Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
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Anonymous
| I think this is a really interesting question, actually. My husband and I are white, the last serious girlfriend he had before me was black. But I still think my answer is no. FIL is seriously racist, and although my husband is not, I'm not sure whether that would have been too big a hurdle for him to marry someone of another race. |
Anonymous
| Yes. We're different races. He has said that the only real impediments for him would have been vast disagreements on religion and politics. If you were to ask him today, he'd throw family in there. We are sometimes at odds regarding how much is too much when it comes to dealing with family. |
Anonymous
DH is South Asian, I'm South American and when we went to each others' home country people were amazed to see how similar looking we were to our local folks. We blended in perfectly. I can totally see DH being my race and me being his race. |
Anonymous
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My DH and I are black. He would not marry a white woman, so "no".
Prior to marriage, I've never been open to dating outside of my race; however, the me I am today would be, so my answer would be "yes". |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
There are other races besides white and black. |
Anonymous
15% of new marriages are interracial. |
Anonymous
| I get your question OP--like the black guy who marries a white woman with much lower qualifications than himself. No way would say Jim Vance be married to a black female equivalent of his wife, for instance. This is a very real phenomenon. In interracial marriages, the partner of color tends to be of a much higher status than the white spouse-- |
Anonymous
with is South american? It's a continent, not a race. Is your DH much darker skinned than you? That would explain a lot...Sounds like he married down for color. |
Anonymous
| I dont understand this thread. WHAT??? |
Anonymous
| Another way to look at this is, if you and your spouse are the same race, say white, would your spouse have married you if you were Asian or African American? |
Anonymous
Height weight and so on. Basic good looking or average or below average... |
Anonymous
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Hmmm, the OP's question assumes that race would not impact one's outlook, personality, demeanor, etc. IMO, there is no way I would be the person I am today (I am Asian American, btw) if I were born white or black. In other words, my race has undoubtedly shaped the person I am today. Would DH have married me if I were white or black or some other color? I don't know because that person would not exist.
OP's question is moot. |
Anonymous
what if you were adopted into a family of a different race. Would your husband have married an Asian woman raised by white parents? |
Anonymous
| No. And I wouldn't have married him either. |