Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH and I are black. He would not marry a white woman, so "no".

Prior to marriage, I've never been open to dating outside of my race; however, the me I am today would be, so my answer would be "yes".

There are other races besides white and black.

I'm aware. My husband wouldn't be open to any of them, except a biracial woman (I asked). He also never dated outside of his race.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I are black. He would not marry a white woman, so "no".

Prior to marriage, I've never been open to dating outside of my race; however, the me I am today would be, so my answer would be "yes".

There are other races besides white and black.

The PP never implied that there weren't other races. The question in the OP is "would your spouse have married you of you were any other race?" Since the PP's husband finds white women unattractive, then no, he wouldn't have married her if she were any other race.

[Anonymous]

My spouse would have married any woman other than white. He finds them unattractive.

So the answer to the OP is no, I guess.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can you have the same basic looks and be a different race? We are an interracial couple and my answer is no - I'm attracted to my dh which is largely due to his race color/features etc

Are you serious?

DH is South Asian, I'm South American and when we went to each others' home country people were amazed to see how similar looking we were to our local folks. We blended in perfectly. I can totally see DH being my race and me being his race.

with is South american? It's a continent, not a race. Is your DH much darker skinned than you? That would explain a lot...Sounds like he married down for color.

WTF is wrong with you??

[Anonymous]

And btw this thread is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm, the OP's question assumes that race would not impact one's outlook, personality, demeanor, etc. IMO, there is no way I would be the person I am today (I am Asian American, btw) if I were born white or black. In other words, my race has undoubtedly shaped the person I am today. Would DH have married me if I were white or black or some other color? I don't know because that person would not exist.

OP's question is moot.

what if you were adopted into a family of a different race. Would your husband have married an Asian woman raised by white parents?

Again, racial identity affects one's personality. Just because you're Asian and adopted by white parents, doesn't mean that your "Asian-ness" goes away. Look around you--Asians are a minority in most places in the US. There is no way that looking like a minority wouldn't affect how you view yourself and the world around you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm, the OP's question assumes that race would not impact one's outlook, personality, demeanor, etc. IMO, there is no way I would be the person I am today (I am Asian American, btw) if I were born white or black. In other words, my race has undoubtedly shaped the person I am today. Would DH have married me if I were white or black or some other color? I don't know because that person would not exist.

OP's question is moot.

Very good point, PP. I am black. Would I still be "me" if I were white?

[Anonymous]

Dh and I are an interracial couple. While he dated within his race, I don't think he would have married within his race.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can you have the same basic looks and be a different race? We are an interracial couple and my answer is no - I'm attracted to my dh which is largely due to his race color/features etc

Are you serious?

DH is South Asian, I'm South American and when we went to each others' home country people were amazed to see how similar looking we were to our local folks. We blended in perfectly. I can totally see DH being my race and me being his race.

with is South american? It's a continent, not a race. Is your DH much darker skinned than you? That would explain a lot...Sounds like he married down for color.

"South American" poster here.

Let's see if you can help me out here...

My mom has white skin, brown straight hair. Almost no body hair. Her mom and dad also look like that. We don't know what's their heritage. They're all very short.

My dad has green eyes, red hair, fair skin and average body hair. He's shorter than average. His mom is blond with blue eyes very very tall and average body hair. His dad has brown skin, green eyes and almost no body hair. Grandpa is very very short. We also don't know their heritage.

I came out with light brown straight hair, fair skin that tans easily, light brown eyes and average body hair. I'm very short.

What race am I?

BTW, I didn't understand the "marry down for color" comment. What does it mean?

[Anonymous]

This is a nonsensical question.

If I were a different race I would have been a fundamentally different person because I would have had different life experiences, circumstances, etc as a result.

[Anonymous]

No. Same with me. I've had this discussion with friends, and the conclusion was that while we may have been opening to dating people of other races, there were som we definitely felt we couldn't marry. We realize that was very ignorant of us, but maybe it was "fear of unknown" and hanging onto stereotypes that made us feel like that. Either way, it was the truth.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I think my DH wishes I was a different race. He has a thing for exotic women. I think I am almost too white for him sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a nonsensical question.

If I were a different race I would have been a fundamentally different person because I would have had different life experiences, circumstances, etc as a result.

The OP said all else equal.

[Anonymous]

ummmm, i don't know. he's been with women of different races than mine before.

if i wasn't the race i am, i might not be attracted to him! we are both latino.

i have no doubt that i would be a totally different person if i were white.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a nonsensical question.

If I were a different race I would have been a fundamentally different person because I would have had different life experiences, circumstances, etc as a result.

The OP said all else equal.

It's still an impossible question.