them short as an insult. Being tall doesn't make this friend pretty and her mean spirited words are just mean. I'm talking about someone who never gets off the height topic. We're out at events and she targets pretty women and insults them as short -- when they are lovely. I get that it is about her insecurity, but still. Yeah, when someone is that mean, I can't help notice that, while tall, she's no supermodel. As for confident, nope.

So, all that to say yes, in fact you are projecting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am one of the 6' pps and am laughing at the comments about people asking your height. I swear if I had a dollar for every time someone asked me if I played basketball, I would be a rich woman. Unfortunately I am super unathletic.

When I was in high school, somebody gave me a t-shirt that said "No, I don't play basketball...do you play miniature golf?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a daughter who I think will be somewhere between 5'9" and 6'2" when she grows up. Her dad is 6'5" and I am 5"6. I am worried she will feel bad about her height or maybe have feelings like OP. Sorry to hijack the thread, but do you tall ladies have some advice for a shorter mom to help me ensure my daughter is happy and comfortable in her own skin? She is only 9 and already her height is past my shoulders. People often think she is older and due to her height make comments like "oh, you're going to be a supermodel!" which I don't particularly like, but I guess the comment could be much worse. I do think the comment is a meant as a compliment, but my daughter doesn't quite know how to react. Anyway, do you have any tips, or do's an don'ts? Thank you!

I'm just six feet (or 5'12" as I used to call it) and my mom is about 5'3". I'd say the best thing you can do is really not make an issue out of it, don't project your concern on her. It's not like weight where there is arguably something you can do to help her change it, and calling attention to it might just make her more sensitive about it. I remember once overhearing my mom saying to a friend before I reached full height "I mean, I'd like her to be tall, but not six feet or something." I mean, ouch. She didn't know I heard her, but my feelings were hurt.

I'd say she will probably have it a little easier now than many of us did at least in terms of clothes - for example, pants in general are longer now and you can get tall sizes in nearly every mainstream store. (When I was in high school in the late 80's good luck trying to find pants that fit - and the only Tall stores were places that had frumpy elastic waist pants. Fortunately I went to Catholic school and had a uniform skirt, ha.) In terms of self esteem - there is really nothing different to do other than what you would do to help any size daughter to feel good about her body and herself.

[Anonymous]

I'm super short (@5') and get comments at times about my height. I look silly carrying my 3 year old who is looking bigger and bigger in comparison to me. Sure, I'd like to be taller but I'd also like a million bucks. I'm equally likely to get either.

I think tall women who own it can be stunning. Same goes for us short gals. Either way, you have to own it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N9-L8wKBfcg&feature=related

[Anonymous]

Are your female friends all short? it's easy to be self-conscious when the other women in your peer group are all dainty little things. It's easy to feel ungainly when you are taller than your friends. I've had that problem myself. I'm *only* 5'8" but for a long time I wasn't crazy about being that tall. I've been this tall since 5th grade, long before anyone else really started growing. Sometime in my 20's or early 30's, I started to own it and now I'm totally ok with it. I generally don't wear high heels because I'm a runner and don't like to do that to my feet, but when I do, I rock them. It helps that I have other tall girls in my circle, several of whom are taller than me. The only downside is that being tall definitely cuts the pool of men who are taller than me.

You need to start owning it. This is something that can not and will not change, so own it. Say to yourself, "yes, I am tall. I am a tall, stately chick." (or whatever words you like that don't sound totally weird.) Yes, you can wear heels. Yes, you'll be taller, but so friggin' what? there are plenty of women (and men) out there who would love to be taller. Find the right clothes that flatter you and wear whatever shoes look best with them. And don't slouch. Slouching totally ruins it. Find some tall girlfriends to hang out with. And know that if you're single, most of my very tall guy friends prefer to date tall girls.