Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You've never even thought about this?? I have had friends much wealthier who couldn't fathom not being able to afford something. They spent their college summers studying art in Florence; I spent each and every summer working full time. I'm much more ambitious and competitive because I was never guaranteed anything financially. And on the other end, my truly poor friends think my lifestyle is frivolous. I don't want to spend my time justifying my lifestyle.

It's not that I don't think about SES or money in general, I was just saying I hadn't given much thought to the SES of the people I was dating. I didn't think until just now how very similar the backgrounds were of most of the men I dated. As I said, it wasn't a conscious choice in the sense that the previous poster talked about not marrying someone out of their class. Maybe that is just who I naturally gravitate towards rather than actually saying and thinking to myself "I must find someone with a similar upbringing/class as mine"