Getting married out of college?

[Anonymous]

The only ones I’m seeing getting married right after college are the super religious ones who are saving themselves for marriage and don’t want to wait longer.

[Anonymous]

I married right out of college to escape my parents.

[Anonymous]

It is very common and aspirational now, especially for the more religious types. Our son just graduated from an elite school and is not in a relationship, but he just attended a friend’s wedding and three of his closest college buddies all have serious relationships. It’s a thing.

[Anonymous]

This has been a trend for a little bit. Rich kids at top schools.

Maybe there is a divorce. Maybe not. They likely will be rich too and the divorce rate is less than 25 percent for high income folks.

[Anonymous]

I have a nephew who recently married right out of college and all of the long-married people pretended to be happy for them, but you could sense an undercurrent of worry and sadness.

[Anonymous]

It’s not something that a typical DCUM poster would do so naturally it’s highly disapproved of. The preferred course is to wait a decade or more after college to get married, obsess over career, money and status, then struggle to find a mate and conceive in your mid to late 30s and THEN divorce and be miserable single moms to young kids in your 40s. That’s the way to do it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not something that a typical DCUM poster would do so naturally it’s highly disapproved of. The preferred course is to wait a decade or more after college to get married, obsess over career, money and status, then struggle to find a mate and conceive in your mid to late 30s and THEN divorce and be miserable single moms to young kids in your 40s. That’s the way to do it!

+1

God forbid people start their families a little earlier.

[Anonymous]

The median age for marriage is the highest on record. 29.2 for men and 28.4 for women.

Marriage rates among the wealthy and educated are higher than for the MC and LMC.

Until the median age starts decreasing it’s just some anecdotes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The median age for marriage is the highest on record. 29.2 for men and 28.4 for women.

Marriage rates among the wealthy and educated are higher than for the MC and LMC.

Until the median age starts decreasing it’s just some anecdotes.

PSA: this is not necessarily a positive trend

[Anonymous]

I guess if you’re from a rich family, it doesn’t matter if you get married and have kids at a young age. Everyone else has student loans to pay, trying to save to buy a house, etc. That takes a long time.

I wouldn’t want my kid to get married that young. Your 20s are for traveling, trying out jobs, etc.

[Anonymous]

Many kids graduating from elite colleges don’t have the kind of financial considerations most people now have (student loans, having to save for a down payment, having to cover every life expense, car payments) and that may make it easier for them to marry younger.

[Anonymous]

I'm a mid millennial (mid 30s) and knew a few people who got married during our senior year or just after (my spouse and I got married two years after college). For reference I went to a top rated university and not a religious school. I'd guess marriage during and just after school is more common at religious schools.

Data shows first marriage ages are still rising, the median age of marriage for a woman now is about 2 years older than when I got married.

https://www.statista.com/statistics/371933/median-age-of-us-americans-at-their-first-wedding/

[Anonymous]

I think these kids just don’t know what to do with themselves if they don’t have something to post on Instagram. It’s all for the likes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess if you’re from a rich family, it doesn’t matter if you get married and have kids at a young age. Everyone else has student loans to pay, trying to save to buy a house, etc. That takes a long time.

I wouldn’t want my kid to get married that young. Your 20s are for traveling, trying out jobs, etc.

You don’t need to buy a house or pay off loans before you get married. And if you need to be doing all that before you get married then you shouldn’t be throwing your money away “traveling” either. Also, there’s no law that says you can’t travel with your spouse either.

What a bizarre take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married right out of college to escape my parents.

I had two different college roommates who did this. Both are now divorced. I married my college sweetheart at few years later and we're still married.

Getting married immediately after graduation is weird. Getting married a year or two or three after college graduation is normal.