DD has few goals in life

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For many educated men, if she doesn't complete her college degree, she won't be the kind of woman they want to raise their children.

Most women these days don't get married and have kids right away. If she's young enough, taking time to make sure the marriage gets off on the right foot is a good idea. During that time, she can work to pay off her loans.

I think she is trying to meet someone at her church rather than her college. I wholeheartedly believe that she will rush into getting married as soon as she meets someone suitable due to her beliefs about waiting until marriage.

I’m trying to not be that overbearing parent, but I can see the path that she may be headed down. I don’t want her to regret her decisions in the future.

So you think she’s going to jump into a marriage with a guy she barely knows just so that she can have s*x?! Yeah, I’d be concerned about this church and these newfound religious beliefs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For many educated men, if she doesn't complete her college degree, she won't be the kind of woman they want to raise their children.

Most women these days don't get married and have kids right away. If she's young enough, taking time to make sure the marriage gets off on the right foot is a good idea. During that time, she can work to pay off her loans.

I think she is trying to meet someone at her church rather than her college. I wholeheartedly believe that she will rush into getting married as soon as she meets someone suitable due to her beliefs about waiting until marriage.

I’m trying to not be that overbearing parent, but I can see the path that she may be headed down. I don’t want her to regret her decisions in the future.

You are letting your hypothetical fears and other people's opinions affect your relationship with your daughter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is her major?

She’s double majoring in accounting and mathematics.

Now I'm sure this is a troll post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is her major?

She’s double majoring in accounting and mathematics.

Now I'm sure this is a troll post.

Why? I double majored in finance (which basically falls under the same umbrella) and math.

[Anonymous]

How on earth does your daughter have few goals? Have you ever had a real child, OP? She may be trying to figure a lot of things, out, but that is an entirely difficult problem. For you, a first world problem. Get out of her and don't come back unless you have a real problem or something real to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is her major?

She’s double majoring in accounting and mathematics.

Now I'm sure this is a troll post.

Why? I double majored in finance (which basically falls under the same umbrella) and math.

Did you decide to just get your MRS degree and never work?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is her major?

She’s double majoring in accounting and mathematics.

Now I'm sure this is a troll post.

Why? I double majored in finance (which basically falls under the same umbrella) and math.

Did you decide to just get your MRS degree and never work?

No, but I do know that there are women who go to college solely to get their MRS. degree. It’s usually the ones whose parents pressured them to go to school in the first place. That sounds like what OP did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is her major?

She’s double majoring in accounting and mathematics.

Now I'm sure this is a troll post.

Why? I double majored in finance (which basically falls under the same umbrella) and math.

Did you decide to just get your MRS degree and never work?

No, but I do know that there are women who go to college solely to get their MRS. degree. It’s usually the ones whose parents pressured them to go to school in the first place. That sounds like what OP did.

But they usually don’t double major in accounting and math.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is her major?

She’s double majoring in accounting and mathematics.

Now I'm sure this is a troll post.

Why? I double majored in finance (which basically falls under the same umbrella) and math.

Did you decide to just get your MRS degree and never work?

No, but I do know that there are women who go to college solely to get their MRS. degree. It’s usually the ones whose parents pressured them to go to school in the first place. That sounds like what OP did.

But they usually don’t double major in accounting and math.

Eh, we’ll have to agree to disagree. I’ve known way too many people that have done stupid things throughout my life to generalize. Nothing that anyone does surprises me.

[Anonymous]

There are multiple cultures and religions in which it’s common for the daughters to live at home with their parents (not even attend college and work like your daughter is doing) until they meet a man to marry. I’m not sure why you’re acting like this is the end of the world or some alien concept.

Given her clear enthusiasm for marriage, you should honestly just be glad that she has shown some restraint by not running off and eloping as soon as she turned 18. I’ve heard those stories, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What church is it? I would be concerned if it teaches that women are only valued if they are tradwives. If she is choosing this path for her own reasons, then help her figure out how to guarantee her financial security if she gets married without a career plan.

It’s a Baptist church.

Attend church with her a few times to get a sense of what it's like. I personally don't know any Baptists, but see if there are any women ministers, lay leaders, or congregants with careers outside the home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What church is it? I would be concerned if it teaches that women are only valued if they are tradwives. If she is choosing this path for her own reasons, then help her figure out how to guarantee her financial security if she gets married without a career plan.

It’s a Baptist church.

Attend church with her a few times to get a sense of what it's like. I personally don't know any Baptists, but see if there are any women ministers, lay leaders, or congregants with careers outside the home.

This is a good idea. If you belong to a church that features women in prominent roles, or that has many working women in the congregation, you might ask her to attend with you. It might help her to think about the different ways one can engage with their faith.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are multiple cultures and religions in which it’s common for the daughters to live at home with their parents (not even attend college and work like your daughter is doing) until they meet a man to marry. I’m not sure why you’re acting like this is the end of the world or some alien concept.

Given her clear enthusiasm for marriage, you should honestly just be glad that she has shown some restraint by not running off and eloping as soon as she turned 18. I’ve heard those stories, too.

Name a single 1st world country where this is the case?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are multiple cultures and religions in which it’s common for the daughters to live at home with their parents (not even attend college and work like your daughter is doing) until they meet a man to marry. I’m not sure why you’re acting like this is the end of the world or some alien concept.

Given her clear enthusiasm for marriage, you should honestly just be glad that she has shown some restraint by not running off and eloping as soon as she turned 18. I’ve heard those stories, too.

Name a single 1st world country where this is the case?

The United States of America. Maybe not the people that you’re around on a daily basis but there are plenty of families/women (of various backgrounds) here that do that. They just don’t typically advertise it on social media. I grew up in the Satmar community in New York, and this was common.

I’m sure that it also happens in England, Australia, Canada, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are multiple cultures and religions in which it’s common for the daughters to live at home with their parents (not even attend college and work like your daughter is doing) until they meet a man to marry. I’m not sure why you’re acting like this is the end of the world or some alien concept.

Given her clear enthusiasm for marriage, you should honestly just be glad that she has shown some restraint by not running off and eloping as soon as she turned 18. I’ve heard those stories, too.

Name a single 1st world country where this is the case?

The United States of America. Maybe not the people that you’re around on a daily basis but there are plenty of families/women (of various backgrounds) here that do that. They just don’t typically advertise it on social media. I grew up in the Satmar community in New York, and this was common.

I’m sure that it also happens in England, Australia, Canada, etc.

Give me a break...you are referencing a niche, random religious sect where it is common in those groups but not common at all in the country as a whole and not "plenty". It's safe to say that OP is not from those groups, nor is her daughter.

All that said, OP basically stated she almost would have preferred if her DD didn't attend college (and she could save the significant $$$s) if this was the route she was going to take.