Husband Wants Open Relationship

[Anonymous]

File for divorce.
I’m not joking. He’s already cheating and is trying to now have his cake and eat it too. He has no respect for you or your vows. Would you want to have sex with a walking STI factory?

[Anonymous]

Newsflash, OP.
Your husband is already cheating. Prepare accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband recently dropped a bombshell on me and asked to have an open relationship. He is telling me that he still loves me he just wants to hook up with other people but is not interested in dating anyone else. I’m really not sure what to think of this or how to respond. Just for context, I am in my 30s and we have two kids. We have been married for almost 8 years. I was very surprised about this conversation and kind of in shock, so I told him I needed some time to think. What should I say to him and how would you respond if your husband asked for permission to sleep around?

Divorce

[Anonymous]

The first thing you should be doing is running to your doctor to get tested. Your next stop should be a divorce lawyer’s office.

[Anonymous]

Is your marriage happy? Do you have a good sex life?

[Anonymous]

What is his explanation? Does he want to date other men?

[Anonymous]

The only friend I know who had this come up in their marriage: he had a sex addiction and was sleeping with sex workers almost daily.

I’d assume here he’s already been with other women.

Do you and he still have sex? If not, I’m assuming you’re the one not into it (two young kids) but if he can’t deal with that, then the correct answer is divorce, not open marriage. If you are still having sex, that’s probably even more of a red flag about who he is.

Also, 8 years of marriage, it seems really early for him to be getting this itch.

Regardless of the answers above, I would divorce because at only year 8 with this coming up, there’s a certainty that your marriage is only getting worse.

[Anonymous]

Well, there is the running joke about how men are always the first to open the relationship and the first to want to close it back up again. The dating pool for men in open relationships is shitty. Well-adjusted, attractive women are typically looking for single men for marriage; they're not looking to be part of some loser's harem while his wife is home with the baby. So, you could let him futz around just to be miserable before you divorce him.

But seriously, all jokes aside, absolutely not. Leave this man. What a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first thing you should be doing is running to your doctor to get tested. Your next stop should be a divorce lawyer’s office.

This!!

He’s already cheated. Do not sleep with him again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

How much money does your husband have?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

I suppose if you have a lot of money coming in via inheritance that’s a consideration for your situation. I get it. But then you’re sleeping with him and who knows what diseases he’s bringing into that bedroom.

My advice for a regular family with no real inheritance is to divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

It might not be your choice if he decides to leave.

[Anonymous]

Are you guys having sex a lot? Why would he want this?

[Anonymous]

People who want open relationships are losers. I've never met a couple in an open relationship (I've only met two) that was functional.

It's for degenerates and people who are broken in some way. It is NOT for parents, or at least not parents who don't want total maladjusteds for kids.