Getting married out of college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The median age for marriage is the highest on record. 29.2 for men and 28.4 for women.

Marriage rates among the wealthy and educated are higher than for the MC and LMC.

Until the median age starts decreasing it’s just some anecdotes.

Fake trend, yet the thread lives on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess if you’re from a rich family, it doesn’t matter if you get married and have kids at a young age. Everyone else has student loans to pay, trying to save to buy a house, etc. That takes a long time.

I wouldn’t want my kid to get married that young. Your 20s are for traveling, trying out jobs, etc.

You don’t need to buy a house or pay off loans before you get married. And if you need to be doing all that before you get married then you shouldn’t be throwing your money away “traveling” either. Also, there’s no law that says you can’t travel with your spouse either.

What a bizarre take.

Seriously, what a moronic comment. You can try out jobs with a spouse! It's even easier because you have the support of another person's income to help if things don't work out. That's something I did for my wife when her first career didn't work (we married at 23). Now she's happier and makes more than I do. Don't underestimate the value of having the support side of your life settled earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think these kids just don’t know what to do with themselves if they don’t have something to post on Instagram. It’s all for the likes.

You sound like your grandfather.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think these kids just don’t know what to do with themselves if they don’t have something to post on Instagram. It’s all for the likes.

You sound like your grandfather.

He’s not wrong either.

[Anonymous]

There’s more to it than just finances (although that plays a big role). There could be situations where the people’s school/career situations don’t allow them to live closer to one another or in the same city until they’re a little older. I’ve also known some couples who married young, focused on things like career/travel and didn’t have kids until a decade or so into their marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s more to it than just finances (although that plays a big role). There could be situations where the people’s school/career situations don’t allow them to live closer to one another or in the same city until they’re a little older. I’ve also known some couples who married young, focused on things like career/travel and didn’t have kids until a decade or so into their marriage.

That was my parents in the 70s. They married in college but didn't start having kids until my Dad was done with med school and my mom finished her master's and she was settled in her job, almost a decade after they married.

[Anonymous]

It's just so ironic that so many posters on DCUM are so damned miserable with the way things turned out for them, yet here they are arguing that their way is the best way anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this happening at an accelerated rate these days? I've been to two weddings of 2025 college grads this summer and all the kids are 21/22. They're headed off to medical school and law school and are the kids of professional parents who married in their early 30s.
My teens say early marriage is all over instagram as well.

Sample size bias or is this a trend?

My niece is 25 and just got engaged. I know she's a little older than the young adults you're talking about but she tells me that she knows many people her age who are getting married and that it's hard to find a meaningful relationship when situationships, ghosting, etc. are the norm. So as much as this generation is known for all those things, they despise it and really crave stable and loving relationships. I saw somewhere that even online dating is down. Also, for financial reasons, some think combining resources as a young couple make sense since everything is so unaffordable these days. I think it's a definite shift from the millennial and Gen X generations for sure. In my generation, most of my friends got married in our 30s and only if we felt like we had climbed enough in our careers to start a family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess if you’re from a rich family, it doesn’t matter if you get married and have kids at a young age. Everyone else has student loans to pay, trying to save to buy a house, etc. That takes a long time.

I wouldn’t want my kid to get married that young. Your 20s are for traveling, trying out jobs, etc.

You don’t need to buy a house or pay off loans before you get married. And if you need to be doing all that before you get married then you shouldn’t be throwing your money away “traveling” either. Also, there’s no law that says you can’t travel with your spouse either.

What a bizarre take.

Bizarre? Nope. Only weirdos went to get married that young. The only people I know who were married that young did it because the girl was pregnant.

[Anonymous]

I we plant want to burden a 23 yr old with my student debt. I’m sure they’ll have their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this happening at an accelerated rate these days? I've been to two weddings of 2025 college grads this summer and all the kids are 21/22. They're headed off to medical school and law school and are the kids of professional parents who married in their early 30s.
My teens say early marriage is all over instagram as well.

Sample size bias or is this a trend?

My niece is 25 and just got engaged. I know she's a little older than the young adults you're talking about but she tells me that she knows many people her age who are getting married and that it's hard to find a meaningful relationship when situationships, ghosting, etc. are the norm. So as much as this generation is known for all those things, they despise it and really crave stable and loving relationships. I saw somewhere that even online dating is down. Also, for financial reasons, some think combining resources as a young couple make sense since everything is so unaffordable these days. I think it's a definite shift from the millennial and Gen X generations for sure. In my generation, most of my friends got married in our 30s and only if we felt like we had climbed enough in our careers to start a family.

A 25 year old is way more mature than a 21 year old…plus she isn’t marrying until 26+ which isn’t that unusual (and was actually less unusual for GenX).

My GenX cohort all married between 26 to 28.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess if you’re from a rich family, it doesn’t matter if you get married and have kids at a young age. Everyone else has student loans to pay, trying to save to buy a house, etc. That takes a long time.

I wouldn’t want my kid to get married that young. Your 20s are for traveling, trying out jobs, etc.

You don’t need to buy a house or pay off loans before you get married. And if you need to be doing all that before you get married then you shouldn’t be throwing your money away “traveling” either. Also, there’s no law that says you can’t travel with your spouse either.

What a bizarre take.

Bizarre? Nope. Only weirdos went to get married that young. The only people I know who were married that young did it because the girl was pregnant.

You couldn't be more wrong. Some of the people I know who married young (in their 20s) to their high school or college sweethearts are still married and seem happier than some of us who got married later in life. And no, they didn't get married because they got pregnant. They just chose to grow up and build a life together.

[Anonymous]

Look at some real data, marriage rates continue to decline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess if you’re from a rich family, it doesn’t matter if you get married and have kids at a young age. Everyone else has student loans to pay, trying to save to buy a house, etc. That takes a long time.

I wouldn’t want my kid to get married that young. Your 20s are for traveling, trying out jobs, etc.

You don’t need to buy a house or pay off loans before you get married. And if you need to be doing all that before you get married then you shouldn’t be throwing your money away “traveling” either. Also, there’s no law that says you can’t travel with your spouse either.

What a bizarre take.

Bizarre? Nope. Only weirdos went to get married that young. The only people I know who were married that young did it because the girl was pregnant.

My great aunt refused to give my parents a wedding present because she thought my mom must have been pregnant when they got married in college.

My great aunt was not someone you want to take after, trust me.

[Anonymous]

How is everyone forgetting this from their own life? I'm laughing at how people are amnesia.

There's ALWAYS a bunch of weddings just after graduation. Then there's another rush a few years later when people are 25-28.