Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me

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Anonymous wrote:And this is why we don’t allow dating in high school. Waste of time and money.

Weird and draconian

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If the girlfriend is in her first relationship with your son, he’s teaching her to be materialistic. It’s not her fault he’s setting the tone.

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Anonymous wrote:Just reading the post from the mom complaining about the water bottle (assuming this was one of the new trendy ones that are $50+). Why do kids need to buy gifts at all for SO?

My dc is 17 and spending a lot on his gf. Dinners, gifts, sent her home in Ubers a few times. She seems to expect it. He doesn’t have a job right now so he’s using saved money. I find this materialism really unappealing in teens. Am I naive?

Older ds had a girlfriend in high school but they had cheap, free dates. Cooked at home, made each other sweet creative gifts. I wish my other dc was like this.

How does your DC get this money OP?
That's the question, it sounds like if they aren't working that they have way too much money on their hands and doesn't know how to save / budget like your older ds.

If you can't cut off the flow of money for some reason, start educating him about economic reality. The my money may (or may not) be a big plus in attracting this particular girlfriend and he may need to learn about that.

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Anonymous wrote:I think he should pay for her Uber and pay for dinners he can afford. That doesn’t mean that she can’t treat him to a dinner or lunch. She could say that she appreciates what he does but she wants to plan a night out and pay sometimes too.

Let him know he should keep gifts to special occasions or they lose their meaning.

My oldest daughter is in NYC and guys pay for Ubers. If they don’t it leaves a bad impression.

No your daughter should pay for her own ubers. WTH is wrong with you?

My daughters are not dating guys that get them UBERS that is absurd.

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OP your son is a fool.

Tell him to cut out this crap of paying for all that for his GF.

Who does this? Hard no.

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You sound jealous. Boy moms are so creepy.

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This is his savings, not yours. If he wants to spend it on his girlfriend’s gifts, shared experiences and Ubers to ensure she gets safely to and from their dates, that is his choice. If he was racking up debt or using it on excess weed or alcohol, then you step in.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And this is why we don’t allow dating in high school. Waste of time and money.

Weird and draconian

Much better to let their kids go wild in college without any dating experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dad can't tell him this but you can.

Tell him that if he's not getting sex he's wasting his money.

This!

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Anonymous wrote:It’s his money. Let it go.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm uncomfortable with the amount my son's girlfriend spends on him. She is from a much more well off family than we are (and we are UMC). He does nice things for her but in no way is it economically even.

No that’s fine if your child is the recipient. If your child is the fool who’s paying then it’s a problem lol

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad can't tell him this but you can.

Tell him that if he's not getting sex he's wasting his money.

He’s getting sex but that’s really not the issue. Gross to make it the issue

Then maybe it’s worth it. Is she a good influence overall?

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Anonymous wrote:And this is why we don’t allow dating in high school. Waste of time and money.

I have a feeling no one wants to date your kids anyway. Are they strivers?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And this is why we don’t allow dating in high school. Waste of time and money.

Weird and draconian

Much better to let their kids go wild in college without any dating experience.

My DS never dated in HS. He's a junior in college and still isn't dating. Neither are most of his friends. But he earns his own money so who am I to tell him how to spend it. When he drains his bank account, he will learn that high maintenance girls probably aren't worth it. You could tell him that but most boys need to learn for themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And this is why we don’t allow dating in high school. Waste of time and money.

Weird and draconian

Much better to let their kids go wild in college without any dating experience.

My DS never dated in HS. He's a junior in college and still isn't dating. Neither are most of his friends. But he earns his own money so who am I to tell him how to spend it. When he drains his bank account, he will learn that high maintenance girls probably aren't worth it. You could tell him that but most boys need to learn for themselves.

Exactly, boys and girls need to learn how to manage their money and other resources. College is the perfect training ground for that.