Annoying Constant Comparison - sorry loooooong...
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Anonymous
Wow, calm down. Breath in, breath out.... Oddly, what people seem to be irritated with OP about is her over-inclusiveness on what it means to be developmentally delayed and that her child is more advanced than she was initially suggesting. If I got that right... |
Anonymous
| ^^ That being said, of course crawling is a milestone. |
Anonymous
| Sorry OP but you sound kind of troll-y and some of the posts in support sound kinda sock-puppet-y. It's your odd grammatical style that throws up a red flag for me. |
Anonymous
| OK, OP, I'll bite. When did your DD crawl, or not crawl? |
Anonymous
| OP, I feel like your original post was unclear. The fist time I read it, I thought the other kid had developmental delays. Your subsequent posts seem much clearer but it seemed like you were mocking the other mother who seemed threatened rather than upset due to your own child being misjudged. |
Anonymous
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NP here. I join the minority as one who didn't read the OP as bragging...nor any of her follow-ups. In fact, my read is that she felt very uncomfortable and tried to downplay all the comments from the other mom. I suppose it was "constant" comparisons for ONE day, but agree with another poster(s) that i'd give them another chance. If the mom continues to act like that, I'd throw in the towel on this relationship because I do consider it strange.
I didn't find anything unclear about what OP has stated- some of the responses, however, are harping on things that are irrelevant. |
Anonymous
OP here and THANK YOU! You got exactly what I meant and I would appreciate if you mentioned what you thought was irrelevant. |
Anonymous
| Here's what got to me about OP's post. She reports her DD is developmentally delayed. She then says that her friend's DD who is only two weeks younger hasn't even met the milestones that OP's DD has met. If I were the friend, I'd probably be pretty freaked out if I were realizing that my child was behind that of my friend's developmentally delayed child. But instead of getting where the friend is coming from, OP is irritated about it. And worse, through her post of comparisons seems to build her DD up by essentially saying that her friend's DD is even more disabled but her friend just doesn't recognize it. |
Anonymous
Feel free to ask Jeff where the posts are coming from. Hit the report button and he'll be more than happy to chime in to let you know we're not the same people. |
Anonymous
OP here. My child is "delayed". I didn't intend to mock anyone. All I did was to try to downplay the other mother's comments. |
Anonymous
OP here and since I have a lot of time on my hands let me give you piece of my mind... When my child was not rolling over and crawling I came here (because my pediatrician was dismissive to my concerns) and a lot of people said not to worry that crawling was not a "real" milestone. Rolling over OTOH was. I did some research and learned that there are two schools of thought in child development while one states that crawling is not important, not listed as a milestone another school of thought says it is and lists its implications. When I came back to DCUM on this issue I was mocked by mothers of children who never crawled and "grew up just fine". Still I was convinced that crawling was an important milestone and I was sure I wanted to pursue treatment for my child. I switched pediatricians and after several weeks of intense investigation we found out about this 2 unrelated conditions that were contributing to my child's delays. This pediatrician agreed with pursuing treatment and we found a PT from our school of thought. This wonderful professional has been working with us since DC was 7 months old and now we're about to be dismissed for reaching all our goals. To answer your question, my child is just now learning to crawl at 15 months old and still has a lot of difficulty. We got to make her twist from side to side today for the first time and we were all so happy for her accomplishment. It might seem like not a big deal for a lot of people but for us it's big. Re the neurological condition we're still working on it. DD is still very sensitive to touch and tactile stimulation but working on the different shapes and textures has showed us that little by little she's overcoming her fear. And we're proud of her. We want her to grow happy. That's all we want. |
Anonymous
If you had more experience, you'd know there is a wide range of symptoms and severity with gross motor delays, in fact with any kind of developmental delay. Two of my kids have SN and the youngest was diagnosed with gross motor delays greater than 25% when he was 15 months old. Some milestones he met within norml range, others he did not. My youngest also has apraxia of speech and never learned to drink from a sippy cup but could from a straw and an open cup at a very early age. He could also sing familiar songs quite well but 90% of what he said was unintelligble to a stranger. He started PT at 15 months, did that for a year and has been in ST and OT since he was 2. He's now 5 and can hardly hold a crayon yet he can build using mini-legos. My oldest also have developmenal delays, including gross/fine motor and speech delays yet he's very different from my youngest. It's quite offensive that just because your DD can't do what the OP's DD can do, you think she's lying. OP - I suggest in the future when you have this sort of issue, you post on the SN forum. It's not uncommon when people know your child has delays that it can come as quite an unpleasant shock that our child doesn't always present differently than their child or may, in fact, be more advanced in some areas than their child. In short, your child doesn't fit their preconceived notions of what a developmentally delayed child is. You might considering giving them another chance but don't feel compelled. We've learned our lives are much better when we don't have competitive, unsupportive people in our lives. Good luck. |
Anonymous
| Did OP ever say how old her DC is? Are we talking 18 months here? |
Anonymous
15 months |
Anonymous
Yes, because clearly you can't post from different computers. This response makes it even clearer that you are totally sock puppeting and just think you have it all figured out. That's fine, but I hope it doesn't stop you from actually listening to some of what PPs have had to say. I don't care if your kid is delayed or not or what that means, but you really need to learn not to compare your kids to other people's all the time, or you're going to have a very hard time keeping any mom friends. |