2 feds divorcing in MoCo with young kids

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Anonymous wrote:Downtiwn Rockville. Two apartments for 350K each. Walkable to schools, library, stores etc.

lol. $350k? Not going to happen

Couldn't find one in downtown, but there are apartments on hungerford drive for this price.

Not if you need 3brs.

Why 3 brs? How many children? Are they opposite sex?

More than one. Look at the size of the bedrooms. You're not fitting multiple kids in there.

If the children are same sex, yes you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't buy a condo. Renting is better. It sounds like you might still be under 40, maybe even 35, so you might be able to find a new partner quickly if you set your expectations accordingly.

Come on now. OP needs to focus their attention on their children and find an eff buddy, not a serious relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:I keep looking at the numbers and have no idea how either of us can afford to live as single people with kids on a fed salary. Am I right that maintaining two households in MoCo and affording daily life is completely out of reach on federal salaries? Has anyone been through this that can share?

There is no perfect marriage and the grass always seems green see on the other side. But it’s not. Try to redefine for yourselves what “happiness” means and what it means for the kids. Don’t be selfish.

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Is there Abuse? Addiction? Adultery?

If not, work on the marriage.

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Did you see what OP said - not up to her. She can’t control what het spouse does.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't buy a condo. Renting is better. It sounds like you might still be under 40, maybe even 35, so you might be able to find a new partner quickly if you set your expectations accordingly.

Come on now. OP needs to focus their attention on their children and find an eff buddy, not a serious relationship.

No, she needs a sugar daddy. Or at least a roommate with benefits.

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Two fed incomes could be low or high. Change your lifestyle.

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Many do. You will have to adjust, cut back or move.

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You may need to rent for a while. I would start looking. If your kids are same sex, you can get a bunk bed and they can share a room (college dorm rooms are tiny and sometimes squeeze four kids in there!).

PPs, this seems to be out of OP’s control so no need to pile on.

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Anonymous wrote:Two fed incomes could be low or high. Change your lifestyle.

+1 you won’t be able to live in SFH in Bethesda but there are other places that you can afford.

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You will need to move to a more affordable location. Don’t open up your marriage, it will just cause further issues.

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2 Feds is already a low salary in this area. My friend is a fed married to another fed and they act like they are LMC. They have a house is a not great school district. It isn’t a bad school district, just not a good one.

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I wouldn’t want to raise my kids in an apartment or condo. When it’s a baby, fine, once they get to elementary school no way.

House or townhouse only.

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So weird to me that people think living together in open marriage is ‘better’ for anyone

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Anonymous wrote:So weird to me that people think living together in open marriage is ‘better’ for anyone

Why? If they get along it could be a great solution.