Husband Wants Open Relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

It might not be your choice if he decides to leave.

Yeah but we have a prenup that whoever files for divorce is gets less of the assets. There’s no cheating clause in it, just basically it’s presumed that the person who files for divorce is the one who caused the divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

At some point you won't have a choice about divorcing. Get your ducks in a row and start looking for a good attorney. Make sure your kids' education will be funded so they can take care of themselves. A hypothetical inheritance isn't a reason to stay with this scumbag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

It might not be your choice if he decides to leave.

Yeah but we have a prenup that whoever files for divorce is gets less of the assets. There’s no cheating clause in it, just basically it’s presumed that the person who files for divorce is the one who caused the divorce.

So the money is worth more than your self-respect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

It might not be your choice if he decides to leave.

Yeah but we have a prenup that whoever files for divorce is gets less of the assets. There’s no cheating clause in it, just basically it’s presumed that the person who files for divorce is the one who caused the divorce.

Ok so stay married officially until he files but don’t sleep with him again. He’ll give you a disease.

I sure hope you’re talking multiple seven figures of inheritance.

[Anonymous]

So you married a man with money who’s now using his perceived power in the relationship. Looks like you made your bargain. He’s likely bringing up the “open relationship” as a CYA because one of his APs is planning to spill the beans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

It might not be your choice if he decides to leave.

Yeah but we have a prenup that whoever files for divorce is gets less of the assets. There’s no cheating clause in it, just basically it’s presumed that the person who files for divorce is the one who caused the divorce.

Can you tell him he can file and then he gets more assets if he creates an irrevocable family trust for your children and if your MSA requires next spouse to sign off their elective spousal share ?

[Anonymous]

I'd see a lawyer ASAP and start divorce proceedings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

It might not be your choice if he decides to leave.

Yeah but we have a prenup that whoever files for divorce is gets less of the assets. There’s no cheating clause in it, just basically it’s presumed that the person who files for divorce is the one who caused the divorce.

Get a lawyer to help you before you presume anything.

[Anonymous]

You will get no alimony if you agree to this. Tell him no and seek legal advice. I would also ask him to wear condoms.

[Anonymous]

I’m pretty sure my immediate reaction would be “WTF. Do we need to get you checked for a brain tumor? Or are you already cheating or just thinking about cheating? GTFO with this nonsense. Not in a million years am I staying in an open marriage and this request is making me reconsider whether you are the right partner.” That would be after I laughed at first assuming he was joking.

But really, I cannot even imagine staying together long term with a spouse who thought an open marriage was an option.

[Anonymous]

NO!!!!
this always ends badly.
he is selfish and trying to justify cheating

and honestly, privately contact a divorce lawyer to see what you need to think about and data you need to gather, if indeed he goes down this path.

[Anonymous]

No. Talk to a lawyer and your ob immediately. I’m so sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband recently dropped a bombshell on me and asked to have an open relationship. He is telling me that he still loves me he just wants to hook up with other people but is not interested in dating anyone else. I’m really not sure what to think of this or how to respond. Just for context, I am in my 30s and we have two kids. We have been married for almost 8 years. I was very surprised about this conversation and kind of in shock, so I told him I needed some time to think. What should I say to him and how would you respond if your husband asked for permission to sleep around?

Your husband is a POS. Full stop.

[Anonymous]

I'm a man, married 20 years and I can't even comprehend what would cause me to do this. Lawyer up.

[Anonymous]

I think this is a troll. First op sounded clear headed. Her follow ups sounds like a teenager.